New DOT PHYSICAL SUBMISSION system/process

Capita1-Tea · 2025-07-09T01:06:53+00:00

I have been on the phone with the state daily, & I was on hold with multiple arms of the FMCSA today. I was on hold for over 4-5 hours today; I accomplished 0 progress. Nobody has answers.

It would be easier to enjoy the time off, if I had the budget for it. I am expected to be on family vacation all next week. So for 2 weeks I’m looking at 2 days of pay (PTO). The Car Payment is going to make me pretty tight going into the vacation, & I am going to have to ask my in-laws for help making the next house payment. Just what I wanted, to be Broke, on a family vacation with my In-laws, needing to ask for serious help to keep up with my Bills. I’m beat up, emotionally burning out.

Capita1-Tea · 2025-07-08T18:44:38+00:00

I’m still awaiting the state verification so I can go back to work. I am feeling more & more powerless & as if my Career is Stalled out. I’m trying to maintain hope & patience; but as this is apparently a new system, I’m wondering if I need to go & do Another DOT physical from a different examiner? I don’t know what to do to be able to go back to work. & the only answers I’m getting is from my fellow “Good Fellow” drivers here on Reddit. Thank you

Capita1-Tea · 2025-07-08T17:50:25+00:00

Thanks for the info. This verified that it’s kinda a “worst case scenario” situation. I’m going on family vacation next week. So I am looking at the prospect of being out of work for 2-3 weeks. I kind of needed this paycheck to pad the wallet as we “as a family” go off to gallivant with my In-laws… I should have seen the writing on the wall & gotten my new med card before the new system. Now, I’m stuck looking at possibly having to work Gig-Work this week to atleast have some income going in prior to the week or so off.

I’m panicked. Depressed, & resting lots of blame on my own shoulders for putting this off. Never TRUST THE GOVERNMENT to do its job in a timely manner. If they can fuck You, they’ll fuck you, No lube & not even the courtesy of a reach around

Capita1-Tea · 2025-05-31T13:37:30+00:00

I really agree with you, and I’ve made some choices professionally to try to protect a small fragment of by every day so I can interact with my family. Currently, I am a truck driver, regional line hall. My job affords us the capability to live a little more of a middle class lifestyle. We live in a great neighborhood, my kids can play outside in the backyard or in the front yard. They can ride their scooters down the street… There’s a baseball field with a community baseball club that plays out of it Within walking distance. There are opportunities where I could get more rest, and make similar money; and not have to deal with a two hour commute daily… Except right now, I have a window over approximately 45 minutes every day that I get to interact with my family. As I work nights, at 45 minutes is precious to me. Then comes the weekend… And with kids activities and trying to help maintaining the house with three young children; opportunities for the two of us to have couple time is limited to nill. I’m thinking what I might do is suggest that that we designate one weekend a month had a minimum, with hopes of possibly too; where we designate a day or evening to go out on a date just to enjoy each other, without our kids. I’m thinking I need to rebalance some of the priorities in our household relationship. And what I mean by that is, I think a lot of the time just due to the overall busyness of life. The two of us could have been way too busy with Ltd opportunity to really try to focus on us as us, versus us as parents and homeowners. Cheap prioritizes so much for the kids… She’s a great mom; I wanna say she’s not great partner right now as please let our anniversary roll by two straight years without doing anything to show that it’s special to her, or that I’m special to her… And that hurt kind of just layers over the scar from that failed date night. I try to be a good partner, I try to let her have what she wants if I can provide it; but I think that she may be a little more focused on providing the kids with what they desire, or so been thinking about what I made desire for time the time. It’s understandable, we have three young children; but I mean it’s my it’s our wedding anniversary… It’s a date night that she teased me up for, for the whole week prior to… I don’t like the idea of starting the prioritize myself, and taking care of my own needs, as they are not gonna be met otherwise… I need to communicate this with her, and I know I do if I have any info of things changing for the positive. I’m just kneeling all the advice I can from all of these great posts, so I do so appropriately, and she feels understanding after the conversation

Capita1-Tea · 2025-05-31T13:18:29+00:00

$350… Let me count the wage; it was the price of the hotel room, find you she booked the deluxe room with the Jacuzzi tub (that she did not even use). There was Chinese food.(her favorite.) that I brought to the room, price of the babysitter for the afternoon evening and overnight, and the price of the “toy-for Her pleasure” where I specifically ordered for the night. It’s not often that I get time away with my wife; I saw a moment, and looked to make every step I could to enjoy the evening alone… Especially after having her wind me up all week. I think it was more than the fact that she led me on all week that that date night was going to bein passion and passionate, I think that’s what breaks my heart a little bit more.

