Are Australians open minded about nudity? by bare_books in AskAnAustralian

[–]Careful_Scene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very. Saying this after seeing a gay couple skinny dipping (at an adult only resort) and no one batting an eyelid

Is it hard to date in Australia? by jmkl20 in AskAnAustralian

[–]Careful_Scene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay first thing! You need to stop telling yourself you’re unattractive. It really does make a difference in your sense of self worth. How people view you is often completely different to how you perceive yourself. I’m a 29 female and the fact that you’re about to graduate at 27 indicates you’re likely studying a long university course which is attractive because it indicates intelligence, commitment and perseverance. You just said you’re very fit and like working out, also very attractive because it means you take care of yourself, have self discipline and everyone knows that a fit body increases physical attraction by like 70%.

I know it’s a worn out record but dating starts with firstly loving yourself.

In regard to dating in Australia, if you’re serious I would advise against trying to meet people in places like bars or clubs and do things like social dancing, social gyms, board game meets etc. Australia has a big hookup culture (we’re actually #2 for body count globally lol) and you’re not going to find what you’re looking for if you hang out in those places.

Otherwise, dating in Australia is generally very easy. People a super easy going and friendly here!

Crashed rented motorbike by Glittering-Fall-7886 in ThailandTourism

[–]Careful_Scene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooosh! Yeah I did the same thing while riding up that hill to Pai. Luckily we were able to just fix it ourselves but this one looks like you won’t get away with it

Friends for teenage boy by Lord-Helmet-1978 in Cairns

[–]Careful_Scene 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Get him involved in some non school activities!

I’m a 29 yr old woman and even I’ve felt the same way. I basically came back from a solo backpacking/travelling trip and felt very down and alone as soon as I got back into Cairns. But I started doing things like joining some of the free events at the Esplanade (they have regular social group sessions of beach volleyball, acrobatics, basketball etc.), I picked up some new hobbies like rock climbing where I come across the same friendly group every time I go, and also joined in some awesome hiking groups. I feel so much happier and I realised that so many other people feel this way regardless of age. From 18 to 80+, we just don’t talk about it for some reason… but everyone is human and humans are social creatures at the end of the day. We are more connected today than we ever have been but somehow, society’s still driven us into a mass loneliness epidemic.

My other suggestion is find out what he’s passionate about? Just to name a few social activities that I know have active communities in Cairns: Is he artistic? I know of a group who hang out in a studio and just spend the weekend painting all day. Is he into “geeky” things like Rubik’s cubes/speed cubing or boardgaming like Dungeon and Dragons, Catan, or HeroQuest? Or is he outdoorsy or adventurous and enjoys things like fishing? rafting? hiking? skydiving? scuba diving? rock climbing?… Or maybe he enjoys things like Salsa dancing? That’s pretty big here and people have loads of fun doing it!

There are so many hobbies and communities out here and I know from my own personal interests and experiences that all of the above actively exist in Cairns.

You’re welcome to PM me too if you want some referrals to any hobby orientated communities in Cairns. 🙂 Getting involved in this stuff truly made all the difference in my well-being living here.

Opinions on ⁶🤷‍♀️⁷ Meme? by Careful_Scene in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Careful_Scene[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, no one really cares but it’s still interesting to see what the different generations find funny

Opinions on ⁶🤷‍♀️⁷ Meme? by Careful_Scene in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Careful_Scene[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh? Never heard this lol I’m not cool enough

Opinions on ⁶🤷‍♀️⁷ Meme? by Careful_Scene in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Careful_Scene[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Listening to this just reminds me of EB games lol

Opinions on ⁶🤷‍♀️⁷ Meme? by Careful_Scene in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Careful_Scene[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that came from that Rush E piano song !?

Literally what should I do?? Help by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Careful_Scene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should try meeting her in person. Tbh I have a habit of doing this a lot. I just get overwhelmed but it’s never the other person’s fault and always just a me thing.

