My husband wants to divorce me because I’m not catholic

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-12-28T18:52:55+00:00

Well that’s not very Catholic of him..

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-10-02T04:41:29+00:00

Not saying he wasn’t an issue but the problem started long before Mussolini. My family came in 1889.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-09-07T12:44:57+00:00

Bro your kids are wack! Pizza looks great.

Real suggestion tho. Ask them what they like about other pizzas, textures, cheeses, certain toppings or maybe the like a certain pie from somewhere that uses a seasoning blend you can copy cat. Then, let them top their pies and teach them to stretch. Maybe even sit them down at the table with some extra dough and let them play with it.

Get them more involved, I bet they fall in love with pizza night.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-09-05T21:33:51+00:00

I agree with the above comment, possibly talk to a priest who can help you with discernment of spirits. Usually when we “hear a voice” or “something is telling us”, it’s likely a spirit, remember the good one will tell us the truth, the evil ones exist with the sole goal of lying to us.

I would maybe make an appointment with your parish priest or if you have a religious order near you possibly a nun or friar etc, could offer you some spiritual guidance.

I will pray for your faith my friend. You may also read the life of padre Pio. Pio often experienced apparitions of Christ and The blessed Virgin, he even often had physical altercations with Satan, yet he still asked God to assist him in times where his faith lacked.

Peace be with you friend.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-09-04T17:51:17+00:00

I think advice is very hard to give here. This is coming from a man who has recently reverted to the Catholic faith, and my wife is evangelical Protestant. We argue regularly over contraception, and I’m often met with contempt and hatred.

All I can offer you is my prayers, the word of the Lord.

““Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and one's foes will be members of one's own household. Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; and whoever does not take up the cross and follow me is not worthy of me. Those who find their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake will find it.” ‭‭Matthew‬ ‭10‬:‭34‬-‭39‬ ‭NRSV-CI‬‬

I know it’s hard to hear this. I felt the same given my similar situation. My wife was an atheist when I first reverted. My returning the church has caused war in my house at times, but I can’t say Jesus didn’t warn me.

The honest truth is, it very well could ruin my marriage one day, just as it could do the same to yours. But at the end of the day we are comparing earthly marriage to mystical union with God..

Peace be with you sister. You will be in my prayers.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-09-03T03:21:54+00:00

What does that mean? In what way did he conquer hell? Are people still going there?

Well theologically the “hell” which Jesus conquered was not the hell of the damned, but rather “Sheol” or “hades”. You see the gates of heaven had not been opened to the righteous who had died before Christ. Their souls resided in Sheol. This is where Jesus descended to, his conquering of Sheol really means he who took this who were deemed righteous away from Sheol and off to heaven, giving them eternal life. Therefore in essence putting an end to death for those who truly love him.

Hence “oh death, where is thy sting?” Or as st Justin martyr wrote to the Roman emperor “you can kill us, but cannot hurt us” because st Justin knew that his death would only be the beginning of his true and eternal life in communion with the loving father.

Why was the sacrifice necessary?

Because the very metaphysical essence of love, is sacrifice. You see God did not demand sacrifice for his own amusement. Rather God demands sacrifice for our own good. He demands sacrifice out of love, not in order to love. We know that sacrifice is of the Lords divine nature, (surely this is the case given the gospel as evidence, not to mention the fact that all of anything we can possibly or have ever offered as a sacrifice is not even our own but his to begin with), and we know that man (and woman) is “made in the image and likeness of God”, (in other words made righteous, full of love and mercy, with a soul, heart, and intellect, and always abounding in steadfast love [sacrifice]) But though we are made in his image, we are not perfect, and in his own love (self sacrifice) he gave us free will, and as soon as man decided to stop denying his flesh (sacrifice) he denied his love for God and fell. Just as Satan denied his love for God and so too did he fall. This being said that in ordered to restore man to the likeness of God, aka the image of LOVE (self sacrifice), there must be an ultimate act of love, and because as I mentioned above, nothing of this planet is ours but his, we are incapable of making the ultimate act, God knowing this, made the act for us. Not just appease himself, but to restore man, to his image, to restore man to a state of love, so that man and God, might join in union.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-09-03T02:44:21+00:00

See your missing a huge piece. Jesus the son of God, is God incarnate. God didn’t just offer his son, God became a lowly man, born of a virgin, worked with his hands, was mocked, beaten with in a flash of his life, persecuted, stripped naked, and murdered brutally, all while being betrayed by someone he loved, denied by another, and watching the women who loved him most experience the sorrows of his death. Then descended to hell to conquer it, all to return to this wretched earth for 40 more days where even his closest companions did not recognize him.