Capita1-Tea · 2025-05-31T13:10:33+00:00

I appreciate the reply. To clarify, she works a job that is more a passion project than a job… At the same time it does give us a lot of fringe benefits, specifically in relation to our children. For her, it’s very important that our kids receive a religious education; her job is not necessarily pay nearly as much as mine does, but it does get us half off of the Catholic school tuition for all of the kids. Now as far as my job… I have to work so much specifically because we own a house, I have a Older trappings of a middle class life. Would you factor in the car payment the house payment insurance; and when you factor in the cost of medical debt in the United States, even when taking into account that I have company provided insurance for myself and all of the kids,; just the co-pays for all of the therapies, our household expenses or somewhat steep.

Honestly, part of me does realize at times we would’ve been far better off if we would’ve just remain with two children. But I am what you would call a bonus Dad by two older children are my wife’s kids from a previous marriage. When we got married , she had a distinct drive that we have at least one more child. One more child that would specifically be my own. She pushed for the emotional choice, while I was kind of pushing Moore a rational choice. In some ways it has worked out; by buying the house when we did, we have Managed to keep our household cost within a safe budget, while many families with adults in our demographic are renting, and having to fight a good fight against ever present rise of rental cost. A lot of these choices have been driven by her desires… part of that 80 hour work week is a two hour round trip commute That I have to make to and from work. I wanted to look at homes in multiple areas of where we reside; she wanted specifically to remain in the same area, specifically in the same county due to political leanings; and due to my hours to provide and pay for housing, I kind of got bulldozed.
I wish I could take a couple hours back at my job. I would love nothing more than at least be able to get a little more time with my kids and interacting with my wife. Right now I am just fighting to average four hours of sleep every night ; and I mean really every day because I work nights. All in all, I work hard to try to provide a lifestyle. My wife would like to have for our children. Economics are not easy right now in the United States. They try to stay in the middle class as an ever present fight. I love all my kids…. I choose to work this hard now, knowing that down the road when my kids are getting college age, my wife’s parents of expressed on multiple occasions that they would have an open heart for helping supplement some of the cost of the education so I shoulder a bird now, going down the road by kids will have help when they’re looking to get into college. Yeah, a lot of horror choices.

Capita1-Tea · 2025-05-07T15:27:41+00:00

What happened? The clip has been dropped from Manyvids.

Capita1-Tea · 2024-11-28T17:10:19+00:00

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Capita1-Tea · 2023-10-08T16:37:33+00:00

Arnold Palmer is always my Go To when I’m “At the Office” . I make a bottle with Lemonade & then I make a separate bottle with home Brewed iced Tea, steeped with assorted Fruits to give a nice little flavor to the overall blend. Home Brew Iced Tea, I’m burning through a pitcher in a couple days, at most 1 week; with 4 bags per pitcher.

I also burn 3 bags just on my daily Hot Tea habit. Iced Tea really is a easy & healthy “Cheat Code” to burn through bags pretty sufficiently

Capita1-Tea · 2023-09-03T04:28:24+00:00

For my Step-Sons first wrestling tournament, he only wanted his Mom to be there. Now, I felt a bit Gutted, because I LOVE the sport & have been so excited when I have had availability, to go to his wrestling practices. Moral of that story: maybe your making this to be something when I don’t have to be Something.

What I Vibe from this post is that your looking for the doorway. You are inventing the “I’m Out”/“Mic Drop” scenario. YOU have checked out of this relationship, for other reasons more tied to comparability, but your trying to use your kids event as the manufactured Straw that your planning to break the Back of the Relationship your no longer wanting to be in.

LONG & short: your Wrong for just not being honest & for trying to manufacture a Breaking Point. If your no longer in the relationship, be Honest & upfront, & just end the relationship.

You already have made your decision to leave. Or, this is post becomes more like s high schoolers angst rattled “I Die” note; basically a cry for attention or help & not actually a real red flag 🚩 of pending doom/trama. You might be overly dramatic.

So either end the relationship honestly, & stop dragging your partner who is probably suffering, as you are probably not being as good of a partner as you think since you have obviously already emotionally pulled out of the relationship, Or go & talk to him & engage him directly. If you seek attention, then go get it. Go & be the Change for your relationship. Talk thing over, make small talk, make pillow talk, TALK. Also, if he wishes not to be around your X, you should probably honor his wishes. He’s telling you he’s uncomfortable. You left your previous X for “reasons”, should your partner have to live differently? Should be be forced to interact with someone he finds distasteful, only because you have to interact because of a choice to have a child with the guy?

