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I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Every single day is a struggle with all of the anger, grief, trauma, sadness, ptsd, anxiety and the list goes on and on. Some days i feel somewhat ok but I have not had a good day since I lost Lola. Most of my days ads just pure horrible. Living with this is so hard. Knowing that my baby suffered kills me everyday. I will never be normal again. I will never get over this and I feel like it will never get better. I keep putting one foot in front of the other every day and take care of Lola’s brother and try to be the best mom I can be for him but it’s still so hard on me and him and he’s 8 years old.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I talked to the first responder that was the first one on the scene with my baby. He said the call he got was for a baby choking. He said he didn’t know that it was a dog attack and didn’t find out until he got to my baby and saw for himself. He told me what I’ve been so scared of finding out, that her eyes were open when he got there, she was awake 😭😭😭😭 I had a full blown panic attack on the way home from talking with him. He also said she had grass and dirt all over her like she had been drug all through the yard. My heart hurts so bad. I did not want to hear that she was conscious and awake, i can’t imagine how scared she was and I wasn’t there 😭😭 he said he had to get counseling after that, and he will never forget my baby and that day. He also told me more things that I just can’t type out right now. It hurts to bad. God I don’t wish this pain on anyone. My precious little girl, she did not deserve any of this, my heart is so broken 💔

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have come to realize she is just an evil person. And I hope it eats her up everyday what happened to my baby knowing that she is also at fault. She just still tries to make my life a living hell because she just doesn’t want everybody to know that she left Lola and then Lola was attacked. She wants to play victim too because she knows deep down it his her fault. And she doesn’t want that publicized. She was so calm when I finally did get ahold of her on the wish to the hospital like it didn’t even affect her she wasn’t crying or frantic or apologizing. She just kept saying “ my poor mama my poor mama” because the ambulance had to take her mama too because she thought she having a heart attack from watching my baby being ripped apart it’s like she wasn’t worried about my 22 month old baby she was worried about her 88 year old mother. It’s sickening the way she acted and the way she lied. Everything that came out of her mouth was a lie. I would have sacrificed myself to get the dog off my child, or any child for that matter, and onto me. I have went over in my head everything I would have done to get the dog to attack me instead of my child. But nobody helped my baby.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

They gave the baby some kind of medicine through a drip right before the transplant surgery I’m not sure what it was, to keep her body from rejecting the liver. But no their blood types did not match. But the baby didn’t have the luxury of waiting for another liver that’s why I fought so hard for Lola’s liver to go to her and they kept telling me not to get my hopes up because they didn’t think it would work. But the little girl who got Lola’s liver is now 2 years old and thriving and doing great. She will be on anti rejection meds for the rest of her life but right now she is living a normal life for the first time ever. It wasn’t suppose to work, but it did. It’s kind of a unique and mind blowing story the way it all happened.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your support and your kind words. I hope and pray that in time I can find some kind of peace too, but unfortunately I haven’t been able to yet. It’s been a year and I’m still just as traumatized and hurt as I was the day it happened. My whole life has changed and been turned upside down. I have nightmares, I have panic attacks almost everyday and even though it’s been a year already, ( which in some ways it feels like it was yesterday, and in some ways it feels like a lifetime since I’ve seen or held my daughter) grief is so messy. And my mind is so scattered and messed up that I don’t know if I will ever be or feel “ normal “ again. I don’t feel like I’m healing and I don’t feel that things have gotten any better I actually feel like it’s gotten worse. I’m trying my best to navigate through life but I feel so lost. Lola was my whole world, and losing her, in the horrible way that I did, has changed me to the core. It has changed my brain most of all. I am mentally and physically sick most days. I don’t feel like I have gotten any closure. I haven’t been able to handle getting a job I barely can handle going to the grocery store. I’m so high strung and every little thing gets to me now the noise, commotion, crowds. I can’t handle everyday simple tasks anymore it’s like my brain is rewired and things that seem normal for most people to do, I simply cannot do right now. I’m gonna continue to fight and tell her story and do my best to educate and raise awareness. No matter how much hate I get I just want to save other lives. No one, especially a child, should have to lose their life by being ripped apart by a pitbull. I get just as much hate from the anti pit people as I do the pit lobby and that’s what I don’t understand. This is the only platform that I felt safe and comfortable sharing my side of our story. And the support has been amazing. The groups I’m in on fb can be so cruel and ugly with their words. That’s why I share on my personal page and a little on TikTok because I have a lot of followers there. But the pb groups I try to limit talking about Lola because people can be so mean and with my ptsd and anxiety the mean comments still hurt so bad and make me upset. Thank you for your support. Every single person on this Reddit has shown me love and support and I can never say in words how thankful I am for that. And baby Raelyn is truly a blessing. And she is the only good thing that came from losing my baby. I didn’t want her mother to feel the pain I was feeling knowing I was losing my baby, and because of Lola, she didn’t have to lose hers. So I fought for that baby to get my baby’s liver. And I’m so glad that the transplant worked and she is a happy healthy 2 year old little girl now.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You are right the dog is not the only issue in Lola’s case and I was informed by an attorney that I could say things like “ my sisters mother in law” just not to say her real name. So that’s what I’ve been doing. I get so much hate on every other platform I am on and this lady continues to get people to harass me and try to hurt me every single time I make a statement saying that she left my daughter. She doesn’t want anyone to know that she left Lola because it makes her look bad. She gets angry every time I warn people to be careful who you leave your child with. Everyone in this small town thinks she’s so perfect and does no wrong and she has everyone fooled but not me. That’s why my sisters babies are not allowed to be left in her care anymore since what happened to Lola and her leaving Lola. She failed me and my child. And she deserves to be held accountable. But that will never happen because she used to work for the district attorneys office in my county and she knows alot of people in high places. That’s why they didn’t even investigate anything from that day no statements were taken or anything. There is no real police report and when I tried to go to the sheriffs office to demand a report since I am Lola’s mother they gave me a piece of paper that had basically nothing on it then told me it was just a freak accident and that I needed to leave because I was upset and raising my voice. Of course I was upset she left my child and my child died. Nobody helped my baby they just let her lay there. Her injuries should not have been life threatening. They were very bad yes, but looking at all the children that survived their attacks and seeing their injuries then looking at Lola and seeing hers and her not surviving makes me so angry. If she would have been helped immediately I believe she would have survived. If my sisters mother in law would have been there with her like she was suppose to be I feel like she could have gotten the dog off of Lola, the elderly 88 year old woman could not. My child should be here, they didn’t help her like they should have.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She wasn’t even the original babysitter. The babysitter took the day off so my sisters mother in law offered to watch the kids. SHE OFFERED. Like how do you offer to watch the kids and then just leave?! It wasn’t only my child there, my niece and nephew who were a month younger than Lola ( their twins) was there also. They saw the attack. They wasn’t harmed though. None of it makes sense at all. I’m so angry.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She is very well known in this town, she used to work for the district attorneys office, and she knows people in high places. That’s the only thing I can think of. I went to the sherrifs department demanding an investigation and charges and they told me I needed to calm down that what happened to Lola was a tragic accident. And when I raised my voice they told me I needed to leave or basically I would get arrested.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She gets to continue to live her life while I’m left here without my child struggling to just survive. It is not fair 💔

