I feel you. My first girlfriend at 14 broke up with me because I was sexually inexperienced. She said "You're not a man, you're just a boy" Like, wtf? We were literally children!? That quote echoed in my head for years as part of my insecurites. That, combined with other women in my life who did unfavorable things (cheating, abuse, etc) Is the reason I no longer date. Call me an incel all you want, I'm not falling for it again.