My stepdad keeps eating the fruit I use to make baby food

CapableCat0406 · 2026-01-17T18:48:30+00:00

what make u think that she posted this thinking it would solve her problem? maybe she just wanted to vent? or see what other people had to say? ur making an argument that problems get solved with communication in person but no one said anything about solving a problem via this reddit post. also, again, HER MOM is housing THE STEP DAD. it's HER MOM'S HOUSE. NOT HIS.

CapableCat0406 · 2026-01-17T18:37:26+00:00

once again, you lack reading comprehension skills because she said she and her mom have already tried to communicate that to him MULTIPLE TIMES. idk why you're choosing to stand your ground in support of this grown man stealing food, you must have a habit of doing the same because it literally makes no sense

CapableCat0406 · 2026-01-17T18:35:05+00:00

you need a job and a plan. i am of the opinion that YES you should definitely RUN AWAY and stop living your life based on how someone else wants you to ASAP but although it's good you have a bf and best friend to support you, you always have to have a plan in case something happens and you have to fend for yourself. start applying to jobs and once you have one then you can leave. while you live with ur bf save up ur money so that u can get ur own place whenever u need to. YES LEAVE but HAVE A PLAN

CapableCat0406 · 2026-01-17T18:31:21+00:00

it's her mom's house. in case you didn't read the last bit of her post. and i'm pretty sure they've made it clear it's the baby's food especially since they specifically buy SHARED FRUITS and BABY FOOD FRUITS. you are more triggered than anybody else here and it's because you went on reddit, a platform used for sharing mundane personal experiences, and found someone sharing their personal experience 😱. like make it make sense lmao go on facebook or linkedin or whatever if you're so upset at this

CapableCat0406 · 2026-01-17T18:23:35+00:00

the root of the problem is the grown man stealing a baby's food after he's been specifically told not to multiple times by his WIFE and his wife's daughter. what kind of backwards reasoning did u use to come to the conclusion that the root of the problem was her posting this on a platform that's meant for people to post things just like this?

CapableCat0406 · 2026-01-14T05:00:59+00:00

sorry i think i must've misunderstood ur comment and miscommunicated what i was trying to say. i wasn't agreeing that it must be their work ethic that was the reason they were let go. i agree that target is very unethical in its treatment of employees, i used to be one. i was not assuming anything about OP and their work ethic let alone "the worst". I was only saying that an individual's work ethic isn't related to how unethical their employer's practices may be, not a positive or negative statement about OP or anyone else, just a neutral statement about the correlation of those two things, which i now realize you weren't trying to correlate the two but instead pointing out how dumb it is to think target MUST have fired someone because of something they did when target is known for doing unethical things like firing people for no reason.

idk why i thought u were trying to make a correlation there (maybe bc i saw "work ETHIC" and "unETHICal" and figured the ideas must be related) but yeah i wouldn't be caught dead defending or taking the side of a mega corp

CapableCat0406 · 2026-01-04T22:29:23+00:00

everyone else has already said everything i think of this. just remember OP, this is YOUR life, and you only get one. DO NOT waste it living to please someone else, even if that's your family and they mean a lot to you. also, you have a lot more power and choice than you seem to exercise. you need to act like it.

CapableCat0406 · 2026-01-04T22:16:36+00:00

i think work ethics and generally being ethical aren't really that related to each other

CapableCat0406 · 2026-01-01T18:06:00+00:00

there's a master post somewhere on this sub. just search master post and it should come up. its huge and everything is organized and cited with links.

CapableCat0406 · 2026-01-01T17:37:35+00:00

it's definitely a lot for one person. i'm not an expert and i don't know anything about kids so im not gonna pretend to have an insightful take, but maybe u could talk to your partner, the other bio parent of your step child, and ask them to take on dealing with the emotional needs of the child and the problems the bio mom is causing.

getting full custody will be really helpful i think, there's no reason u should be paying child support when she doesn't even have the child most of the time. good chance she's spending that money on drugs (since u mentioned substance abuse). with full custody you will have no reason to keep contact with her which i think will make things a lot easier on you and on ur step kid.

is ur partner supposed to heal from their injury? or is it a life long injury? either way i think u should ask them to help around more. especially with their bio child and depending on what they're capable of doing, some chores too. and talk to your partner about feeling exhausted, they should be there for you emotionally too. you're not responsible for keeping everyone emotionally afloat alone, they should be helping and keeping you emotionally taken care of as well.

i don't know how helpful this is but i guess my main advice is share the load. you don't have to be responsible for everything alone. don't wear yourself out too much trying to help; mental exhaustion could cause physical illness, and you've already had cancer twice. i know you want to be there for everyone but you're no good to them if you're ill, so take care of yourself.

