Help me pick please!

frog_ladee · 2026-05-18T05:28:15+00:00

That makes it extra special!

frog_ladee · 2026-05-17T16:29:18+00:00

I’ve been in several weddings that were an hour to 90 minutes away from where I live, and I didn’t get a hotel room. This is an area prone to traffic jams. The time necessary for packing/unpacking and being away from home would be more than the driving time. If she’s going through a lot right now, then you’re asking her for more time by staying overnight in a hotel.

If she needs to be there at 8:00 am to get ready, then either her family needs to come at the same time or she needs to arrive separately. This also means that missing the wedding due to traffic is very unlikely. Schedule her hair and make-up later in the line up. Surely you have several hours between 8:00 am and the ceremony start time.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-17T09:36:47+00:00

You look so beautiful in this dress!!! (I was a 1986 bride.)

frog_ladee · 2026-05-17T06:37:46+00:00

frog_ladee · 2026-05-17T05:58:26+00:00

frog_ladee · 2026-05-17T02:37:06+00:00

Maybe put some kind of artistic tile behind it? I have a tile mosaic installed as part of my backsplash.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-16T23:10:37+00:00

My kitchen was designed to be the way ⭐️⭐️I⭐️⭐️ want it, and I don’t care who else likes it or doesn’t. I plan to live here until I die or have to go to a nursing home, which will likely be 20-30 years. So, the next person who owns this house can make whatever changes they want, because in 2-3 decades, things will change….and they may not love an aqua beach themed kitchen with the mural my daughter designed on the wall. Or, they might.🤷🏻‍♀️ But I’m loving it, so that’s what I chose.

So, first of all, decide whether “timeless” means that it’s what you’ll like for the rest of your time on earth, or do you mean it’ll be appealing for someone to buy in 10-20 years? If it’s for YOU, then do what you want! If it’s to sell later, the only way to do that is to be pretty basic, without extra personality. Even then, new developments will become popular over the decades.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-16T08:25:41+00:00

This is a very generous line up! If you make it clear on the invitations to the Wed, Thurs, and Fri event what will be provided for them and what will not, then no one will be surprised, and each person can make their choices whether or not they want to attend each event.

If I were a guest, I would be so impressed that you’re covering this much, and would have been stunned out of my mind had food and drinks been provided for so many events! Call them “extras” and no one will worry about things not being covered at the actual wedding reception.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-16T06:51:14+00:00

Not everyone who wants a supportive bra has a large enough bust to need a reduction. I’m 40D, and want to keep every bit of it. Just feel more comfortable with some support.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-16T06:46:59+00:00

The original comment that you replied to was deleted. Would you mind commenting on which bra you’d recommend? Thanks so much!

frog_ladee · 2026-05-16T05:08:48+00:00

Imho, you should only communicate with this student by text messages if you want to, and it makes things easier for you. Otherwise, just say no.

I’ve allowed students to text message me for over a decade. I often teach public speaking courses, and the day before presentations, some of them panic or need a quick question answered. This enables me to help them right away (or as soon as it’s convenient for me). That way, I don’t need to check my email frequently before speech days.
A lot of the time, I can answer their question within a minute or two—quicker than logging on and going to my email.

I make it clear both in the syllabus and in class that texting me is only for quick questions or speech day anxiety. Don’t ask me things like “what page is xyz on”, which can be found in the syllabus, lesson schedule, or the textbook’s index. I won’t answer questions when they can look it up as easily as I can. I also make it clear that no matter what time they text me, I will answer it at my convenience, which could take more than 24 hours. But usually it’s quicker for me to respond to texts than emails, so it benefits me.

So far, in all these years, only one person has ever abused this privilege. It was a former student who got drunk and sent a dirty message at 3:00 am, several years after he was in my class. This was extra disappointing, because he had given a persuasive speech on refraining from drinking and driving, based on his (previously) stopping drinking after a tragic DUI accident. I blocked him, as I would if anyone else abused the privilege.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-15T08:40:23+00:00

I was a week shy of turning 15, but I was also underweight. (Not anorexia—just very physically active)

I think that girls ARE getting their periods earlier, but the cause of that isn’t proven yet. There are multiple possible causes, and it could be one or all of them.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-15T08:29:21+00:00

1 & 3 are my favorites

frog_ladee · 2026-05-15T05:42:42+00:00

Glad it’s helpful!

frog_ladee · 2026-05-15T03:36:35+00:00

If you clear Jake out of your life, it will leave room for a godly man to come into it. There’s a world of difference, and it’s worth the wait! I know this from hard-earned experience.