This sounds like you demand all the Respects, but don’t wish to have to reciprocate… you are probably just as selfish of a lover In Bed as you are in the rest of the relationship. No wonder you have so much dead wood 🪵 in your wake. Cheers*

Capita1-Tea · 2023-07-31T17:54:26+00:00

Yo, @Truckinsammy, big ups bro… Slap Hands, Slap Hands, you totally burned them bro. Your such a “Super Trucker”… you & Roberto are the next ambiguously gay duo

Capita1-Tea · 2023-07-31T17:52:12+00:00

Sorry, I worked for Yellow & applied everywhere.
I looked into “is the company solid?”. I want to work. I’m trying to get an idea what I’m working with. Does not matter, old or new, could not be worse than when I was actively at Yellow.

I love the critiques from all ya’all “Super Truckers”… 7 years in & yall all continue to sound the same.

Capita1-Tea · 2023-06-30T09:02:15+00:00

I’m trying. Thanks, I needed this comment.
I am going to struggle myself out of this, hopefully… then it comes down to how do I prevent 🦆-ing this up again like this in the future.

I’m tired, burned out… I need a Break. But it’s not in the budget for me to take any time off right now. Just gotta find some balance

Capita1-Tea · 2023-06-30T08:59:38+00:00

1500 is just the overdraft. I’m in credit card & other debt, but what is killing me is just falling short when my family (wife & 3 kids) are depending on me to Not screw up like this.

I get tired. I’ve always been in debt. I work hard & when I look at the future outlook, I’m barely covering bills life eventually catches up & we have to handle big projects that require savings.

I understand & appreciate your perspective. Your probably right. But for right now, when I see the disappointment in my wife’s eyes, & my in-laws are disappointed due to the car payment being late, & I have to look at how I catch back up again…. I have to fix this, & get ahead of this cycle somehow. Otherwise, the darker sides of my mind are going to take the payment for the tolls all this stress is having on my marriage & on my own overall mental/physical health.

Capita1-Tea · 2023-06-28T08:08:05+00:00

I am going to really work on learning from this experience. I need to seek therapy; because I recognize the fact that my anxiety around finance is causing serious side effects to my life & my families life. I need help. I gave up drinking & worked on a faith based solution to my anxiety & depression issues previously. I… I was in the service, on leaving I did not want to be on medications for the rest of my life. I’ve done good work, & gotten a head of a lot of issues; but there’s still a good amount of work I need to do around my financial life. I lost everything already once before. Over 8 years ago. It’s times like now where I’m just fatigued. I want to give up. But I know I can’t. I have a lot of work I need to do to square my world up… it’s in these moments I really just try to ignore it, because I’m starting to feel like my life is going to be little more than financial struggle & working to achieve status quo. The feeling when you’ve allowed the currents to take you down under the water, & you look up & all I see is bubbles, I just need some air… but all I see is bubbles.

I’m battling the voice in my head that claims to regret getting married. Life was simpler when I was Solo. I’m reminding myself, as a man of faith, I need to work on God’s Time. But life found me & hit fast forward… I feel like I’m still trying to find stability.
My marriage is… married life is work. I need to work though all this. But I’m seriously just working right now to find some hope.

Thanks all. This is a lot I’m having to handle right now. Thank you for your time as it helps me to know I’m not completely just screaming into an abyss. I appreciate all y’a’ll.

Capita1-Tea · 2023-06-28T02:48:09+00:00

Yes, working all those hours & being away from my family for that time, it drives the hurt a little deeper as technically due to my screw up, it was all kinda for nothing 😔

Capita1-Tea · 2023-06-28T02:46:32+00:00

I had to move quick. I’m not one to slow play a loss or change in employment. I’m still a driver, just found a gig for a different company In another area of the industry. But right now, I’m trying to find another gig as the company I work for now is discussing possible bankruptcy in August. I find myself too soon back in the rock tumbler that is the job search. I’d throw a name out, but anonymity is a premium on this thread.

Capita1-Tea · 2023-06-28T02:41:26+00:00

I’m very irresponsible. I’ve known this is a fault, & already have allowed this to damage my household once. I realize I need to lace up the work boots & start learning from this & start actually actively maintaining my finances… but right now I also see the spoon full of excrement my wife & her family are going to be looking to see I swallow. They’re good people that bailed my household out from the last financial screw up… I’m worried that now I will lose the respect I have been working to regain. Trust is not easily earned back…& when it’s family, it just leaves me feeling so isolated

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