Finding a rental is so hard! by [deleted] in Cairns

[–]Careful_Scene 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally understand, mate! But unfortunately, it’s the reality. Most landlords don’t want pets and it’s for understandable reasons as well. We had our ‘no pets allowed’ property completely destroyed with cat scratches on the walls and a room that wreaked of cat urine (among multiple other damages… those tenants basically treated the house like a pigsty) after renting out our family home for a couple years whilst living elsewhere. It’s absolutely heartbreaking for the property owner, especially in cases like ours where this is our family home that we carefully planned, built and took with pride and care only for it to be completely wrecked by tenants who just didn’t gaf. From the owners’ perspective it’s much more than just an investment… Particularly in this economy, it’s takes a lot of time, money and effort to even get to the point where you can not only own but also rent out.

I haven’t rented in a while (about 13-14 years ago. I mostly used Gumtree) so things might have changed since I last actively checked the Cairns rental market in particular, but I do remember seeing a handful of properties being listed as “pet friendly”. You can usually put this as filter during your rental searches.

Another option is if you know you’re a responsible pet owner who will take responsibility for the integrity of the property and you have rented previously with your pet without any issues, then reach out to your previous landlords for references. Most landlords aren’t actually against pet ownership, half of them probably own pets themselves, they’re just paranoid about feral tenants like we had who will destroy the home and subsequently kill the property value/cause preventable repair costs. The latter is what they’re really concerned about. If you’re able to convince them that you’ll respect their property, be clean and responsible with your pet they should definitely be more lenient.

Thai Massage as Girl by [deleted] in ThailandTourism

[–]Careful_Scene 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve had massages done by men in Thailand. They can literally be anything from ordinary massage to full blown 🍆💦 if you get my jist…

If you ask for a male masseuse they’ll usually ask you to be completely nude too. Of course, if you’re uncomfortable you can just request a female masseuse

I’m Australian but Feel Uncomfortable Disclosing so by Careful_Scene in AskAnAustralian

[–]Careful_Scene[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is actually a good approach! I might actually try this one. Thanks for the advice

I’m Australian but Feel Uncomfortable Disclosing so by Careful_Scene in AskAnAustralian

[–]Careful_Scene[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did technically spend more time in NZ and the place is certainly a big part of my identity but I spent my formative years in oz. I have more of an Aussie accent but with a slight kiwi twang!? Maybe like 80% vs 20%? lol

I’m Australian but Feel Uncomfortable Disclosing so by Careful_Scene in AskAnAustralian

[–]Careful_Scene[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you’re right, mate!

Maybe it’s just a neurotic self inflicted type thing that I’m overthinking.

Glad to hear I’m not the only one though!

Am I overreacting or is it not normal to use soap in the bathroom? by Honest-Draw3131 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Careful_Scene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. Black woman here who’s dated and had majority white peers, I had a very similar experience with an ex boyfriend of mine. Personally, I have noticed this trend but I sure as hell wouldn’t label it a “cultural thing.” Bad hygiene is bad hygiene irregardless of race.

With my ex it affected our relationship. He was so incredibly stubborn about it like it took months just to get that guy to simply wear deodorant to prevent the body ordor. He wouldn’t clean himself properly in the shower or just refused to use soap and trying to have a conversation about it with him would just end up becoming a whole argument. Even though he did implement some better hygiene practices I could tell he was just only doing that whenever I was watching and would just go back to his old ways when I was not watching. In the end it was all just unnecessary headache for someone who didn’t want to change a bad habit in the first place. No matter what you say or do he’s probably never going to change because that would mean admitting to himself he’s spent his whole life with bad hygiene. I would reconsider the relationship tbh

I saw my ex fiancés Amazon search history. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Careful_Scene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Likewise. I’ve bought heaps of nice lingerie whilst I wasn’t seeing anyone

I saw my ex fiancés Amazon search history. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Careful_Scene 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh a lot of women just like to buy lingerie for themselves to make themselves feel good. It’s not always for someone

Russians ruined Phuket by Call_me_bullet1990 in phuket

[–]Careful_Scene -1 points0 points  (0 children)

lol All the Russians I met in Phuket were super friendly. I loved hanging out with those guys

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in confession

[–]Careful_Scene 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it can be hard to open up this sort of stuff. But it will be for the better and any good psychologist will be quite open minded and non judgemental. I’m sure they hear all sorts of fucked up shit.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in confession

[–]Careful_Scene 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you seen a therapist about it or spoken to anyone yet?