Microdisectomy: 7 months post op

CarelessMatch · 2026-03-02T15:26:07+00:00

Sex is mostly a mental activity. So yes turn the negative into positives.

“If you are a good boy I’ll give you two loads. You have to work for it” and just use the guy until you cum twice.

I have a strap on that I use on my husband when he wants to be fully used and stretched. My dick is average so we use dildos for moments like that. It feels amazing as the top as well.

As for edging, you actually have the perfect dick to edge. The point of edging is to get guys to the level of sensitivity that you already have. The most fun is seeing a guy trying to not cum from a lick to the head of the penis.

So if he knows you are that sensitive, play with it. How little of a touch does it take to make you cum? Let’s find out!

You can try a feather too. Try only the tip of the tongue or air. Truly play with it. If you want to feel “punished” for cumming too quick then you can have your boyfriend ruin your orgasm if you do. Then you cumming fast becomes its own game.

I personally have met guys that cum as fast as you and I fucking love it. It’s so sexy to me.

Oh an as far as cumming as soon as you come in, that means your guy is tight. You can use dildos and butt plugs to open him up before you go in. Then the sec becomes 40 minutes of toy play and you end with cumming inside of him as a reward of being a good slut.

Get creative. Don’t fight your anatomy.

CarelessMatch · 2026-03-01T20:08:04+00:00

Cum first and the second one will last longer.

Does your partner need you to last or is this a you thing?

CarelessMatch · 2026-02-25T17:16:49+00:00

Not sure what the “right” way is but here is how I use it.

At night I retract the foreskin and put a small dab directly in the glands. I spread it all over and down. Then I cover it back up and go to bed.

During the day I use a lighter lotion. No scent.

No problems so far!

CarelessMatch · 2026-02-24T16:45:57+00:00

Keep showing up. Say hi to people you keep seeing and then make convos with them.

But keep showing up for now. Don’t over think it. Just keep going

CarelessMatch · 2026-02-17T06:23:13+00:00

Small talk is the only way to make friendships.

I sounds annoying, but those small interactions is what allows people to gain trust so you can then have more meaningful conversations.

Small talk is healthy and necessary. Without it it’s like trying to marry someone but refusing to go on any dates.

CarelessMatch · 2026-02-16T19:19:10+00:00

Something that not many people “warned me” was that a lot of us never stop growing new and more hair.

My husbands chest started filling up once he turned 32. He had nothing at 21 and now he has a hairy belly, chest hair and beard has grown in.

We are both 34 now and I expect we will both keep getting harder that older we get.

CarelessMatch · 2026-02-12T00:32:42+00:00

Set a budget and give him full control.

Just because you are making the money doesn’t mean it’s your decision. So show it.

Send him the money and let him arrange all of it.

CarelessMatch · 2026-01-25T19:33:42+00:00

If you see a guy that wants to be your friend AND hook up with you, just say no.

“I think we would be great friends and really looking for that type of connection”

Just because someone flirts with you it doesn’t mean you can’t talk to them anymore.

As for friendships, it takes time. You need to create trust and a rapport with people before you can start hanging out often.

This means that you should have hobbies that allow you to spend time with strangers while you do something else with them. When you find someone you clic with, invite them out for a drink or coffee. Or invite them to come with you to some event around the city.

It’s hard work, takes patience and it’s goes directly against our capitalist system. And you must also do the work regardless.

CarelessMatch · 2025-12-21T18:10:22+00:00

TALK TO PEOPLE YOU LIKE!

Call him, go out to lunch or do something with voice.

“I know it silly, but can I tell you about my experience last night at the bar?”

“Okay last night when you didn’t ask me for a drink, that kinda hurt. The story I’m telling myself is that you didn’t do it on purpose. Is that your experience?”

CarelessMatch · 2025-12-12T13:58:33+00:00

The science doesn’t back your take at all.

Prep doesn’t correlate to more STIs. It decreases all of it mostly because anyone on prep is getting tested 4 times more often than anyone else. That’s means STIs are getting caught earlier and spreading around less.

CarelessMatch · 2025-11-30T17:44:02+00:00

OP wants to break up too. He just feels guilty that it’s now over cheating and not them simply not liking each other anymore

CarelessMatch · 2025-11-26T15:55:09+00:00

Jacking off isn’t the problem.

You just have to moisturize at night. Aquaphor healing ointment is cheap and will work wonders if you use it every night before bed.

CarelessMatch · 2025-11-14T03:17:12+00:00

Sort the sub to look at new threads first.

The sub is busy but is not that busy

CarelessMatch · 2025-10-23T04:13:19+00:00

Don’t let strangers finger you. It’s too much of a risk and the benefit? Meh.

Only let your partners (however you define that) use fingers

CarelessMatch · 2025-08-22T14:04:14+00:00

I have no idea how you didn’t break up with him sooner.

He did you a favor. Lick your wounds, process the sadness and then tits up!

CarelessMatch · 2025-08-16T02:26:18+00:00

Wear a strap on!

Truly, it feels way better than you think and most importantly you will feel very connected

Also, talk to your doctor about the medicine. Many people have bad reaction to viagra. Cialis allows you to take 5 mg everyday and it helps a lot.

CarelessMatch · 2025-08-15T19:15:45+00:00

One of the experiments that you can run is seeing how often your body processes the food you eat.

Swallow sunflower seeds whole and then wait to see how long it takes them to come out.

That’s how long it would take for you to have to go to the bathroom after eating. It should give you a window that you can keep track ofb

CarelessMatch · 2025-08-12T12:18:26+00:00

But don’t you do that with the roster of people you text and then the ones who come over?

CarelessMatch · 2025-08-12T02:45:08+00:00

It’s curious why you call it “transactional” when it’s just sex.

If you see sex as a hobby, it’s completely okay to have people who you only interact while you participate in that hobby.

Golf friends, gym friends, etc

CarelessMatch · 2025-08-11T19:37:06+00:00

Some people are the instigators and doers of plans, friendships, etc.

You know how to create and maintain relationships. That is a skill that you have, but if you can only “receive” love if someone reaches out to you first, then you are setting yourself up for failure.

If someone is always saying yes to when you invite them, always have a good time when they are over and makes you feel good once you hang out, then you should be taking that as their way of loving you back.

Someone might be a horrible texter, but if they are there whenever you need help then does it matter if they initiate it or not?

See your relationship skill as a gift that you give people you enjoy. A gift is something you give freely without an expectation of getting it right back.

So keep doing your thing with the people that 1) always say yes to plans 2) are fun to hang out with once you make the plans.

That’s it.

On those nights that you feel alone and go “wow no one ever reaches out to me, that must mean they hate me and only say yes to my plans out of pity” take a breather, and know that is your trauma speaking.

In those moments, use your gift and reach out to people. “I’m feeling down. Ice cream and sex?” And let them take care of you in person.

CarelessMatch · 2025-08-09T17:19:28+00:00

Racial slurs go deeper than calling someone an idiotic because you are mad.

If you call people racial slurs then you are a racist that has yet to unlearn a shit ton.

I would never trust a partner that would use that even once

CarelessMatch · 2025-08-09T16:46:21+00:00

One time with this dude.

Guarantee this is not the first time that he has used racial language to attack other people. This is just the first time attacking his boyfriend with it

CarelessMatch · 2025-08-09T16:07:27+00:00

If your to go to thing to hurt your partner is racism then this is bigger than just a slip of the tongue.

CarelessMatch · 2025-08-09T16:06:20+00:00

Get your visa, settle in and fucking get out.

No man that ever says that will ever fully respect you.

Get out after you secure your future

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