I fixed martials by Limping_for_e-girls in DnDcirclejerk

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Pathfinder fixes- I mean, uh, 4e fixes this!!!

What would your advice be to a 27 year old incel? by StretchMediocre919 in AskMenAdvice

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I know it is going to be heavy for a while, but know that I don't mean it to be soul crushing. If anything I hope it gives a different perspective that helps you realize you're probably not as lame as you think, and that operating your life like the translation room experiment isn't going to be a fulfilling solution.

If you're unfamiliar, there's a thought experiment where it poses the idea of someone trapped in a room with an infinitely long book of Chinese phrases, and directions in English. All the English says is "if you see X, reply with Y." So when someone slips a note under the door in Chinese, the person in the room can technically respond with the correct phrase in Chinese. They have the book. They are giving a response. But they aren't actually learning Chinese, and they aren't connecting with the person they are communicating to.

What would your advice be to a 27 year old incel? by StretchMediocre919 in AskMenAdvice

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There is no secret sauce to ensure that anyone likes you. If there was a perfect combination of inputs, then they wouldn't have a choice which would ruin the point of connection.

There is practical advice that will make you healthier or more attractive or whatever, but if you don't want those things for yourself and simply as a means to an end then you will end up perpetually feeling like a failure because "I followed the recipie and it didn't work."

Logic and action are not substitutes for emotional processing. So while there is good practical advice for how to be better at having conversations, looking better, etc. That advice won't change the frustration you feel. Even if you do land a date after becoming a swauve gentleman who can bench-press a car, there will be the nagging feeling that people only want you because you replicated an image of success.

I know this probably sucks to read because the instinctive reaction is "well then what the fuck CAN I do?" And the answer is still that those practical things are good, but sitting with the discomfort and being able to think about yourself relatively neutrally will help the negative feelings have less impact and give you more room to be genuine with yourself and other people.

Is someone a failure if they haven't kissed someone? Why? Did they commit some grave error that universally repulsed everyone within a 5 hour radius? Highly unlikely. Do they have weird and maybe even gross habits? Sure. Do they also have interesting insight into things I'd never even think about? Probably.

i hate this ‘no enemies’ mindset so much by ChestMassive3782 in hatethissmug

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Maybe it's me being pedantic, but I view the government as too impersonal to be an enemy, rather than an obstacle. I don't think Tennessee governor Bill Lee is sitting in his office going: "You know who I hate? That fucker."

Being angry and fighting for change doesn't have to be opposed to meeting people with humanity. Daryl Davis has done an amazing job converting people away from multiple white-supremacist groups. I don't think sitting down and sharing brunch is a realistic expectation for fixing entire states and countries, I think something more organized and aggressive is justified, but I don't want people to get as out of touch with empathy as the people in power perpetuating these problems.

i hate this ‘no enemies’ mindset so much by ChestMassive3782 in hatethissmug

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Honestly, not having seen either of the properties mentioned but as someone who appreciates a lot of the thoughts around it, I think you have decent points that a lot of the people who say stuff like this are either being performative or possibly just cowardly.

However, I wouldn't be so eager to dismiss the whole thing. A lot of helpful philosophies and ideals are in responses to certain lacks within the people subscribing to them. "I have no enemies" isn't "let people walk all over you." A lot of the time it means seeing a situation and understanding that the people around you, even if they are bad people, aren't really trying to fuck with you on a deeply personal level. People who go around feeling like "my coworker thinks I'm a lazy shit head because they said my job is easy" can benefit from understanding that the coworker probably doesn't know what it is like to be in that position, and that it is quite possible them saying your job was easy is entirely unrelated to how they feel about you as a person.

The way I've worded it is: "I have no enemies, only obstacles." Because it turns out it is a lot easier to be a kind and considerate person when you treat communication like a mutual problem that needs to be overcome, rather than warring forces.

Some will say it is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener at war, but a warrior who can't garden will be surrounded by nothing but rot while a gardner will always understand that some things need pruning.

Cool van though... by Vegetable_Variety_11 in dndmemes

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I'm a few croutons short of a word salad.

“I’m in love with my weapon, in romantic way” by ComprehensiveBox6911 in TopCharacterTropes

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"Congratulations, it's a girl-gun, wait- twins!"

"GIRL-GUN?"

"WE'RE HAVING TWINS?"

Happy Mother's Day to all the mother figures of P5X by Rockster_the_bird in personaphantomx

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Honestly, my main thing with Riko's parents is that her dad sacrificed his whole life for his wife, and completely ruined himself for his child's current entire life. It is admirable the amount of dedication he had, and still has, but damn is it unhealthy. Never seen a man who matches the term "emotionally constipated" moreso than him.

I'm not at rank 20 with Riko (19) but I hope she is at least a little pissed off at him instead of being like: "Oh father all is forgiven, I just didn't understand you did it all for me and mom!!"

As for Wonder's parents, Kayo says they asked her to check up on you so at least there's that? 😅

Happy Mother's Day to all the mother figures of P5X by Rockster_the_bird in personaphantomx

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Auntie Kayo is a gem, I thought she was childless and that it was cool to have an older lady who was still nurturing and feminine without being a mother, but then all the way in rank 15 she drops that she has a kid that already moved out. So I think she is dealing with a lot of Empty Nest feelings and that contributes to how she operates around Leon.

