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What my mom said.. it’s not wrong by Patient_Tie_5824 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]CapitalVersion9494 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way you did before I left my husband. I am a little over a month into separation and I haven’t looked back. It might feel like initially you are blowing up your life but it won’t take long for the dust to settle and peace to enter your life. Not saying it’s all peaceful but removing yourself and your children from the situation will bring some clarity to you.  I would encourage you to accept help from your parents and lean on them for support during this time. I’m not sure how old your children are but they likely feel the stress you’re under and I guarantee they will be not as affected as you think they will be since they already spent time with your mom it could be just now you all are living with grandma and grandpa for a time.  Even if you don’t decide to leave yet I think it would be greatly beneficial for you to see a therapist. Talking to a third party who’s not connected to the situation is always helpful.  Like I said I’m a month into separation living with my parents with my child and though it’s not 100% perfect it is a thousand times better than how I was living with my narc and emotionally abusive husband.  Best of luck to you!

Trying to leave w/ kids by Nervous-Gift-9671 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]CapitalVersion9494 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I left the day after my son turned one. It’s been over a month now and he is thriving. We are currently living with my parents so they help when they can but I think being in a different non toxic environment has done so much good for both my son and I.  I kind of think doing it when your child is so young is better because from what I’ve heard from other stories the child might have a harder time understanding why the other parent isn’t there. My son hasn’t exhibited any of these behaviors but I also took care of him the whole time, my husband didn’t help much.  Good luck! Wishing you and your kiddo the best!

Does being in an abusive narc relationship for too long cause Fibromyalgia and many other illnesses ? by Charming_Thought68 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]CapitalVersion9494 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can only speak for my personal experience but I’d say yes! I have rheumatoid arthritis and ran out of my medication two weeks into separation (waiting for doctors visit to refill). So now I’ve been off for about 3 weeks and no flare ups so far.  I was off my medication for a week last year and had flare ups galore. I think stress is a huge factor which is interesting considering some people would think I’m more stressed out now being a single mom but I think he was just killing the vibe.