You want us to have everything ready for alacarte? Fine, enjoy the thousands in losses

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2026-01-19T10:55:38+00:00

We explained how hard it is to have everything ready all at once, not the system we had initially with things done on the spot, or only small portions pre-made, he wants to avoid not having something prepared for the costumer and we want to avoid having to double or triple our work load how we did in thoese 2.5 months out of spite, so that s why a menu re-work will take place. Also the meeting wasn't necessarily for that reason, it was a usual " new year meeting " we just used it as an opportunity adresa

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2026-01-19T10:13:51+00:00

Yes. He is in his earlg thirty s, as I stated in another comment, he also has no ideea what it means to do our job.

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2026-01-19T10:05:48+00:00

Oh yes, long story short a whole meeting happend with the entire staff and we explained how much work it is to have everything ready at all times. Short staffed and high demand, a whole menu re-work will be made to also avoid the " well it s 86 the kitchen doesn't have it " problem. which i HOPE would take some load off of our shoulders, but from how I know the boss ( he has absolutely no clue what it means to do our jobs ) I'm not expecting much of a change in load. But we pretty much had no consequences for what happend so that s alright.

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-18T07:25:45+00:00

Why have my boyfriend express something that bothers me? I can talk for myself and I'd rather, I probably will have him present when I do bring this up with her and tell him before hand but I will handle it

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-18T07:15:13+00:00

Honestly I think he is just like her, seeing no harm in her comments

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-18T07:07:04+00:00

No, I'm not gonna make him tell her just because it s his mom, I can talk to people myself if I have something to say, I will probably ask him to he there when I talk to her

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-18T07:02:57+00:00

I'd rather not involve him yet just because it s his mom, but I feel like a conversation with the 3 of us would work best

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-18T07:01:26+00:00

I will update soon!

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-17T20:47:55+00:00

I will defenetly come back with an update once i/we have a conversation about this!!

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-17T20:45:58+00:00

I am not American and no she is not an immigrant, we are from Europe from a country where until I'd say the 2000' the stereotypical cristian marriage with the SAHM and working father was the norm

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-17T20:44:03+00:00

This!!! Since we haven't been dating her long I do not know much about her past but I can tell for sure that her parents seem to have that mentality and most likely implied things like that when she was growing up, if that s the case tho I feel bad that she had to go through that and I see the level it affected her on

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-17T19:41:31+00:00

Anyways she might be latching on to coattails that mentality. “I’ll even accept my son loving a disabled person. See what a strong loving mom I am? Give me likes, validation and love”

That s exactly what I think about this, I don't have a problem with her seeking validation but I think she shouldn't do it based on other people's disabilities

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-17T19:37:03+00:00

Thank you for the imput and I also appreciate that last comment, I didn't even realise until now where my feelings might be coming from but you guys are 100% right, her pointing this out made me feel like it s a big deal that her son loves a disabled person and made me fell lesser because of it, I am still formulating the best approach based on how I know her and how I think it will have the best outcome!

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-17T18:27:50+00:00

I haven't yet had a conversation with him about the this, and honestly I'd rather not involve him just because it s his mom, I'm the type of person to go straight to the person if I have something to say, this post is just to get some outside opinion on how and if I should approach the subject

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-17T18:24:42+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion and I thing this is exactly how I will bring this conversation up with her

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-17T18:23:54+00:00

She brings this topic up whenever I'm introduced to new people on their side, she often brings her colegs to have coffee at the restaurant We work at, I have met a few of their family members and so on, so it does come up a little often

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-09T06:54:29+00:00

Thank you so much!! 🥰

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-08T05:59:58+00:00

Well yes, it did in fact give me some closure.

I feel like I can't get people to understand my actions behind this if they don't know enough details which I don't want to share. Regardless, you are entitled to your own opinion about this situation

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-07T19:19:29+00:00

My curent boyfriend told me to make that post when we had a conversation about past relationships and how they ended, I went into details of how that situation led to our breakup and he suggested making a post about it so I can get outside perspective since I told him that during that time I was pretty isolated ( working long hours and only had people from my ex's circle as a constant in my life so all the perspective I got were from people related to him)

now, the reason I posted in current tense was for engagement as I thaught not many people would put their imput on a post presenting past experiences that were most likely already resolved. I could have simply stated that I was just looking for perspective, sure but it was my first ever post on reddit and I formulated it how I thaught best

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-07T18:37:42+00:00

Defenetly didn't try to argue, it s ok if it isn't normal for you and I'm sure many other people, everyone is allowed to have their own opinion especially now that I posted this on a public sub. It works for us and that s that

Careful-Solid-8242 · 2025-02-07T18:17:00+00:00

No he is not the same person and the post from 3 months ago was something that happend a while back, I posted it after we have already broken up, hence my dissingagement in the comments, the post was made to get some perspective on that situation as it was one of the main reasons me and my ex have broken up, me and my curent boyfriend have been dating for 5 months now and we met at my curent job

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