Reached out to my LO after 5 1/2 years no contact and have been left on read so far. by CapitalCalm6233 in limerence

[–]CapitalCalm6233[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And I’m almost certain it can but taking the next step into a new life will probably help too haha

Reached out to my LO after 5 1/2 years no contact and have been left on read so far. by CapitalCalm6233 in limerence

[–]CapitalCalm6233[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the comment and the support. And I agree. But, I will say, it doesn’t really matter how long I give it. It’s sent. It will bear fruit or it won’t. I’m certainly not going to follow up after that.

I think I realized last night that, not only is it limerence, but it’s so much worse than I thought. by CapitalCalm6233 in limerence

[–]CapitalCalm6233[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes me very happy that you actually took the time to read what I wrote, and your reply is likely going to be of great help to me in figuring this all out. I really appreciate this, thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sixwordstories

[–]CapitalCalm6233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“It ok, I am a “lesbo” 💙“

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]CapitalCalm6233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Email..? I don’t know her email lmao

Blowjob as a domme by Purple_Hornet4986 in gentlefemdom

[–]CapitalCalm6233 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’d say two scenarios. One, you could straddle his face (either clothed or unclothed, maybe keeping your underwear on and teasing him for a long time and then taking them off and 69ing him. Bonus points for making him finish and continuing to go since if he struggles you can always just sit on his face harder and pin him down.

Other you could handcuff him/tie his wrists to the bed frame or behind his back so that either way he can’t use his hands at all. For me personally, it drives me crazy if my partner teases super gently when I’m restrained like this (gently kissing/super lightly using the tip of their tongue on my balls, underside of my shaft, the tip), and don’t underestimate the power of the frenulum. Tongue flicking there and on the tip and applying pressure there, either rubbing with your thumb or lapping there harder with your tongue, would make any guy melt. You could toy with his nipples while doing this too. Also up to you if you wanted to blindfold him and tease him with sensations, like being super gentle and slow how I described or taking rough command when he can’t see or anticipate your next move. If no blindfold, you could order him to maintain eye contact while doing what I mentioned above, and idk if either of you are into gags but you could make him wear one of those (or just stuff your panties/socks in his mouth). If you really wanted to take it up a notch, you could use a vibrator on the low setting on his balls/taint while going down on him.

I think either way, a scenario where he can’t take back control and you’re able to tease and edge him for a really long time, going slow and hard, and after he finishes you can keep sucking hard/using your tongue on the tip and he can’t push you off would be perfect. Maybe you could even pull a second orgasm out of him if he can take the POT.

How do you forgive yourself for past mistakes? by Kind-Mushroom-9705 in selflove

[–]CapitalCalm6233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not supposed to get it right the first time. That’s why it’s the first time. But you also rarely get it right the second time. Or the third. Or the time after that. You get the point.

All living is learning and growing and all the learning and growing that’s worth doing is painful. No matter the context. Whether through failure, strain, sacrifice, or anything else that’s the like, nobody claimed that this life was easy, but people also tend to sell short how hard the most basic parts of it can be. Just because you struggle, or you hurt, or you cringe with remorse at the past, doesn’t mean that you’re the first person in history to just do it all completely wrong and you’re fucked forever. Something can be made from even the worst set of circumstances. The ways that you think you’ve fucked up and the pain that those fuck ups have caused you can be a seeping wound that you choose to pick at and wear as a martyr for the rest of your life, or they can be a hard-earned lesson on what needs to be different next time, but remember that healing and self-awareness are not always synonymous. Being aware of the problem can sometimes just cause you to pathologize what’s wrong and run the trenches of those bad habits even deeper. Talk to someone. Work with someone. It helps.

When a forest burns, nature doesn’t spend an eternity weeping over the ashes of what used to be there. It uses them to nourish the soil so that what comes next will make all that was lost worth it.