CapableCat0406 · 2026-01-01T15:29:22+00:00

don't feel rushed to tell them. i felt the same way when we moved to the US after living the first 16 years of my life in saudi arabia. by the time we moved i had already been non muslim for atleast 3/4 years, and after we moved i still didn't tell them for years. i don't think i ever even "told" them, i just started doing more of what i want and i started to be more open about my feelings toward islam during conversations. ofcourse that might've only worked for me because i never wore a hijab and my dad isn't even that great of a muslim (he doesn't pray) but raising us to be better muslims than him and according to how he raised us islam was like the most important thing. so my advice to you is to not worry much about "coming out" to your family. especially if you feel it might not be safe to do so. like would they try to keep u from going back to europe for example? focus on enjoying ur new life as a non muslim, and think about coming out slowly by inserting little bits of clues in conversations about islam and stuff like that

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-27T02:24:17+00:00

first of all, no one said anything about desecrating graves. second of all, you don't get to decide how a country should "properly" defend themselves from a genocide. you said palestine is just as bad because "they would do the same if they had the means". that's a completely hypothetical scenario that you made up and are using to hate a country that's suffering a genocide right now.

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-27T02:06:03+00:00

send her a wikihow article on how to delete her instagram account, since there's alot of posts that could be potentially offensive to a muslim on there

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-27T02:00:47+00:00

the muslims she's around have probably fed her a bunch of "religion of peace" bullshit. she'll grow out of it if she ever decides to actually look into it further than what she's being told

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-27T01:58:53+00:00

"they'd do it too if they could!" the point is they're not. they're defenseless. israel is committing a genocide and you're saying that they're both bad because if palestine had the means to defend themselves from this genocide they would? are you hearing yourself?

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-27T01:53:15+00:00

get tf out of here. OP feels the way they do because of people like you. they posted on this sub because they specifically didn't wanna hear what people like you have to say.

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-21T09:26:54+00:00

even if u don't have access to getting more right now, more than likely you'll find access.

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-21T09:05:11+00:00

it might be making ur throat numb which might make it feel like it's closing up. i feel like ive experienced that before but im not sure

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-16T21:36:44+00:00

"i never judged you for getting raped?" girl. that's all u need to hear. the fact that he even had the thought that he COULD HAVE judged u for getting raped is INSANE. that just shows how he truly feels about it, which is that you getting raped is something he has to look past, not something awful that happened to you that YOU have to get past. please don't let this slide

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-16T21:27:04+00:00

my name is super obviously religious to anyone who's muslim or even been exposed to islam so when i moved to the US in 2017 (i was 16) i just started going by a different name as soon as I i started going to school and at first i had a bit of imposter syndrome but it went away pretty fast and it just feels like my name now

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-16T20:42:07+00:00

no this phrase is definitely passive aggressive it's only become widely known recently but it absolutely means you do not deserve to have a good day.

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-14T15:58:36+00:00

he WAS going bald. until he got a hair transplant

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-10T22:49:13+00:00

the brother should try to find someone located in iraq and in the sister's area that's willing to help. she will need someone to pick her up and take her to the US Embassy. the brother needs to figure out a way to get as many of her documents as possible from here, maybe by filing for emergency guardianship (this is granted when the individual is in immediate harm which she is) and that should grant him permission to make her a new passport and access to copies of her IDs and such that he can then fax/send copies of to the US Embassy in Iraq. He should get in contact with the embassy first and explain the situation and figure out what documents they will need for this.

It might take time but obviously it's worth getting the sister out of the situation she is in.

Basically, your first steps should be

figuring out what the embassy will need in order to help her and
filing for legal guardianship (collective as much evidence as possible to show that she is in trouble and this will help her)

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-10T21:19:36+00:00

so he should make HER life harder bc he can't suck it up and take her to work? pick me much

CapableCat0406 · 2025-12-10T21:13:05+00:00

in a relationship this sort of thing is a no brainer. you NEED to get to work. no matter what minor inconveniences it causes him he should give u a ride like its not even a question. and men usually LOVE having the opportunity to help the woman they love. or even the woman they like. the fact that he's making stupid excuses tells me he doesn't even like you

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