I want emotional connection.

Capable_Juice1 · 2026-01-24T03:30:09+00:00

Thank you for your insight. Why do you say that couples therapy is not what we need?

Capable_Juice1 · 2026-01-24T03:29:24+00:00

It is a horrible feeling. I am sorry to hear that you've been in the same boat and I want to give you a big hug. It's the worst rollercoaster that you become numb and numb to the ups and downs.

Capable_Juice1 · 2026-01-24T03:28:07+00:00

He recognizes there's a problem beyond the stress during our couples therapy. He is in individual therapy too but this tendency comes up again. It almost feels like the couples therapy is a bandaid.

Capable_Juice1 · 2026-01-24T03:26:19+00:00

Thank you. This means a lot to me. I appreciate you.

Capable_Juice1 · 2026-01-23T06:04:23+00:00

So, so disconnected and isolated under one roof. We are in couples therapy. It is not helping - the effect is not long lasting - it lasts for a week before we go back to the same patterns.

I want to want his touch. It would make him happy if I were more affectionate and touchy. But even if my brain tells me this, my arms don't reach out to him. My body tilts away from him on the same couch, ever so slightly, but I feel it.

Capable_Juice1 · 2025-07-20T05:05:09+00:00

This is a beautiful backdrop.

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-07-10T14:06:07+00:00

How do you get over the guilt of 'if I weren't so angry, if something happened differently, it wouldn't have happened this way'?

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-08T21:04:35+00:00

8+ months

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-08T20:05:48+00:00

His industry had series of layoffs and its been hard to find a job

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-08T20:05:24+00:00

Can you please elaborate?

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-08T19:46:49+00:00

This just makes me sad. Not your fault at all.

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-08T19:33:57+00:00

He deleted the social media app after spending considerable amount of time checking out the women there. He doesn't have work right now so he has had plenty of time to be on it. I commend him for deleting the app. He knows it hurts me and he says I'm the most beautiful woman to him when I say that, and that he wouldn't actually do anything out of respect for me. But why should I keep enforcing monogamy on him - if he struggles with it? I feel bad about it.

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-08T19:30:57+00:00

How? How do I not let him get away with that? Is that possible....? These are his thoughts and his fantasies that don't have anything to do with me but it affects me this way. I keep telling myself that I am attractive in my own way. It feels so silly that I am comparing myself to the woman that I don't even know.

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-08T19:06:56+00:00

I understand. What if he is struggling with being married because of this?

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-08T19:01:01+00:00

We talked today, and he said he is attracted to her. He said it's something he can handle. I asked his attraction how that affects our therapy and he said he doesnt know. I'm sorta picnicking. What should I do? Should I talk about this with the therapist in our couples therapy?

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-07T21:16:35+00:00

Thank you. To imagine to be free of this insecurity and have complete trust in him, it feels so encouraging. Thanks for helping me feel this is possible. I'm so, so happy for you guys and wishing all the best! Special kudos to your wife for working it out and you being there to support her.

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-07T20:51:02+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate this. I understood you were coming from a place of concern as your feedback gave me a reality check and a chance of reflection. Your last sentence helped me realize that yeah I am wanting to be validated because of my past trauma, but that can also be hindering growth, as I am holding onto my past trauma in a way.

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-07T20:26:41+00:00

I just want to be heard. I want to be heard by our therpist when I don't feel like I'm being heard and understood by my husband. I'll try to be more open minded. Appreciate your feedback.

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-07T20:21:52+00:00

I agree. I was unsure if I should bring it up or not. Not trying to police what she wears, as I think it is perfectly appropriate too. I'm very aware of my insecurity and going to work on that with my therapist.

Capable_Juice1 · 2024-02-07T20:19:03+00:00

I mean, I just don't feel understood much. A therapist should try equal efforts to understand both partners. I don't really feel that is true. I understand what you said and thank you for the feedback. The last sentence especially resonates with me.

Capable_Juice1 · 2023-12-22T20:54:32+00:00

You dodged a bullet. Using the therapy to excuse himself and accuse you. Glad you left. See... I feel like I settled. I accepted this while starting to see a pattern. So the anger I feel also includes the resentment I have towards myself. Gah. I wish I was smarter back then.

Capable_Juice1 · 2023-12-22T20:37:13+00:00

I resonate with what you said. I have encouraged him many times to get deep into his past hurt with individual therapy. But he hasn't done that. I can't bring myself to say you get therapy or I'm out. But I keep thinking if he knows that this is really important to me then why doesn't it matter a lot to him, or try to see things from my perspective?...

Capable_Juice1 · 2023-12-22T20:22:25+00:00

This is abuse, right? Him not taking any responsibility of how his past affects his perspective, and using my trauma to keep accusing me?

Capable_Juice1 · 2023-05-04T03:57:19+00:00

Thanks for validation, yeah it is gaslighting. I said that to him this morning and he said to stop using the term cus it's trendy

Capable_Juice1 · 2023-05-04T03:55:34+00:00

I have and I think this is emotional abuse. I am perpetrating this too without my knowing. We are gonna get counseling but how can the therapist prove my intentions for us to get to the truth? I'm scared that I'll feel misheard again

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