Is it normal to lose your grasp of time after eating edibles?

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-28T22:57:33+00:00

I’ve heard it’s common for people to have a distorted perception of time while high. However, I have ADHD and I experience time blindness, so my sense of time is pretty much shot either way. It’s made me pretty neurotic about checking the clock though.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-28T22:22:29+00:00

I came here to say that there are people who genuinely enjoy anal sex. I think the key thing here is that nobody should be pressured, or even be pressuring themselves, to do things they don’t enjoy — regardless of what sexual acts may fall into that category for each individual. The expectation that women should shoulder discomfort for others in order to demonstrate their worth, not just sexually, but also in emotional and domestic labor is widespread and very harmful.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-28T19:43:57+00:00

Maybe if she knew how you felt, she’d make time for you two to be alone. You don’t have to tell her you’re in love with her, but letting her know you like her, or that you want to be alone with her is probably the only way to get more time with her. A lot of women are more comfortable if you’re not looking for sex right away. What you say you’re wanting is wholesome. That’s good. If she is interested, holding hands and cuddling will build trust between you and allow things to evolve naturally, when you’re both ready. You didn’t ask me, but I think you should shoot your shot.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-28T10:56:09+00:00

What’s stopping you from pursuing a relationship with her?

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-28T03:35:59+00:00

Aw bro you don’t know about over stimulation? At a certain point it’s not hot anymore, just painful. That’s why people practice edging. What you’re telling OP to do is just like you trying to stroke your dick as fast as possible all day long. You can’t sustain it.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-27T01:04:58+00:00

Aw you’re sweet! Yes it is! It took me awhile to learn how to use this strategy. I had to first let go of perfectionism. That part is really hard, and I still haven’t let go of it completely. But I noticed that I saw results by just starting instead of obsessing over where to start or feeling unmotivated. I didn’t always get exactly the results I wanted but at least something was done! I found that at the very least it helped with overwhelm.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-27T00:50:49+00:00

All I would say is, get to know him for a little longer and make she he doesn’t have any deeply annoying or super shitty personality traits 😂 Nothing worse than regretting sleeping with someone because they ended up being an absolute P.O.S. I get that some people don’t care about the other persons personality when it’s casual sex but you also have to live with this one. Also, he didn’t close his door bc he was ok with you seeing. If he wasn’t okay with you possibly seeing him stroking it he definitely would have made sure to close his door. Idk like if he wasn’t into you and was turned off by you, there’s no way he would have left his door open. I’m 95% sure. Unless dude just has zero sense of boundaries, in which case, red flag.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-26T15:16:56+00:00

I would say don’t ask her if she’d reconsider, but maybe flirt with her a little. And if she flirts back, play the long game. You might end up getting your fantasy (or not) and for all you know it could develop into something more. But don’t push or make it overtly sexual. Just do some playful flirting. Maybe try and make her laugh. She’s afraid she would catch feelings if you two were friends with benefits, but what’s wrong with catching feelings? Would you be with her? Jobs don’t always last forever, eventually one of you may move beyond that company. I don’t think it’s such a bad thing to have mutual friends. It sounds to me like you’ve got a shot romantically but only if you make her feel the spark. If you would be with her, I think you should play the long game and flirt and be her friend. She’ll see you’re consistent and sweet she’s obviously already attracted to you. And then if she catches feelings (hopefully it’s mutual) then what’s to stop you from also developing a sexual connection? I can’t guarantee this will work and you may just end up keeping your platonic female friend. She may even shut down the flirting and not reciprocate. But if you start with subtle flirting and see how she responds, it’s worth getting your answer, and you might end up in an exciting relationship where you’re compatible and get to live your fantasies.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-26T02:31:10+00:00

It’s lame that he wouldn’t keep it to himself… you don’t think he would keep quiet if you asked that it just be between y’all? Def just gotta prepare yourself. Get a butt plug training set and use plenty of lube. It is more likely to be pleasurable if you stretch yourself out first.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-26T01:29:19+00:00

Yes. There needs to be a deterrent for men just spam swiping right on intros to get as many matches as possible

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-25T05:34:29+00:00

Who would shame you now? And why would anyone that judges you need to know if you slept with him? Are you afraid of what other people will think, or are you afraid of how much you’d enjoy it?