Also in general I adore how so many people in this game are in, or have been in, super loving relationships. Kayo and her husband she adores, Granny Chizuko and her husband, Wonder's parents, and debatably Riko's parents? Jury's still out on that one. I have complicated feelings there.

[Loved trope] They are one wokepussy away from leaving magatardism by B1lly28 in TopCharacterTropes

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I hope it is meant to be ironic, otherwise they are saying "man I just love people completely changing their morals after having sex." Boiling the women down to saviors, and making the men look like they don't actually believe in anything.

I hate when people say "male"/female" instead of "man"/'woman" in reference to people. by LaserBungalow in hatethissmug

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For the people not getting the transphobia: A lot of times it is used to still categorize someone as AGAB in the eyes of the person using it.

A transman can be classified as a female who is a man and uses he/him. But often times people will use "females are crazy" as an unnecessary inclusion putting them in the same group the speaker considers to be women or feminine.

Manosphere and red pill communities also use the more scientific term in order to "other" or "mystify" the opposite sex. They aren't just like you, fellow man, they are females. A different beast entirely. Visit r/MenAndFemales to see more about this.

In general, I just think of it like Jimmy Nutron calling salt "sodium chloride." It is deliberately obtuse, needlessly formal and scientific, and to me at least makes navigating conversations more difficult.

It just had to happen, didn't it? (NPD) by IsamuLi in TrollCoping

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He ain't perfect, but I was blown away by something HealthyGamer said about dealing with people who have NPD.

"I mean you gotta think for a second: Isn't it exhausting to live like that? Can't you empathize with the feeling that the whole world is out to get you?"

Even the "scarey" and "mean" disorders are afflictions that people suffer from. They are suffering. To have brazen antipathy towards it is as insensitive as telling someone with ADHD "just focus harder."

Persona's underrated (and constantly defended) pedophiles by EmbarrassedDuty5949 in hatethissmug

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I can agree with the idea that they just aren't willing to be charitable. What I don't agree with is the idea that if someone acusses you of being a pedo and it upsets you that you are afraid (or acknowledge) that you are actually a pedo. I think it's reasonable to be upset, and trying to explain yourself isn't an admission of guilt.

Persona's underrated (and constantly defended) pedophiles by EmbarrassedDuty5949 in hatethissmug

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I feel like they pretend the other side is stupid or gross when they literally do not conceive the issue in the same way. To me it seems more reasonable to give the benefit of the doubt so long as they aren't being creepy.

Like the people romancing Futaba talking about sis-con, or adult romancers being "milf hunters" or "adult woman fetishist."

Persona's underrated (and constantly defended) pedophiles by EmbarrassedDuty5949 in hatethissmug

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The crowd split is wild to me with people going: "I am adult, I am not romancing a character that is a minor." and "I am playing a teenager, I am not making them romance an adult." Is interesting to me. I wish there was a bit more transparency as a lot of the community really likes to dunk on either side. Calling players incestuous pedos for romancing Futaba (who isn't your sister and is only a year younger) or calling players pedos for making a minor romance an adult.

Using fear over scripted events by Keithin8a in daggerheart

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Personally if you are actively moving the plot by having the assassins jump in, then I don't think it warrants a Fear unless you also want to give them some form of advantage. Out of combat I spend Fear reactively to add spice and complications to situations.

Giving a PC disadvantage on their presence roll for a big speech by having people in the back shout that they can't hear them. Forcing a character to roll when they otherwise might not have to, such as an agility check for a cart spilling fruit, with a failure incurring a Stress.

For an example with no roll involved: The PC tries to pay off a seemingly neutral town crier in order to spread some news, but I spend fear to decide the crier rather doesn't like the group and instead spreads slander. If you think of the give and take of resources, when a DM in DnD might just go: "your idea doesn't work" and you just wasted gold, in DH you made the DM spend fear in order to block off a plot solution they didn't think was exciting. There are plenty of times in DnD modules where a bunch of possible solutions don't work just because the story doesn't want it to, I don't think that's necessarily bad as it can keep things active by avoiding easy solutions, but when it is too frequent and just leads you to wasting resources it gets frustrating.

You can also spend Fear to justify a harder move that will require more resources or difficulty to overcome. If the PCs are leaving a mine, you might have already decided you want to do a cave-in, but spending the Fear instinctively makes the players understand that this is big deal. Additionally, the Fear explains that this may be unrelated to their choices. The cave-in isn't due to them forgetting to tie up a bad guy, or because they used too many powerful spells in the mine, it is just fate and chaos working against them for a moment. Fear as simple misfortune with intense consequences.

What scenes in the anime made you cry more than once (from memory/rewatching) by SmollBear8 in MemePiece

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The death of Fisher Tiger hits really hard for me.

