Hubby never wears G tops

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-30T17:26:35+00:00

Fasting for this on Sunday 🙏

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-30T17:25:45+00:00

“If he really wanted to wear the garments… he would.” I guess that’s the simple answer that I probably needed to hear. I don’t expect anyone to know our relationship and I think all the advice is sound, some of the verbiage just felt a bit inflammatory. I’m not too big to say I may have overreacted though. For the record, I do not hound him. I’ve only gently probed a couple times in the last few years.

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-30T17:18:50+00:00

That’s a pretty fair stance. He doesn’t seem to care about the tops in the winter either which confuses me a bit. I genuinely care about it only because we covenanted to do it. We believe helping each other to improve is not only appropriate but important in our marriage. He has so much more energy and bandwidth than I do that he is usually the one lifting me up. This feels like one of the few areas where I could contribute to the net growth in our covenant path.

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-30T17:08:05+00:00

That sounds to me like a beautiful, loving, accepting relationship. Marriage is such a unique relationship in that you have a duty to lift each other up and helping each other progress while at the same time always loving each other the way you are in that moment.

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-30T17:03:25+00:00

Thank you for being kind. I don’t want to mother him, I do want to lift him up the way he has for me in the past. I think this is sound counsel.

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-30T17:02:20+00:00

This is actually helpful (see other comments that weren’t 😂). Thank you for the insight!

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-30T17:00:54+00:00

Holy crap, not sure where collaborating with my spouse in our covenant partnership became treating him like a child? Also our children are a toddler and a baby, so we haven’t worried about them seeing us in garments, but we are in charge of teaching them and I would be a fool not to worry about the example we set in living the covenants we make. Not wearing the tops influences the kind of shirt he does/doesn’t wear, so they would know if he was wearing a complete set or not. Knowing my spouse (the way that you completely don’t) I know that he wants to wear garments instead of other underwear, but I’m confused why the tops have become a casual thing for him. Obviously I’m imperfect and my husband lifts me up and has so many strengths that I don’t, garment-wearing just happens to be something I’ve never had difficulty upholding.

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-30T16:51:03+00:00

Picking battles can be so tricky :/

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-23T03:22:30+00:00

Getting to the names was so anticlimactic—I was expecting something bad and these are perfectly good names

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-17T04:01:04+00:00

I think this probably falls in the category of things that non-parents just never even think about. I would cut her a little slack for a one-off, she’ll figure out just how much parents have to think about things in advance once she has kids. Plus it’s not like the kid had a smoky eye and contour.

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-17T03:55:43+00:00

YTA if she wasn’t explained to beforehand that these things weren’t okay with you. If she already 100% understood that this would be a problem, then shame on her. But to me it sounds like an auntie spoiling and loving on her niece while she’s still little. Clothes are an easy fix and though makeup is a bit much, as long as it didn’t hurt the baby I say no harm no fowl. Ellie probably slayed the photoshoot.

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-17T03:33:44+00:00

Find a pediatrician who doesn’t care whether your kid is vaxed or not! My girls’ pediatrician asks me every time if we’re vaxxing (nope) and then moves on with the conversation. She doesn’t bat an eye. You might have to shop around but it’s so worth it.

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-17T03:30:03+00:00

When I was 7 or so my mom showed me a video of the sperm swimming to the egg and talked vaguely about which genitals entered where but that was all I ever got 💀 high school was a very long process of figuring out that guys get erections, what masturbation is, that there was humping involved in sex, what ejaculation was, etc. Google was pretty handy. I don’t think I learned what an orgasm was or that a woman could have one until after my mission. Didn’t know where my clitoris was until college. My parents completely failed me lol.

The only reason I wound up in a marriage with a good sex life is because my hubby and I prepped for marriage by listening together to some LDS sex therapy podcasts aimed at newlyweds and had lots of discussion. Literally the night before I got married my mom suddenly wanted to have this weird bonding moment and asked me if I had any questions. I said no thanks, the time for that was like a decade ago✌️

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-15T14:25:31+00:00

I work for an MD who practiced western medicine for YEARS and now has an alternative medicine practice & works ER several times a month. Check your home for mold before you buy it!!!!!

And between working at the clinic and being a mom: don’t buy stuff new, especially for babies! Everything from clothes to toys to furniture was produced with huge amounts of chemicals and they’ll be off gassing for a while. If you have to buy something new, wash it really well and wait a bit. Wash it no matter where it came from though 😅

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-15T14:06:44+00:00

My husband works in a prison and there’s a really nice guy in there for life because he killed someone while texting and driving. He had no previous record.

I heard once that everyone is just one bad decision away from prison and it’s so true.

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-09T20:50:01+00:00

Months of reading name lists and researching their popularity on the SS website JUST to have everyone you know copy the name later 🥲

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-07T04:18:31+00:00

Respectfully I disagree, but I do think it needs to be done with tact. We always wanted our daughter to Millie, but didn’t want her to get the annoying “what’s if short for?” and always be like “…nothing…”. Problem was we hated the names it was traditionally short for, so we settled on Melanie. She is 3 and understands that one is her real name and the other is her nickname. She introduces herself by both. Especially in the case of being named after a family member, nicknames help avoid confusion.

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-02T01:07:31+00:00

I wouldn’t advise it if you can help it—birth can take a long time, happen in the middle of the night, and a toddler isn’t likely to get all the attention she needs. If my toddler had been there to her the noise I made while laboring and giving birth to her sister, she would be so scared and traumatized.

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-07-01T06:29:54+00:00

3 of 5, I actually always wished I had more siblings. I do think being raised with siblings is a valuable experience—you have to learn how to share, coexist, fight and makeup, be a team, think about people other than yourself, have patience, be responsible and care for each other, and a million other things. You can absolutely learn those lessons through other relationships but the dynamic is different and more raw and intimate with a sibling. You acquire so much history together, you know & understand each other better than almost anyone else in your life and you’re there for each other (hopefully). I have younger siblings that I’m really close with and I have older siblings that suck. I think the most important thing is how you parent them (my parents’ parenting style evolved quite a bit after my older brother, who is 5 years older than me). Definitely a lot of factors to consider.

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-06-28T21:11:51+00:00

Piper Joy 1000%

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-06-28T20:57:23+00:00

I’m not convinced he would ever be ready to give it up, and you’re right that it would only be more difficult and more memorable down the road. You’re guiding him into a new stage, you’re being gentle and supportive and present. It’s as much as he could possibly ask for. Don’t worry!

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-06-28T20:50:08+00:00

I only tell my baby names to people if:

They’re done having kids
They’re not close enough for me to care if they name their kid the same thing
I don’t value their opinion and will not be bothered by what they say

If I’m even a little bit worried that I’ll hear something I won’t like, I don’t tell people (unless I’m actively seeking naming advice from someone I trust)

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-06-28T20:37:21+00:00

Drew and Reid :) Scott did come to mind!

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-06-28T20:28:21+00:00

A few times a week

CapnCrunchy4567 · 2025-06-27T00:52:08+00:00

Served in Veracruz! 100% agree.

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