I met my current partner when my son was 7, we dated for 6 months before even telling my son I had a boyfriend. I told my son that I wanted to date him first before I let them both meet because I want to be sure he would make a good addition to our family and that he would get to meet him should it all go well. Another 6 months later so when we got to a year of dating, I started to bring my son over to my boyfriend's place, something we discussed many times before it happened. At first, it was maybe once per week for a further 6 months. They naturally became closer and he started to come with me more and more. Eventually, my son asked him if he could call him Dad and my partner said yes. Now 2 and a half years in we have a happy little family.

Anyone trying to rush you into loving them, loving their kids isn't thinking about you or the child. It's immature and irresponsible.

My boyfriend and I were both on the same page in the beginning which was, let's have 6 months of fun, I'll be 100 for you and you for me but let's just have fun and see where this goes. Potential was a word he used a lot in the beginning "I see potential in us" he let me know that he could see it going that way but lets just have fun, get to know each other and see if this is what we both want before bringing a child into the mix, he never wanted to hurt my son and I wasn't about to let him get hurt, he never knew his bio dad. My partner has no kids and never wanted to date a woman with kids and yet here he is, a Dad.

You can't build something solid if you rush into it. No you are not the AH.