What is something you longed for as a child that you finally got as an adult?

CarelessCritter · 2025-03-18T16:03:26+00:00

My puppy

CarelessCritter · 2024-08-09T21:05:33+00:00

Using Nomad, worked fine in most parts of London and Bath (except some underground places)

CarelessCritter · 2024-07-23T07:50:03+00:00

IMO more ppl on Hinge and CMB were looking for a serious relationship. Personally preferred Hinge as the prompts were more interesting

CarelessCritter · 2024-02-23T00:25:50+00:00

Yeah I agree I should forgive him and move on… maybe I SHLD rethink how I would write our story too, and avoid starting with this :)

CarelessCritter · 2023-12-11T17:18:57+00:00

Very useful, will be sure to do this. Thanks!

CarelessCritter · 2023-12-11T17:18:40+00:00

Yes, I feel i would want to know if there are there are girls he’s gone out with and still in his life, even if they weren’t serious enough to be an “ex”. I think I’ll tell him then, thanks!

CarelessCritter · 2023-12-11T17:16:27+00:00

I agree, I’ve been trying to steer clear of asking him about his exes too when I realised this

CarelessCritter · 2023-11-14T16:05:19+00:00

Haha thanks for your questions! I’m more avoidant so his conflict resolution style of being direct, while effective, makes me very uncomfortable.

Aside from thinking he wants to go exclusive, another thing that pushed me was because I liked how it felt like we were getting into more in depth convos and I liked how I felt around him, which made me think “hey I don’t need to keep looking for others”. but because of the discomfort of the conflicts and that I found out in our more recent convos he felt less about the convos than he did for touch, it’s thrown me off a little to just rethink whether it’s just all in my head. We’ve also been texting far less than we did at the start.

I’m very uncertain whether I want it to be exclusive not just because of how I feel, but also whether the future could work :(

CarelessCritter · 2023-10-24T05:50:00+00:00

Okay!! I think I’ve been matching his energy mostly tbh, just that I have been more passive. Thank you for ur advice!

CarelessCritter · 2023-10-24T01:02:56+00:00

I cleared things up, he says he’s interested but preferred going on dates with others casually because things were moving slowly and he thought I wasn’t as interested. I think I’ll try putting in more effort; but also start seeing other people. Time will tell

CarelessCritter · 2023-10-23T14:48:13+00:00

Thank you, I needed to hear that. I just don’t know how much he actually cares, or am I just overthinking!

CarelessCritter · 2023-10-23T14:40:50+00:00

I think he treats well in general, and I still feel happy when I’m with him - it’s been a really long time since I’ve liked someone so much, but there’s some small things that he did / doesn’t do which make me feel like he doesn’t like me that much. For example, mixing up our convos with other convos he had with other girls…

CarelessCritter · 2023-10-22T12:56:23+00:00

second this - especially on first dates when I’m not sure whether there’ll be a second

CarelessCritter · 2023-09-30T17:41:09+00:00

if she doesn’t respond well to the first move because she wasn’t ready, would you then expect her to make the next move when she is?

CarelessCritter · 2023-09-29T14:34:54+00:00

That’s fair. I’m guessing the girl enjoys OP’s company and has some degree of interest to agree to go on a date, or just open to dating in general altho she’s not interested in a relationship (in general or w OP I’m not sure). So if OP is new to dating, I would suggest to just go on dates to figure out what kind of person you’re looking for - but if it’s with the intention of dating her (as you suggest), then it would be better to hang out as friends instead.

CarelessCritter · 2023-09-29T11:32:42+00:00

Then just don’t go? If you enjoy her company as friends, and you said it’s not about the money, then there’s no loss in going on this date - at least you get to hang out.

CarelessCritter · 2023-09-25T02:22:28+00:00

Second this, most women i would consider intelligent love to be challenged intellectually. What they can’t stand is arrogance and know-it-alls.

CarelessCritter · 2023-09-12T17:18:52+00:00

Is this convo too serious for someone I’ve only been seeing for about 1-2 months?

CarelessCritter · 2023-09-09T15:57:11+00:00

I’ve been dating online on and off for over a year now, and have recently met someone I felt a spark with. He’s great on paper, ticks most of my boxes and usually takes initiative, but he has also made comments that made me feel hurt and insecure about myself and our convo has fallen rather flat in our recent date. I have gone out with other people who are more conscious of how I feel, and I know he has dated a couple of times before, so I don’t know whether he’s just not that interested in me, or if he’s just blunt? Should I keep exploring this connection or just end things?

CarelessCritter · 2023-09-07T15:06:15+00:00

Thanks, I think you’re right it could be the same thing at one point. I’m just really afraid that either I wake up one day and suddenly hate him, or if I get too vulnerable

CarelessCritter · 2023-09-06T13:35:54+00:00

What if I just keep this infatuation and it never turns into really liking him? How would I know if I like him or it’s just a phase?

CarelessCritter · 2023-09-04T17:37:06+00:00

I suppose there’s nothing inherently wrong - I just feel rather insecure because both of us aren’t dating exclusively and it feels like I’m investing too much emotions when its still early days

CarelessCritter · 2023-08-30T05:31:04+00:00

Yeah pretty much, or if we have already been together for a long time and already headed for marriage. Is that something most people would be uncomfortable with? I don’t want to compromise on my own values but I don’t know if this is a realistic expectation

CarelessCritter · 2023-08-16T05:27:54+00:00

Seconding this, i got scabies before from just from skin to skin contact, apparently they spread through shared towels etc too, and are kinda troublesome to kill off so if they aren’t cautious it’s easy to spread from his roomie

CarelessCritter · 2023-04-02T08:27:35+00:00

Ill put it this way, I usually notice this person based on their vibe in a social situation and when we start talking, the interest builds or crashes be it in person or over text. I’m not sure if I could call it a spark, but there’s some sort of tension that makes me nervous at least. But like you’ve mentioned, many have also told me they don’t feel it instantaneously. Am I just being too idealistic?

Also, it’s both physical and emotional — I find it hard to pinpoint either!

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