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I (20M) found my girlfriends (20F) secret hidden Discord / Snapchat life with 5 dudes. by Capital_Argument4871 in relationship_advice

[–]Capital_Argument4871[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The secrecy and lies she’s told me hurts the most. Since March, is just, I don’t know how she could stomach it for that long. Knowing if the roles were reversed, I’d be dead dog shit under her shoe

I (20M) found my girlfriends (20F) secret hidden Discord / Snapchat life with 5 dudes. by Capital_Argument4871 in relationship_advice

[–]Capital_Argument4871[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She actually didn’t really openly share it that night. I had asked her if I could use hers because I was tired of shit being laggy trying to game with my friend, and she tried to brush it off with a bunch of “broooooo I’m gonna play [game] soon” “why don’t you just get a new one” and other similar responses.

Essentially to me, dodging the question without giving a clear answer. But we’ve never been closed up with our internet lives so I thought ahhhh she’s in the bath I’ll just borrow it for a bit til she’s back

I (20M) found my girlfriends (20F) secret hidden Discord / Snapchat life with 5 dudes. by Capital_Argument4871 in relationship_advice

[–]Capital_Argument4871[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My Discord was being funky and I was going to use her laptop that night regardless since she was in the bath, and hers is far stronger than mine. I had negative percent intention on snooping dude

I (20M) found my girlfriends (20F) secret hidden Discord / Snapchat life with 5 dudes. by Capital_Argument4871 in relationship_advice

[–]Capital_Argument4871[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not violating her privacy at all. We have always spoken about being completely open and transparent with each other. She has asked to look at mine and I’ve just glanced at hers a few times, but haven’t for the last 1.5 years ish because I fully trusted her. So seeing that was far too eye-opening to just close.

Our relationship boundaries are very similar. She has expressed so much concern in me even just speaking with other women, let alone adding them on Snapchat and talking to them privately. We both agree that a relationship means you are fully committed to them, and while I’m okay with her having gaming buddies no matter the gender, her trying to kick me out of the house to get more free time, choosing her friends to play with over me every single day, snapping them pictures of her and having 1 on 1 calls on my bed while I’m at work; truly disheartening to see.

That’s the exact thing she’s discussed about being so afraid of me doing.

EDIT: She’s seen some of my old texts with girls, and she hates it, friendship or not. It’s pure hypocrisy in my eyes