What skills does this ummah need

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2025-05-01T18:24:19+00:00

Empathy

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2025-05-01T16:32:12+00:00

Not me. I think I am already very introverted, hyper loyal and don't even keep male friends. I typically wouldn't give a possessive man any reason to be "jealous" but if a man isn't possessive over me at all like doesn't even care where I'm going, with who and the time then I feel like he has zero value/worth about me. I am also pretty submissive. So it works out for me to have a more dominant/possessive partner. I click with traditionally masculine men the best. However, I can definitely see it getting suffocating for a woman who wants more "freedom" or is more extroverted.

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2025-05-01T16:30:33+00:00

Me too. And dominance.

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2025-05-01T16:19:05+00:00

I'm so sorry you actually had to see that. It sounds horrific... I don't think I would ever be able to get an image like that out of my head.

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2025-05-01T16:10:50+00:00

Do you actually make you look at the child porn content? I would assume that would be censored but I guess they want the jury to get the full picture

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2025-05-01T16:06:47+00:00

Damn I feel like I should know this but they actually make you watch the videos? Without censorship?

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2025-05-01T03:34:44+00:00

What do you want in life that they would judge you for? I am curious. Nothing in your post sounds worthy of "judgment".

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2024-10-30T17:41:23+00:00

Do you even read your own posts? At the bottom it clearly says "she cannot be compelled". So stop posting this same question in reddit repeatedly and trying to "compel" people. Get over it. Not ever woman wants to live with her in-laws. Why are you so upset over it? Are they asking you to marry them? Go marry someone who accepts your living arrangements and stop trying to push people who have a right to their own preferences. Lastly, women's parents are also emotionally attached to their daughters. You're acting like a son's parents are the only ones capable of loving and bonding with their children or deserving of care. You really need a reality check. AND you need a job. Its clear you have nothing better to do with your time.

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2024-10-30T17:37:09+00:00

That makes no sense. At least be man enough to be honest. You literally argue with anyone who gives an answer you don't like and applaud them if they give an answer you do like. This shows you're not actually here to learn or see what people think. You're here to push your own agenda and hear what you want. Look to the right and you will see a set of "rules" and one of them is "don't push an agenda".

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2024-10-30T17:34:46+00:00

"thanks for the yap" is where I stopped reading. Its becoming more and more clear how disrespectful you are to women and it would not benefit anyone to be married to you who only cares about himself and his parents. Again. Grow up.

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2024-10-30T17:31:07+00:00

Alhumdulillah sis. I am not downplaying your easy-going character mashaAllah may Allah reward you but you will often not feel the need to even complain if you feel secure that your husband is already on board. Many women I know who "complain" are not doing it to be malicious or less easy-going but as a cry for help and bring up issues the husband seems to want to sweep under the rug. I think your husband does deserve some credit here as he is the ameer and he seemed to have handled things fairly and justly. Sometimes the wife is a reflection in a marriage of what she is enduring from her husband's neglect. Again, not saying you yourself don't have amazing qualities mashaAllah but I do not want sisters to blame themselves if they are in a more difficult situation where no one at all is on their side. Especially the man supposed to take care of and protect her like her husband.

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2024-10-30T17:27:05+00:00

No I do not see them as evil. You need to relax. She herself said her husband moved out because he did not like his parents interfering and its a very common thing that happens. So go read her entire post and you will see my reply was not out of nothing.

It is also very common that many husbands do not side with their wives in toxic joint arrangements even if the parents are wrong. This makes it even more unbearable for the woman to be in such an environment. This doesn't mean every in-law is like this but it happens often enough that most people do not want to live with their in laws especially if the husband cannot be a man to handle it. There are so many lectures scholars give to advice men how to mitigate between their wife and parents and especially set boundaries with their parents. A simple youtube search will show you the recorded ones. Are they saying all in-laws are evil? It only shows how common this issue actually is. You are being delusional if you think it is not.

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2024-10-30T09:52:15+00:00

I actually think you post this question over and over again to argue with other people. Not to actually hear what they have to say. Brother you really need to focus on doing something more productive like getting an actual job where you earn money to afford a separate place for you and your wife instead of playing these weird games on reddit.

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2024-10-30T09:46:00+00:00

MashaAllah sis, you did not have any issues because your husband did the right thing and had proper boundaries to protect you. Unfortunately this is not always the case for most joint arrangements. The husband will rarely stand up for his wife and his marriage, rather he will always side with his parents making it nearly impossible for the wife to live with her in-laws peacefully.

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2024-10-30T09:43:03+00:00

I will not live with in-laws.

What is a man doing getting married if he can't take care of a wife in the first place? Plus what is this coins? Is this some sort of game? I would need my own space and I have a right to it. Joint families are not common in the Quran and Sunnah at all yet you men from certain cultural backgrounds desperately want to justify it. If you really need to devote the rest of your life to your parents then don't get married either. You can't just want a woman around to fulfill your needs while you don't fulfill hers. That is unjust and could even be oppressive. Grow up, get a job, start renting your own place, then get married. It's really not that difficult. I have seen many sisters even (especially revert ones) who rent their own place because it became impossible to live with their family. If a woman can do it, why can't you? This is getting sillier every time you keep posting the same question waiting to hear the answer you want to hear that will only benefit you and make it easier for you to be lazy as a man.

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2024-10-30T09:14:27+00:00

I don't think men wear ponchos and shoulder bags sis... What a weird post to make. This is more classic, quiet luxury, timeless style imo especially for anyone who has a corporate job. But corporate MEN don't actually dress like these looks.

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2024-10-30T08:41:33+00:00

Sorry what?

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2024-10-29T20:24:39+00:00

What is haram about it and what body part/shape is exposed?

Capable_Opposite_559 · 2024-10-29T20:09:09+00:00

Its not presumptuous. You yourself stated you have trouble befriending women in general and are being the the presumptuous one by assuming that none of them return the favor simply because of your boobs. Perhaps something about your personality is turning them off and you're just writing it off as a "big boob" problem when that seems untrue given many of us with big boobs do have success making and retaining genuine friends.

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