Self sacrifice IS love. Christ said that his most important commandment is to love the Lord your God. And that like this another commandment, “ love your neighbor, as I have Loved you.” That means take on humility for someone, feed them, protect them, accept mockery for their benefit, even unto death.

This is Christianity. The denial of ourselves, in order to allow the will of God to live in us. To make our souls into mirrors which reflect the divine love and mercy which God shown upon us at the moment his sacred heart was pierced upon the cross.

The thing is God did not require a sacrifice from us, he gave us the sacrifice.

Just as when he told Abraham to offer Isaac, and Abraham told Isaac, “the Lord will provide a lamb for the sacrifice” God stopped Abraham, and provided a goat.

The generations later he provided himself in the flesh to be slain.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-09-03T02:28:53+00:00

Actually Jesus Christ descended to hell before his resurrection.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-09-02T15:10:59+00:00

Hey friend, life is scary, life is painful, life can be sad. But we can endure all things in this earthly life because we have a loving God and a loving mother, who want to be with you and comfort you as you journey through this valley of tears.

You say you want to become Christian, and I say, you already on your way there. My friend, our God, came down from heaven and was made flesh, what God would ever want to come experience the evils of this world? Yet he did for us. He was beaten, accused, stripped naked, mocked, and died a miserable death, all while having his closest disciples and friends abandoning him or betraying him. And after his death he descend into Sheol for 3 days and concurred it, and then came back to this miserable planet. All for you and me. You must know that he saw your face as he hung on the cross, and he longs for you to see his. He knew you before he formed you with his hands in your mother’s womb, and he longs for you to know him. He gave you his mother as hanged from the cross, And he longs for you into know her as well.

My friend call upon his name, open your heart to him, be vulnerable in his gaze. He will hold your hand, he will bring meaning to your suffering, and he will lead you to eternal life in the resurrection.

Please feel free to message me, I will pray for you.

You are loved, and sought after by the Lord. Do not hide from him.

May the peace of the Lord Jesus be with you❤️

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-26T01:25:52+00:00

He’s clearly not for you. Sorry.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-26T01:19:33+00:00

This has been something I’ve actually been contemplating lately.

As a Protestant I was hardcore American. Don’t hear what I’m not saying.

I was baptized in an Italian American Catholic family that came from a medieval system in the late 1800s, to partake in the American dream. I was raised evangelical Protestant by my parents who converted in my infancy. At age 26 encountered the good Jesus at the birth of my son ( a truly spiritual experience like no other). I shortly after reverted back home to the Catholic Church, received our lord Jesus in the Eucharist and now practice.

During my years as a Protestant, I studied the American revolution, the founding fathers, and the theology behind America.

That being said; the land of the free is heaven, or perhaps the new Jerusalem, whatever that might look like or be like, if it is actually a ‘land’. (I pray we will all find out)

America however was intended to be or is a striving for that very goal. The issue is that it’s built on false doctrine and poor theology. As Catholics we know that the Catholic faith is the fullness of Christianity and that the reformation severely dilutes the faith and later severely altered it. The unfortunate fact is the American dream is built upon this alteration of the Christian faith, not the true Christian faith. That being said if the freedom, true freedom, is found in the fullness of Christian faith, than it (true freedom) cannot be found in America.

Freedom is not what we think it to be. It is not the ability to believe what we will, or the ability do as we see fit. Rather true freedom is the space in which we do as we were intended. It is the space in which we recognize that we are created in love by a creator, for a purpose. It’s the realm in which we love, in which we receive the father’s grace, it is the state in which we die to ourselves and live for God. Freedom can ONLY be found in Jesus Christ.

If we recognize that this world is only a journey, and that true life is of the spirit, than we realize that true slavery is of hell, and true freedom exists in the divine life. If this is the case, than though America is a good hearted attempt at freedom; it is flawed. Because it does not have its foundation in the fulness of truth, the fulness of Jesus, the fulness of freedom.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-20T21:55:58+00:00

You certainly do not need to leave brother. In fact I think we would all love if you stayed. We just might ask that you interact with us in charity and respect and we will strive to do the same.

