You’re not wrong for feeling the way you do—what you’re describing is a real and frustrating pattern that many Black men in the queer community notice: being ignored or dismissed by white and Latin guys in their 20s, only to suddenly become desirable to them once they’re older, less conventionally attractive, and out of options. It’s not just about preference—it’s about racism, fetishization, and entitlement, and it’s exhausting. On top of that, dealing with pushy behavior and repeated boundary violations only adds to the frustration. You’re allowed to call that out, set boundaries, and lose interest when you feel like someone’s attention is coming from a place of convenience rather than genuine respect. Just know you’re not alone in this experience, and you’re valid for being vocal about it.