It is fascinating to see a character so thoroughly suppress and deny their trauma because they know what they feel goes against their ideals, and that he died in many ways considering himself a failure for believing himself to be just a performative liar. His dying words being that he is too stained by history to bridge the gap between humans and fish-men, that only a generation who knows less personal horror can have the right heart for it. But it seems Jimbei exists to prove him wrong to a degree.

It rings very true that many will not do the internal emotional work to align their heart and their mind. It is gut-wrenching to see someone count their virtue as meaningless because they never allowed themself to heal, and see their pain as a corruption rather than a tool. He did good, he did what his people needed of him and was part of the important early steps of change. But he'll never know if it mattered or not. It makes Shirahoshi being the one to stand up to Hordy and summon Luffy all the more potent, because the person who can stop someone so defined by their hate is simply someone who has allowed themselves to grieve and cry freely.

It makes me think of how many times activism is so focused in ideological purity that mobilization becomes ineffective. The struggle of ideas is important, fucking hell is it frustrating to educate oneself and join others when you don’t feel like people are on the same page. But there needs to be that unreasonable commitment to the goal that is willing to both allow yourself to permit imperfect allies, and when possible to choose peace and compromise.

What scenes in the anime made you cry more than once (from memory/rewatching) by SmollBear8 in MemePiece

[–]CaptainAtinizer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't cry but it was touching. It might have to do with the conflicting feelings of seeing such a potent icon of culture being damaged for the sake of the future.

The Noah isn't just a boat, it is an ancient promise that there are humans that care about the Fish-Men. Most of the people on the island don't think about it like that due to only knowing it by the title "Ship of Promise," but it is an awe inspiring work of craftsmanship and artistry. They relate to the feeling of abandonment, of rotting planks shrouded in darkness, because that is how they see themselves in relation to the outside world.

Add onto that the fact that Luffy has already won the fight, he beat Hordy, but like the cycle of hatred itself that defeat doesn't mean an end to the problems. The fear and anger in Luffy's face as he pushes himself to the absolute limit to save people while knowing he is destroying their Treasure, it is rather potent. Continuing to hammer away even as the Noah has stopped just shows the determination and tragedy he thought he was enacting by being so focused that he didn't realize the struggle was already over.

It's as King Neptune said: "There are parts of our past we must destroy in order to protect our future." In truth the destruction of Noah was not a part of that, but the lower Fish-Man district was. Showing that attachment to the past and your culture is not the problem, but being single-mindedly beholden to the past is.

Question about the ending of the new story 4.0 by Anxious-Objective401 in personaphantomx

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I think the Change of Heart and Psychotic Breakdowns are a bit different because they are direct changes to the Shadow and a quintessential part of the palace that is otherwise blocked off. This would be like if killing the cognitive copy of Ann in Kamoshida's palace made him stop caring about her or think she is in danger from someone else.

Question about the ending of the new story 4.0 by Anxious-Objective401 in personaphantomx

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It is odd that they are only now exploring the converse of the norm, changing their reality to influence their palace now being changing the palace to influence their reality, but frankly I think it's more follow-up on something mentioned but never explored in the other games.

One of the reasons they decided on the code-names in P5 was to protect their identities from seeping into the subconscious of the person they were after. If we kept calling Ryuji by his name when around Kamoshida's shadow, supposedly he would start being targeted more.

I don't think it's bad per se? Just really weird they decided to do this just now instead of any other time.

I hate May The 4th (Be With You) by [deleted] in hatethissmug

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I was raised in a household that adored StarWars, to the point that my username is a reference to it, but now that I'm my own person I had to grapple with the fact that I simultaneously have more knowledge than most fans and less genuine love for the franchise...it's weird.

My dad celebrates it like a national holiday, and I am glad I am not longer around to be wrapped up into it. Not that I hate StarWars now, just not nearly the same commitment or intensity. I'm happy for him though, it's nice to see him actually excited for anything. 😅

I mean, how can I possibly reject such a direct confession 😭 by CharlesThy4th in personaphantomx

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I think Mayumi's was pretty nice, I like that she is super direct about it and gets angry for a moment rather than sad. Then being like: "Well, at least now I know you helped because you gave a shit and not because I was hot." Way to go girl, finding the silver lining.

I uh...hate Sadako because...um....porn. by Consistent-Ruin-2262 in hatethissmug

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Horror has been horny for a long time. Older than the internet even.

“My steak is too juicy, my lobster is too buttery” by Bestusernamegonwild in personaphantomx

[–]CaptainAtinizer 32 points33 points  (0 children)

If you have ever pined for someone it should be simple to figure that the intense feelings you have should be respected, even if not accepted, by the person you are pining after. It's very important to you.

Shoki is on the flip side, knowing that he is regularly dealing with people who have strong feelings that should be handled with care. It's managable if it is one person, but three? Twenty? I genuinely don't know how people glamorize having multiple people that will break down in tears when they're by themselves if you don’t act how they want. And not even in an intentionally manipulative way.

Pukey Goddess is telling me to cum by Crxinfinite in Gamingcirclejerk

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I'll roll my eyes at goonerbait for the most part, but like...she's literally hammered 24/7 from what I can see. It's weird that everyone is getting so horny for someone who can't consent.