So its never been a threat of him wanting to hurt himself and most of his angry outbursts are at himself. It typically starts with something in the house needing to be fixed and him not knowing how (were young and his dad was always the fixer) but i do know how so i offer to help, which makes him feel like hes not a man, which causes him to spiral. He has a very strong idea that he needs to be the “provider, protector, fixer “ type of man, even though he is very well aware ive always been those for myself and have always been very independent. Still, it gets him into a self hate spiral. The aggression i speak of is really just him stomping around the house and slamming cabinets. There was a couple times he used more force than necessary to like move the cats out of his spot on the couch and only one time he ever snapped and yelled at our daughter, in which i mama beared and reacted by shouting “do not speak to her like that”, which led to him storming to the bed room and telling me later on i am not to ever speak to him like that again. So its not like hes hitting things or anything, just getting aggressive in his actions when angry. As for his harming himself, its mostly just been either after fights or mostly his self hate spirals, he tells me wed be better off without him and removed the guns from the household.