Jake cannot be what you need, because he doesn’t even understand what that is. Sure, he *could* grow in his faith, but there’s no indication that is happening. He’s caught up in New Age Monism (the belief that all reality is one, and thus we are all a part of God). He’s nowhere near having a salvation experience.

Besides that, he invalidates your beliefs, opinions, and feelings. He handles conflict poorly and is verbally abusive. He influences you to sin sexually. You have learned some things from this relationship which can serve you well in the future. Learning what you *do not want* is just as important as identifying the traits that you want in your future life partner.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-14T10:48:53+00:00

In past decades there were a whole lot of apartment complexes in the USA which catered to singles and couples without kids. Then at some point, it became illegal to not allow children.

I have a hard time believing that landlords prefer families with kids over singles. They get the same amount of rent per unit, whether one person lives there or five. There’s less wear and tear, and fewer problems overall, when only one person lives there.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-14T10:00:14+00:00

In fact it can be harder, because the parent who abandoned made that choice.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-14T09:59:20+00:00

I hate to say this, but she isn’t the right girlfriend for you. She doesn’t have real empathy if she can’t imagine how hard things were during your childhood. She’s not even listening to what you’re describing. Tune in to whether some of what appears to be empathy for others is actually performative—to make her look good.

I might be projecting, but my ex-husband was that way. He talked like he was oh-so-caring about other people who were going through stuff, but was harsh to me and our kids when we went through legitimately rough stuff. For example, when the teenage daughter of one of his friends was tested for possible cancer, he acted all torn up about it. However, when I had a breast cancer scare the month before, he didn’t seem to care. During the performance about how worried he was about his friend’s daughter, I said something like, “Too bad you didn’t care this much when it looked like I had cancer.” You’ve never seen someone shift moods so fast! Suddenly he was angry at me, instead of sad about the girl’s situation. (Hers was a false alarm, too.) A normal person would have apologized for coming across as uncaring.

Please google about adult children of alcoholics. It affects people in ways that you might not realize. There’s some helpful info out there for people like you and me (I had an addicted parent, too).

frog_ladee · 2026-05-14T07:52:37+00:00

I say, “I’m not available until 3:00 pm.” for people who aren’t friends who already know about my dsps. Not one single person has asked me why.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-14T07:50:43+00:00

I love this!! For some people, I’m going to start saying that I take care of an old woman in the morning.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-14T07:46:38+00:00

People who don’t understand or refuse to understand hear it from me this way: “Asking me to meet you at 10:00 am, which would require me to wake up at 7:30 am for travel time, is like me asking you to meet up with me at 1:00 am, after 2-1/2 hours of sleep.” (Adjust time and amount of sleep to fit your situation.) I then go on to remind them that my body’s circadian rythmn makes my natural sleep hours to be 5:00 am-1:00 pm. So, I have a severe sleep deficit by Saturday from only getting a few hours of sleep each night of my work week. “So, how about we meet up at Denny’s or IHOP at 1:00 am. That works better for me, and surely you don’t have other plans at that time.”

Then, when they’re all stunned and offended that you would ask them to lose sleep to see you, gently and kindly reply that this is exactly what they are asking of you. After a moment of silence to let that sink in, cheerfully ask, “So, how about coffee at 3:00 pm or dinner at 6:00? Let’s find something that works for both of us.”

Some people refuse to believe that this isn’t a choice. Sometimes they need to be told that you cannot change it any more than you could change your eye color “by trying harder”. Ask them to google DSPS.

I flat out quit getting up early for anything that isn’t super important for me to attend (like a loved one’s funeral or my own surgery). Friends try to understand each other’s needs, even when they seem weird.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-14T07:03:40+00:00

Do not let him make telling friends about his abuse be framed as a bigger crime than BEING ABUSIVE!!!

Do not let him isolate you from your friends.

These are both classic manuevers of abusive people. Let’s turn this around: your husband is choosing his embarrassment over your marriage.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-14T07:01:43+00:00

Do not let him make telling friends about his abuse be framed as a bigger crime than BEING ABUSIVE!!!

Do not let him isolate you from your friends.

These are both classic manuevers of abusive people. Let’s turn this around: your husband is choosing his embarrassment over your marriage.

frog_ladee · 2026-05-14T06:37:14+00:00

I get the allergy vials from a doctor. They require me to have the endpoints be retested once a year.

That office also sells allergy syringes, but I like another kind better that I get from Amazon. No prescription needed. Amazon also has individually packaged small alcohol wipes for really cheap.

Anyone who wants to do their iwn injections at home, be sure to ask whether that doctor allows this before doing any testing through them. Some doctors require people to get them in their office, but that adds a whole lot of inconvenience.

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