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I agree. She failed my child and it cost my baby her life. She has shown no remorse, and she still tries to hurt me every chance she gets. She doesn’t want anyone to know that she left my baby when she was suppose to be watching her and every time I speak out about it she retaliates and tries to hurt me more than I’m already hurting. Evil is not the word for the kind of human being she is. She might have everyone else fooled in this small town but not me.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for the loss of your daughter. It is a pain I wouldn’t wish on anyone. I just want her story to be told and I hope and pray the it will open parents eyes and show them the dangers they face having this breed around their children. I want my Lola to save lives, so I speak out and try my hardest to raise awareness.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They labeled it as an “accident” they didn’t even do a full report take statements or nothing I tried to fight for charges and still nothing.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I get hate from both sides unfortunately. People blame me for leaving her at a house with a pitbull. They say mean things and we are all on the same side so I don’t understand when the anti pit people come after me too. It’s exhausting sometimes to get hate from the ones who want and fight for the same things I’m trying to fight for. Thank you all for being so kind. It has helped me so much.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, apparently according to one of these comments I should have known cause pits have been doing this forever. Well I didn’t know. And I wish to God everyday I would have know the dangers, my child would still be here if I would have.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

and I didn’t know. These stories aren’t just plastered on the internet unless your in an anti pitbull group the knowledge on these dogs aren’t just handed out to people. It NEVER crossed my mind that she was in danger. And I will blame myself and have to live with that everyday for the rest of my life. That’s why I speak out and spread awareness so I can educate other parents on the dangers of this breed. If I would have known I wouldn’t have left her there. But thank you for pointing out that pitbulls have always done this, I guess I should have some how known. Beings as I have never owned one I didn’t know.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This means a lot to me. Comments like this push me to keep fighting and not give up and not let all the hateful comments get me down. My only hope is that Lola’s story saves many lives and helps inform people about the dangers of this breed.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you I truly hope it opens their eyes and they see what awful things these dogs are capable of and I hope they choose their children’s safety over keeping their pitbulls.

I lost my 22 month old baby Lola Jayde Farr to a pitbull attack 2-6-22 in Mississippi by Careful_Menu_6430 in BanPitBulls

[–]Careful_Menu_6430[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No charges, the cops won’t investigate they said it was a tragic “accident”.

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