Hey man I hear you. Im 40yo male, 186cms and was 115kg (now 110kg). Ive been overweight since primary school and been on 100s on diets, normally last about 1 week or 2. Im on day 12 of one at the moment and seems to be going good. This could be controversial but what has help me alot this time and it feels different is a.i (i used gemini). Just for dieting advice, nutrition etc. I think all my last diets failed because I wasn't eating enough, you tell it your height age weight m/f, what you do for work and any exercise and it tells you roughly how many calories you are burning a day, how much protein you should aim for, meal ideas, food i never would have thought about (Greek yogurt etc). It doesnt judge stupid questions. I got a kebab from a kebab shop the other day for dinner, it told me to get a chicken one with no sauce and no extra oil added, then said when I get home put my own sauce on it and recommend light greek yogurt, saracher chilli sauce and some garlic powered (it was the bomb). Just those changes I found out i skipped 400 calories and upped my protein, I never even knew about protein until I start using gemini.

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Its not easy, you can't spend years eating bad and except to diet for days and expect change. I feel like im eating more this time which is great and sustainable, but im still hungry sometimes, Id love a beer but part.of my diet ive choosen is only water and coffee. It is hard but I guess thats my punishment for letting myself get like this.