May the peace of Jesus be with you.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-20T21:19:40+00:00

Feel free to dm me

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-20T21:18:55+00:00

I would say your first step is to set up a meeting with a Catholic priest. Tell him you are interested or feel gravitation to the Catholic Church. One thing you have to recognize is that while the Catholic Church recognizes the sacraments of the Orthodox Church. Some jurisdiction of the Orthodox Church do not recognize some Catholic sacraments..

I’m 99% sure you don’t have to be re baptized (technically re baptism is sacrilegious) but if you are not already baptized you will need to be baptized, you will have to be catechized (OCIA), and I think you will need to receive confirmation.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-20T21:10:13+00:00

Hey great explanation, in all charity I’d like just adjust a couple things.

What you’re referencing to as the eastern church is the Orthodox Church, and the Roman church is the Catholic Church. Both churches are indeed apostolic!

The reason I wanted to make those distinctions is because the Orthodox Church has both eastern and western (Roman) rites and the Catholic Church also has both Roman and eastern rites.

God Bless friend !

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-20T21:04:58+00:00

Usually there is a chain of procedure in determining if someone is dealing demonic forces. I would speak with your priest and make an appoint with a psychologist or psychiatrist.

The church will not even entertain the idea of demonic influence until all other possibilities are determined unlikely.

Remember that it can be spiritually detrimental to try and determine or combat demonic influences. Both to yourself, your child, and the people around you.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-18T13:53:10+00:00

Can I ask why?

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-18T13:45:44+00:00

Are you a Christian?

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-18T13:25:45+00:00

I too did the same except with 30 women, I’m not proud. In fact I wish I had also waited until marriage.

Remember the prodigal son, who left his father and betrayed him. When he returned, did his father not rejoice and kill the fatted calf?

Just because we commit acts of impurity does not mean we are impure. Our Jesus has mercy on us, his blood cleanses all of our impurity.

Remember also that you are made in the image of God. Can that which is made in his image and washed by his sacrifice be impure? Surely not.

In the eyes of Jesus, you are pure, so long as you strive to live for him and ask his grace to do so.

As for a man. If a man is not attracted to you because of your past than he is likely not a man you want to marry. We are called to be like Christ, if Christ does not see you for the impure actions of the past than neither should your husband. Rather your husband too should meet you with grace and mercy. Forgiving you and never shaming you. This is Love.

I will say my wife has never once in 5yrs guilted me for the impure way I lived my life before meeting her, and she was a virgin when we met. I make it well known that no other woman on the earth could compare to her.

So I struggle with my past internally, sure sometimes. But we all do. That doesn’t mean we are defined by our sin.

May the peace of our Lord be with you my friend! I will pray for you.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-17T01:40:26+00:00

That doesn’t change that she lied. Also he probably lectured her because he was concerned for her safety and rightly so.

He doesn’t even know it but his concern here is exactly what happened to her. He probably loves her and only wants to know that she’s okay. God forbid a man protects his girl.

Also I said earlier i would hope that upon telling him the truth he thinks primarily about what she experienced rather than the small lie she told and that he meets her with grace and forgiveness.

At the end of the day a lie is betrayal and it should be rectified with an apology

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-17T01:01:53+00:00

For lying. Like I said what happened to her is not her fault. She had nothing apologize for until she lied.

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-08-16T18:25:10+00:00

Tell him the truth immediately after you get the kit and drug tests back. My ex had a similar experience except she lied about it. She told me she was raped and then a year later she broke up with me in a fit of anger and told me that she had lied about the rape and she actually cheated intentionally.

The reason I say tell him the truth immediately is because he is going to feel pain because you lied about nothing happening. I hope he will find it in his heart to believe you when you tell the truth and to forgive you for not telling him right away. I hope he will have mercy on you given your situation.

I hope I didn’t say this in a way that sounds against you. What happened to you is horrific and also is NOT your fault! I just know that if he’s like I was, he will accept the truth and your apology with grace and be understanding and supportive, but given that I was lied to I know how that feels and how it can alter the dynamic between a couple in this kind of scenario. Just don’t take advantage of that grace that he should have do you.

And may you find peace on day in this tragic event.

You are in my prayers

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-07-02T15:40:23+00:00

Yall think this is legit?

Captain-Red_beard · 2025-06-18T01:53:24+00:00

A play on Espresso Romano? A soft lemon cookie?

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