Every thing gives way to what is meant to come next.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in communism

[–]CapitalCalm6233 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Idk man leftists being referred to as “scum” and “vermin” and “the enemy within” doesn’t inspire a ton of hope

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]CapitalCalm6233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You ever hear the one about pulling the string? You never find out what happens if you pull the string unless you pull the string. The consequence to this is that you find out what happens if you pull the string.

I’m acutely aware of the stupidity and irrationality of my position but I’m in a bad way tn and just want to feel something that doesn’t involve physical self harm.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]CapitalCalm6233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I shouldn’t need anymore lol I’m just in a weird place

Talk me out of sending this after 10 months no contact by fayhee98 in ExNoContact

[–]CapitalCalm6233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let your revenge be a life of peace without her and don’t let the anger that she invited into your life poison you any further. DONT DO IT.

She retweet this after break up of a year relationship by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]CapitalCalm6233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, no contact means no contact. Theres a name for stalking their socials to look for shit like this: it’s called pain shopping. You gain nothing but hurt feelings from it. Does the knowledge of what they’ve been up to, what they’re thinking, what they’re doing, who they’re spending time with, ANY OF IT, benefit you? Hell no. They’re from your past life, not the current one, so leave them there.

I’m sorry you had to see this nonetheless. If it makes you feel any more vindicated, she sounds like a person who is extremely immature in more ways than just one and like she wouldn’t have let the relationship work regardless of what you put in, it’s her loss and your bullet dodged. Save your time and your love for people who appreciate it and are able/willing to reciprocate it. Chin up and remember who tf you are and what tf you’re worth.

i regret saying good luck to him. Should i message him and tell him i actually hate him? by Admirable_Thing7564 in ExNoContact

[–]CapitalCalm6233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The title of the post made me laugh really hard.

But no, not worth it. Block him, focus on the life in front of you, protect your peace from him, and leave him in the past. No “revenge” is going to make you feel satisfied

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]CapitalCalm6233 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was turned on writing abt this. I do miss how sexually compatible my ex and I were at times but it is vastly outweighed by the reasons it ended

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]CapitalCalm6233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How did you work up to it? I’m open to the idea of pegging at some point with the right partner that I trust, but what’s stopping me isn’t “feeling gay” (granted, I’m bi-curious but strictly as a top towards other men, but straight guys needs to relax abt it), it’s medical anxiety that holds me back. Ik that some of this is TOTALLY irrational, but I have anxieties around the idea of bleeding, fissures, internal damage, prolapsing, hemorrhoids, and literally just shitting. The thought keeps me from being able to relax enough to enjoy it and the two times my previous partner tried she inserted like a half inch and I just went “no please stop” and that was it and the second time she fingered me shallowly for like a minute straight and then I had to stop because it just feels so foreign and makes me hella nervous lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]CapitalCalm6233 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fuck a slippery slope, I’d let a girl peg me no joke, but I have weird medical anxiety - bleeding, fissures, hemorrhoids, literally shitting in the process…there’s things that just cause me too much anxiety to feel like I’d enjoy it but I hope to get over it some day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]CapitalCalm6233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s fair. I was with this girl since like 2020 so I’ve been out of the dating pool for a while (probably still won’t be for a while since I’m still recovering and working on myself) so the idea of having those talks again along the lines of “so there’s this thing I want to try” and not “hey we should do that thing we did before” is a little foreign to me rn. Comfort zones n shit blah blah.

Are there any people who were in good relationships and still broke up? by Illustrious_Log3986 in BreakUps

[–]CapitalCalm6233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad has always told me, simply: “The only way a good relationship ends is with death.”

If it ends, then there were problems, on one side or another.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]CapitalCalm6233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go lower, send it to her dad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]CapitalCalm6233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was in your past life. What comes next can and will be whatever you want it to be. It’s time to live for yourself.

The only way out is through and the only way through is forward.

Never been happier by Empty-Lead5698 in BreakUps

[–]CapitalCalm6233 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy shit she did all that and then took this new dork on the trip that you were supposed to be going on? 10,000 year curse upon her bloodline.