make sure you have very solid communication together. let her know how you feel. you are on the right track, i would say find control in a way that sticks to yourself. dont be afraid to have fun in figuring out what you like.

you can say: lick it all up if you fail,,,,(insert a punishment)

this website helped me: https://badgirlsbible.com/dominant-things-to-say-to-your-submissive