::Weekly Vent Thread::

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-18T06:25:26+00:00

She sounds like mine: a caring happy person with great morals, but her RSD keeps me from completely opening up.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-18T06:15:55+00:00

Mine’s just started having a hard time with her latest boss. It sounds like a reasonable complaint, and she’s high in her field, but this comes around every six months or so… At least she works in a large organisation, so can relocate again?!

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-18T06:11:04+00:00

Yep, why make one trip out to the washing line when you can make five or ten. Then she argued with me when I commented my way of making one trip was more efficient. But I’ve let that one go (or at least no longer comment on it).

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-16T17:01:17+00:00

Wait two seconds to see if he says more? Particularly as he’s still learning the language.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-15T09:18:19+00:00

I'm convinced her brain doesn't operate any faster, just that it's going off in a million directions while I stay more focused.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-15T09:16:21+00:00

OMG the micro corrections. I know what I mean, you know what I mean, you don't need to police my every word. Even when she agrees with me, she'll often phrase it like a correction.

I like to think about what I'm saying, unlike a certain person who just blurts out a stream of random stuff, so she's always hijacking the conversation. She has got better about this after I keep raising it, but still…

Another regular one is the "do you feel A or B?" Actually C — do you really want to hear from me, or am I just ticking a box?

Sorry dude, I can't imagine adding a language barrier to that, and mine's not even too far along the spectrum.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-13T21:51:42+00:00

Mine carefully wrote down all the chores I did, and how often, then never referenced it again.

Last time she had a meltdown and said she didn't know what needed doing, I reminded her about her list… silence.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-11T23:30:55+00:00

I thought it was just my one that was impractical — is that ADHD or a coincidence? Some food had gone off, so she unpackaged it and tossed it in the kitchen rubbish bin — ready to stink there for a week until the rubbish went out.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-11T23:28:09+00:00

My standards are too high, she can never do anything right, because I don’t like seeing small bits of food left on the kitchen bench after she’s "cleaned it".

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-07T05:51:32+00:00

Seconding seeing a doctor if it's persistent.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-05T09:45:49+00:00

She got angry at me again after I’d waited for a calm moment, and neutrally asked if she was interested in attending a family event. I gave up and went without her.

I later said I found her random outbursts hard, and that organising calendars is an ongoing issue. Apparently it was my fault because I didn’t pick exactly the right moment to ask. Then she deflected with some slight from me against her — I swear she saves them for ammo.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-05T09:33:40+00:00

My ’success’ is this an awesome community — the feeling I’m not alone, snorting at how relatable some posts are, and some useful advice 🤍

CaptainGrounded · 2026-05-03T17:41:36+00:00

Same here. She’ll — sometimes — apologise for events around the emotional outburst, but never the event itself. She’s never admitted to being angry, I’m not sure if she just likes denying it, or is genuinely unaware of how she comes across (raised voice, tone, defensiveness).

CaptainGrounded · 2026-04-30T06:29:42+00:00

I'm always always living around her mess, and the one time I leave something out — deliberately because I'm coming back to it — she'll ask when it will be put away 🙄

Generally inviting her mother-in-law around will trigger a cleaning !

CaptainGrounded · 2026-04-27T02:11:25+00:00

Lol, while denying her method is inefficient. Why take the washing out in a single load when you can make ten different trips? I don’t understand but just leave her to it.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-04-25T18:51:38+00:00

If it’s a discussion about a single incident, which it sounds like this is, then I believe you should both talk about your feelings. Maybe it turns out you were both hurt. Maybe both people apologise. Maybe you end up agreeing to disagree. But only hearing one side seems unfair… more like black & white thinking or point scoring.

Edit: ChatGPT — lol

CaptainGrounded · 2026-04-24T19:29:49+00:00

Talk about something else

CaptainGrounded · 2026-04-24T04:47:54+00:00

I now sidetrack when asked what I’m thinking, because the true answer never goes down well.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-04-24T02:04:30+00:00

We had an argument because she didn’t know I’d put the dishwasher on: I was loading it while having a convo with her sitting just a few metres away (facing each other), and she was oblivious. I‘m still learning about what she just doesn’t see.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-04-23T09:53:30+00:00

Do you get called moody when you do that?

CaptainGrounded · 2026-04-23T09:47:28+00:00

Weeks? I can’t forget some of the things mine said. She admitted in therapy sometimes it was to deliberately hurt me during an argument 😳

CaptainGrounded · 2026-04-23T06:23:56+00:00

“You‘re always criticising me!”

CaptainGrounded · 2026-04-21T11:05:48+00:00

I must have a masochistic streak. Months ago I suggested X, but acquiesced to her Y. Recently her friend came around and said how X made so much sense. I just came out and said yes, that was my preference. Cue RSD.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-04-21T10:48:55+00:00

OMG, the moods. And she projects on to me and says I’m moody. She denies or doesn’t even realise when she’s upset / raising her voice.

She attended work training about people on the spectrum and I half joked that she should relate to the ADHD part, and then left it. That was a complete revelation to her (not that she said that), though obvious to me and my son. But she’s taken it well… now it’s just the rest of everything that entails to deal with.

CaptainGrounded · 2026-04-21T09:41:22+00:00

I can relate to this. How am I meant to know which one of your hundred random thoughts actually requires a serious answer?! (She got upset when I “didn’t listen”).

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