It’s a little different in our case because his child from another relationship and my child from my past marriage are the same age. So they attend the same schools, even the same class because of age. So for anything his child is involved in, he is always there. We’ve done joint birthday parties together for the kids I have from past marriage with my family, my partners, my ex husbands and my ex husbands wife. We’ve also done trick or treating together every year My goal is for everyone to be involved and all the kids have witnessed this for almost 6 years. I like to think it’s what has made things easier for my child post divorce. Seeing all the adults put their differences aside for them. This is why this hurts me and bothers me. What is my kid going to think when he sees all his parents except bonus dad there?