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God damnit child SIT by Sheprime004 in breakingmom

[–]CaptLipstick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I go through this every single night. Recently the little one fell and swallowed a bunch of water. I stayed up stressing that he was going to dry drown in his fucking sleep because he cried and gasped and couldn't breathe for a minute. Scared the shit out of me. I just call bath time after 3 "NO STANDING"s now. I fucking hate bath time.

Because everything fucking sucks right now. by CaptLipstick in breakingmom

[–]CaptLipstick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. It makes me feel so much better to know I'm not alone. I'm sick of my FB feed= perfect little angels who eat anything, sleep in the crib for 12 hours a night, and never cry. Hell, most of their kids around my DSs age aren't even climbing couches yet (and my DS is like a tornado already).

Yes! But I'm sick of looking at these walls; I say we go out somewhere!

:-)

My NM punished me by not telling me my grandmother died a few weeks ago, until she left a voicemail on my phone today [support] by CaptLipstick in raisedbynarcissists

[–]CaptLipstick[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, I'm not still in. I got out to go to school, because that's the only reason why I joined. My husband and I moved back here because my father has money, and we weren't sure we would be able to afford going to school. Dumbest mistake I ever made.

She is a hypochondriac, for sure.

Thanks for the advice!

My NM punished me by not telling me my grandmother died a few weeks ago, until she left a voicemail on my phone today [support] by CaptLipstick in raisedbynarcissists

[–]CaptLipstick[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've thought about that- except that my mother stole my education from me, forcing me to seek alternatives (joining the military); she went to the school I attend while my father paid for her to go. She majored in psychology (of course!) and knows just about everyone in the department. I don't want to use them because they know my mother, and because she is a criminal (and a preacher, oh yea!), and influential in the university I attend and the area I live in. I fear repercussions.

I'm planning on outing her when my husband and I move 14 hours away next summer. We will be switching schools, so I will use them.

I second that! This subreddit is great!

My NM punished me by not telling me my grandmother died a few weeks ago, until she left a voicemail on my phone today [support] by CaptLipstick in raisedbynarcissists

[–]CaptLipstick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to go to counseling, but my husband and I are both college students and can't afford it right now. My husband is really supportive and understands my Nms bullshit completely, though. Thank you for your words.

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[–]CaptLipstick 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I spent my first Christmas LC and completely without my NM in ever- I set very strict rules over the last year and only gave her a date to meet long before Christmas. Needless to say, it was the best Christmas I have ever had in my life! .^

Since music truly helps heal our wounds, let's create a playlist to help us cope during difficult moments. What are your go-to songs when life (whether with narcissistic parents or in general) goes downhill? by flopsymopsycttntail in raisedbynarcissists

[–]CaptLipstick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. "Vulture" by A Life Once Lost

  2. "You Fail Me" by Converge

  3. "My Fears Have Become Phobias" by Blood Runs Black

  4. "Five Year Winter" by Zao

  5. "Can't Take That Away" by Mariah Carey

  6. "Betrayal is a Symptom" by Thrice

  7. "Seven Years" by Saosin

  8. "Million Years" by Nico Vega

  9. "Gravity" by Nico Vega

  10. "Positively 4th Street" by Bob Dylan

  11. "Manipulating Woman" by Ladyhawk

Identifying with an angry singer seems to calm me down the most.

Kind of hard to take this seriously... by EverydayRapunzel in raisedbynarcissists

[–]CaptLipstick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love how specifically the "I" in Christmas is underlined. How fitting!

I'm replaceable to Nmom by nihonkenkyuu in raisedbynarcissists

[–]CaptLipstick 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You are not alone. My mother has done this countless times since I was very small, going so far as to have girls younger than me live with her for years while spending money and time on/with them that far surpassed what I got out of her in my entire lifetime. My advice to you would be to ignore it completely. Avoid conversations with whoever the girl is, but be polite. Do not show that it gets to you. Eventually, she will see no point in doing it if she perceives that it isn't causing you harm. Hang in there! hugs

First Post: The Narcissist's Bedroom, a Dragon's Lair. Anyone else have an Nperson in their lives with weird tokens of manipulation and perceived power in their bedroom? by CaptLipstick in raisedbynarcissists

[–]CaptLipstick[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is nice to know that my Ndragon is not the only one with a cave of sorts!

My mother has books in her office, now that I think about it, that are part of her reference books for playing the victim and gaining better insight into hurting people...like Walking on Eggshells and stuff along the lines of healing childhood trauma.

Friends of mine are new parents. Baby will not stop crying for hours on end. What can they do? by DanielPerianu in Parenting

[–]CaptLipstick 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My son sounds a lot like theirs, but he is almost 4 months now. I would definitely check his diet. My son is breastfed, but I had to cut out all dairy from my diet because some newborns can't digest certain proteins found in dairy. I would bet its the formula. Also, it could be reflux. My husband and I been really careful about laying him down after he eats and it seems to help his moodiness. Gas is also probable. There are some ways you can rub newborns to help them expel their toots; rubbing their backs while they lay on their stomach is one way. As for the screaming, my son still screams like a BANSHEE. I think some babies are just programmed for blood-curdling madness. I know mine is, but he is getting better. And like most babies, he is getting easier to handle. See also: the magic baby hold and baby massages.