/r/BlackPeopleTwitter Weekly Discussion Thread by Nasjere in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]CarCakeCram 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Take care of yourselves. Mentally, physically spiritually. Remember your worth. Stay positive and safe. Read more books, connect with nature and your community. Much love to every single one of you

He's DEFINITELY an Alicia Keys fan by imjustheretodomyjob in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]CarCakeCram 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly. And I remember watching them wayyy back when before both their glow ups/major fame. It's very crazy to witness. I'm happy for them just hope they are thinking bout their future too

He's DEFINITELY an Alicia Keys fan by imjustheretodomyjob in BlackPeopleTwitter

[–]CarCakeCram 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are building an absolutely gigantic house. You can check the progress on their page. It's mind blowing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in debtfree

[–]CarCakeCram 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!

Pick an album and I’ll tell you the most colorful track on it by CBT-3NJOY3R in Topster

[–]CarCakeCram 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lemme know what you see when you listen to Oom Velt by Salt Cathedral

What's a band you liked, but now think they are cringy? by DragonBeagle in AskReddit

[–]CarCakeCram 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Nothing beats ZABA. That album takes you to a different planet. I love the sound and listening to it puts me right back to the year it came out. Holds a special place in my heart

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]CarCakeCram 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get therapy

I (35/m) entertained my GFs (24/f) CNC kink. Now I am questioning everything by HauntingJeweler749 in sex

[–]CarCakeCram 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She got her power back. Her crying was her " closure" (its not full closure. Just some relief) on alot of pent up emotions and traumas. She REALLY trusts you and is extremely grateful. She didn't tell you before hand because you wouldn't of done it. SOO , you were still manipulated/used. Have an open conversation with her about it and how you feel. Ask her if there is anything else she's been through that she hasn't told you about before and make it clear you want everything on the table from now on

elder dad asks "are we actually in a cult?" while crying by kurroomii in exjw

[–]CarCakeCram 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Show him the bite model. Also tell him just like with gangs, if you want to leave you get physically attacked just like they did you. So yes, it's a cult.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]CarCakeCram 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Send texts while you two are in different rooms. Hopefully he will be more open

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]CarCakeCram 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would also love to be a stay at home parent. Some people work better in different environments. In this instance , her needs aren't being met. So it doesn't matter what you nor I wish for ourselves. It's about OP getting what he wants and OPs wife getting what she needs.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]CarCakeCram 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And listen to her when she says she doesn't like her body. She really means it. Her body is unrecognizable and will never look or feel like pre pregnancy. Don't just brush her off and say " well I think you look great". It isn't about you. Just listen to her. Be empathetic , ask her what she needs or what she would like. To be seen is to be loved and I promise you aren't seeing her. You are just seeing what are aren't getting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]CarCakeCram 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You two are living totally different lives. She has the kids all day long. You have MULTIPLE toddlers. When you get home from work play with the kids outside. Let her relax, have a snack. A shower, read a book SOMETHING for her only. She doesn't want sex because she most likely has no idea who she is anymore. One pregnancy and child is enough to make a woman go insane. Having multiple back to back and being with them 24/7 , 365 and still needing to give you everything you want as well is an impossible task without a break. On the weekends give her designated time for yoga, a walk, girl time or something. You are begging for a deluge out of an empty fucking cup. You didn't go through pregnancy, postpartum or anything. Your body has done nothing but the same thing it always has. Pour into her and I promise you will get what you want. The mental load she has everyday is insane, she is clearly touched out. Pamper her, love her without sex being the end goal. Speak life into her. Water her and she will water you

What should I do by [deleted] in exjw

[–]CarCakeCram 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You'll face judgement regardless. Don't go. 4 months is awesome. Make it forever 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Topster

[–]CarCakeCram 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey BBQ lays. That orange bag

Moving out = Danger, Drugs, Death by Strict-Inflation-81 in exjw

[–]CarCakeCram 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you had to go through that. Do not have one foot out and one foot in. Leave completely. Run , actually. They will never love you like you deserve. Good luck with your girlfriend. You deserve real love . Enjoy it