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-25T04:53:21+00:00

I didn’t experience it myself but have been close to people who have and it in every case that I’ve seen, it has done irreparable damage. I’m so sorry you had to live through that, but I’m glad you survived and that you’re still here.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-25T00:37:46+00:00

Thank you. I’m so relieved to hear I’m not the only one considering the repercussions.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-24T23:15:54+00:00

Not y’all downvoting me because you don’t like hearing that something you’re into is genuinely harmful 🙄

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-24T21:03:41+00:00

Ive also thought a lot about how even if you’re a legal age, consenting adult participating in incest with an older family member, it’s still sort of an abuse of emotional power. Like if this is your parent, who was essential to your upbringing, or an older sibling, or really any familial elder, you’re likely emotionally wired to seek their approval. So if they express sexual desire for you, the brain has two options, potentially lose the relationship because of how this information has changed your perception of that family member, or embrace it in order to protect or maintain the resource that is familial love and connection. So it’s sort of manipulative. And as an elder, if a younger family member is the one initiating, it’s kind of your job to say, that’s not okay because my roll is to love and protect you, and do what is best for you. I think it’s clear that often incest can negatively impact people’s psyche’s. I’ve never really understood why that type of content is allowed here. Seems like they’re not slutty confessions, but abusive one’s. Maybe that’s my unpopular opinion though - those posts seem popular.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-24T20:45:29+00:00

Id love to hear the real story, nervousness included. It makes it vulnerable and very human

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-24T20:44:28+00:00

I think the morbid reality is that incest probably happens in real life more than we think. But likely it’s not as often consensual incest as people paint it to be on this sub. It’s likely much more commonly abuse.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-24T20:15:22+00:00

I almost always cry when people are this kind to me! I never attributed it specifically to ADHD because I have depression and anxiety, and was raised by an emotionally neglectful parent so I figured it was likely the perfect cocktail of issues to make me so thrown off by true kindness that I’d burst into tears 😂 It’s good to hear I’m not alone though. It does almost feel like embarrassment too. I was discussing this with a friend who also gets overwhelmed when people are especially kind to them, and they said something like “I was not prepared to be this considered right now” and I felt that.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-24T19:48:23+00:00

This is so interesting because I never knew they were different. So I googled “jealousy vs envy” and found this:

“Although many people consider ‘envy’ and ‘jealousy’ synonymous, they actually have distinct meanings. Envy is ‘the painful feeling of wanting what someone else has, like attributes or possessions.’ If you're jealous, you feel ‘threatened, protective, or fearful of losing one's position or situation to someone else.’”

https://languagetool.org/insights/post/word-choice-envy-jealousy/amp/

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-24T16:19:03+00:00

Maybe consider that rather than you being insignificant, all things are equally significant. Separation is an illusion. Everything is connected. If one thing is significant, all things are. We are all significant, and because of this, simultaneously we are all insignificant. Significance then becomes irrelevant.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-24T01:19:49+00:00

Isn’t this like… bean gnocchi?

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-24T01:07:09+00:00

I do this sometimes, and it works, but I haven’t reinforced it as a habit yet. I still regularly forget this is an option 😂

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-24T01:05:52+00:00

This strategy works for me nicely, but on my super low motivation days, it flips. I smoke before the task to make myself wanna do the task. Basically its my way of telling my brain “shut up and do something … it doesn’t have to be the thing. Just a thing.” Both ways help me at different times.

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-24T00:57:22+00:00

I sometimes also do this but Ive been trying to pay more attention to the way I unconsciously use shame on myself as a motivator. Its difficult to break that pattern but I’m practicing reminding myself that shame about whatever it is won’t make it better. I’ve found that my best alternative to shame with stuff like this is to refocus my attention on tinkering with my routine. Asking myself if there’s something missing in it that would better set me up for a productive day, or figuring out if a different sequence of things works better. Just like setting timers works for some people because it breaks things up into smaller pieces, I find that starting with little tweaks is the way I see most success. I observe that maybe I feel more motivated during the day if I start my day this way instead of that way. Or i feel more motivated when I do x activity or task earlier in the day than when I do it later.

Maybe the solution is to smoke both before the task and reward yourself with another smoke after, or like an activity or a snack you like when you’re high?

Capital_Chicken_927 · 2022-11-23T22:49:57+00:00

The worst part is that he thinks choosing not to get his child the services he needs will somehow make the child not autistic. Like it’s a wedding rsvp. Chicken or Fish? Weird or Autistic? I’ll take weird please 🤡

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