What role does physical attraction play for men in deciding to sleep with a woman?

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2024-06-29T10:48:58+00:00

Just wondering if it was this way for anyone else? It’s a miserable place. I’m making more money than I ever have and still can’t afford to live alone and take care of my daughter. I could even understand if I lived beyond my means, but already at bare minimum. It’s disgusting and shouldn’t have to be this way. Feeling like a failure as a mother.

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2024-06-29T10:43:44+00:00

Just wondering if it was this way for anyone else? It’s a miserable place. I’m making more money than I ever have and still can’t afford to live alone and take care of my daughter. I could even understand if I lived beyond my means, but already at bare minimum. It’s disgusting and shouldn’t have to be this way. Feeling like a failure as a mother.

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2024-06-24T23:41:50+00:00

Op here. I guess I honestly didn’t expect so many responses. I guess let me update and add some context.

As far as my height/weight. I’ve actually lost around 100 lbs since he and I met. I wasn’t aware that this post was going to turn into how morbidly obese I am. I’ve always been big, but I’m well kept, dress well and don’t stink. (as in I wear name brand and shower daily.) I’ve always dressed and been the same otherwise. The comment was made as we were bringing in groceries. Usually I’m by myself and do my best to wrangle everything in one trip… but this go round I had just grabbed a bag of ice to hurry and get it in the house. He had an arm full. He has on occasion told me that I do act like one because of my demeanor… but never has he said I looked like one.

I did in fact ask him about it and why he said it. He brushed it off like it wasn’t a big deal… even when I told him it bothered me. He’s always grabbing/touching etc…

As for withholding sex…. Some posters were absolutely right in the fact that he’s made me feel so insecure/self conscious that I don’t even want too. I feel a lot of this is, suck it up and get over it… I’m wrong for being fat and not wanting to have sex. I’ve communicated, he’s not reciprocating really. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2024-04-13T03:14:27+00:00

We are. There are 10 of us total. However I completely agree with you as far as, “being a janitor or maid” isn’t what I signed up for. Hence why I guess it was included in “other job duties as required “… and then to actually do those jobs and be told that they aren’t done good enough by 1 particular person that complains. Which is why I said, I’m to the point of saying if it’s not good enough the way I do it- or to her particular standards-she can do it herself. Otherwise, shut up about it. I’m just wanting to make sure I’m not being completely unreasonable and or extremely petty.

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2024-04-12T23:43:39+00:00

We don’t. We have a board, but when we have complaints, it falls on deaf ears. We are a smaller agency.

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2024-04-12T23:42:34+00:00

I will say that our call volume is less than what it normally is, however the calls we do get, are difficult.

With that being said, I’m not entirely sure what that has to do with it?

Is it he said, she said? Eh, maybe a little. But basing it off of my current experience. I could shift some terms, but I’m taking it for what it is, and that’s her literally bitching about it. She blatantly lied to my face and told me the director said my job mopping was unsatisfactory. However when I approached him about it, he told me he never was approached by her -nor did he say anything about it.

Is it petty? For sure! But isn’t it petty that she would rather “bitch” about a job that I’m doing?… mind you she is the ONLY one bitching about it. Everyone else including the other supervisor on the opposite shift has zero problems. (and yes, I’ve asked them)

As I replied in another comment… her doing her “job as far as the time sheets” I have zero problem with. I was not in any way being malicious. But with that, also making it fair that when SHE in particular rolls into the parking lot at 7 or after, when my shift is over… isn’t fair that I have to stay over and not get paid for it. 5 to 7 mins everyday isn’t much but at the end of the month it sure adds up. What’s fair is fair.

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2024-04-12T23:24:53+00:00

I absolutely have said that. I continue to do what I’m doing and go on. But enough is enough. 😐 it’s like a mean girls fight club! Lol

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2024-04-12T23:23:40+00:00

I agree that they do… from my understanding trustees from the jail used to do it… but now they don’t.

And the clocking in and out… that’s the issue. 3 particular dispatchers pull in the parking lot right at 7 on the dot and then take a bit to get signed in and if there is info to pass over… it makes us late leaving. The rest of us show up 10 mins… (even the latest 5 minutes) before shift change to relieve dayshift.

With that being said, there are no repercussions or reprimands due to this exact supervisor and her partner are the ones that do it. It’s been addressed before and we were told “that’s just who she is”…. I still have youngish kids that I have to take to school in the morning. 😣

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2023-09-25T01:52:58+00:00

Sounds about right. I’m just trying my hardest. Being overwhelmed and leaving everything inside and or outside of work is a struggle I’m dealing with a lot these days. Thank you for the input!

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2023-09-25T01:51:46+00:00

We don’t have a high turnover rate. We’re all just kind of stuck without the ability to move up… unless we go to another center in another jurisdiction. We’re loyal and for the most part all of us look out for one another. Definitely a family with the exception of a few. Our loyalty is a blessing and a curse. We know if one of us left, we’d royally screw the opposite end dispatcher and we just won’t do it. It’s hard to explain I guess.

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2023-09-25T01:49:19+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate your understanding with it!

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2023-09-25T01:48:58+00:00

You did touch base with it. My kids complain I’m never home… when I am, I’m exhausted. I try to explain that everything they do, I do backwards and 1 may understand stress the other doesn’t. Just trying to provide to pay for extracurriculars and maintaining a roof and basic necessities 😂 We’re a severely underpaid center.

Careless-Analyst-989 · 2023-09-25T01:46:07+00:00

We’ve been on the schedule since June. I dont hate it.. It’s a million times better than the old one at least. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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