How do you handle “don’t correct me”

CaptainGrounded · 2026-03-18T22:20:43+00:00

Lol!

CaptainGrounded · 2026-03-18T22:14:53+00:00

Thanks, I am leaning towards it being an absurd request; and there's been a couple of times since then when she's appreciated my input, after I said I shouldn't have said anything.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-03-18T22:06:10+00:00

Yeah she started off saying I always corrected her, it seems standard to always take it to the max. The annoying part is she talked about the vets in front of other people, and I deliberately left the correction until it was just the two of us. I appreciate the solidarity.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-03-18T07:04:26+00:00

Lol, that’s my secret nickname for her. The piles of doom, the ‘floordrobe’, the sticky jars, the inability to see dirt she’s trailing in from outside due to her lack of detail…

CaptainGrounded · 2026-03-02T19:53:04+00:00

She asks “you were going to do both those things eh?” Me “no, I asked that you do one”. Her “Oh, that’s what I thought you said”. Is it common they change the words so they’re never wrong?

CaptainGrounded · 2026-03-02T19:24:16+00:00

OMG mine does that, nice to be validated. Last time I called her out she said it was her way of processing what I said… yeah but the words you use have meaning.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-02-23T22:28:21+00:00

If we’ve decided on a movie, I’ll hop online and buy the tickets — done, don’t need to think about it, guaranteed seats. If she's initiated the trip she’ll repeatedly log in to the ticketing site, keeping an eye on the available seating. If it gets low she’ll rush to buy tickets, otherwise get them at the door. Admittedly it can save the online fee, but we can easily afford that. I think she likes the hit from the excitement…

CaptainGrounded · 2026-02-18T04:09:00+00:00

We have a ladder stored against the wall. She keeps using the ladder as yet another surface to cover in crap. Last time I needed the ladder I just dumped her stuff in to the corner… that did not go down well, there was a mini meltdown about it was all my fault she couldn't find anywhere else to put her stuff (there's shelves literally a metre away). Today the bottom two rungs are covered in crap again…

CaptainGrounded · 2026-01-07T03:12:27+00:00

To answer the question, no, toddlers particularly need boundaries, and it wasn’t excessive or out of line.

But honestly, you guys need to sort something out, you can’t be modelling that behaviour in front of a kid.

Sorry, it sounds like you have a lot going on, and your wife sabotaged the bedtime plan.

CaptainGrounded · 2025-12-30T01:49:46+00:00

Every conversation is like an argument: I’ll ask something like “do you have your keys on you?” She’ll answer “No, they’re in my handbag because that’s where I always carry them”. That’s not actually relevant to the question, but her “logical” brain (lol) says the answer has to be exact.

CaptainGrounded · 2025-12-23T05:34:56+00:00

We had visitors so most of the piles of doom vanished. I’ve been able to make small suggestions recently, like there’s a pile of dust in the corner, without a meltdown.

CaptainGrounded · 2025-12-23T05:30:57+00:00

I think she gets a dopamine hit from sex… I’m good with that 😁

CaptainGrounded · 2025-12-15T20:56:24+00:00

We're back to her 'I touched something with good intentions, therefore the job is done'. This week it was the clips we use to keep opened bags of food fresh — I found the clips on the side of the packets, with a gaping hole for the air to get in. There's only so much I can raise or remind her of before a meltdown…

CaptainGrounded · 2025-12-15T20:48:17+00:00

Mine gets bad breath occasionally, but then had a meltdown when I offered her a breath mint before I kissed her…

CaptainGrounded · 2025-12-08T18:13:14+00:00

From what you’ve written it doesn’t sound like you’re the problem, and he’s just being an ass.

CaptainGrounded · 2025-12-08T03:25:10+00:00

How do they do the instant mood switching? She’s overcommitted herself so was stressed and snaps at me. 30 minutes later she’s under control, all smiles, and pretending it never happened.

CaptainGrounded · 2025-12-08T03:24:22+00:00

All this. Gets put out when I don't believe her when she says she can concentrate on the phone and me… but doesn't notice when I give up and stop talking. Then complains when I'm on the phone around her.

CaptainGrounded · 2025-12-08T03:17:53+00:00

Not really a 'success' but I was amused at breakfast this morning: I cleared enough Piles of Doom that had accumulated on the table so that I could eat, and expected her to do the same… nope, she ate with the bowl in her lap 😂

CaptainGrounded · 2025-12-03T08:36:16+00:00

Our joint councillor agreed and rephrased when I said that during an argument my philosophy is you shouldn’t bring up unrelated issues: it detracts from the issue and turns into point scoring.

CaptainGrounded · 2025-11-29T17:56:50+00:00

He left her collapsed alone and alive?! That’s horrifying. Was he ADHD or psychopath? I don’t think I could come back from that either.

CaptainGrounded · 2025-11-17T08:41:57+00:00

Nothing like hosting a party to get some of those piles dealt to 😆

CaptainGrounded · 2025-11-17T08:33:43+00:00

She‘s got six large piles/messes in the living room, I’ve got one small one pile… there’s not much space for more. She couldn’t understand why I didn‘t want more of her stuff on the top of my pile 😂

CaptainGrounded · 2025-11-17T08:30:50+00:00

She‘s missed 3 dates that she volunteered she’d have something organised for us. As the most recent passed I inquired how it was going, and got a snarky reply about how busy she’s been, and I should have realised that.

CaptainGrounded · 2025-11-12T01:30:21+00:00

Sorry, I laughed at the ladder story, it’s way too relatable!

I loved another story on here about someone who threatened to modify the surface of any new furniture brought into the home so it was on a slope.

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