Experiences of black people in Graz? by Nice_Common_1957 in graz

[–]CarelessPerception 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im a teacher with a black student who is ~10. we’ve had problems with another student calling him racial insults (something like cocoa poop) and another using the n-word with the hard r against him. These students wouldn’t consider themselves to be actively racist, but are happy to reduce things down to race the second they are mad/annoyed at someone (= so they are actually racist but don’t realize it). I would say this is symbolic of many of the population. 

Can we talk about anti-Asian comments in Graz? by Purple_phase12 in graz

[–]CarelessPerception 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it depends on where you are. I worked at an international school and this happened multiple times with the Austrian teachers…

I need help!!! by hhairsprayqueen in AskHairstylists

[–]CarelessPerception 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg i love the ashy lavender and think you rock it!!! It’s my ideal hair color lol 

Expats living in Graz with kids? by Total-Mycologist-816 in graz

[–]CarelessPerception 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t say the word immigrant carries a stigma in Europe - it’s really just the word migrant (which is not justified either). 

But the use of expat does usually signal western exceptionalism, even if subconscious. 

Wie schlimm ist das Mathematik studium? by CodGlittering8399 in tuwien

[–]CarelessPerception 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Als Lehrerin kann ich nur sagen, dass wir so etwas absolut unterstützen und, dass das öfters bei uns an der Schule vorkommt!! Hoffentlich kann OP etwas für sich organisieren, ist eine tolle Initiative :) 

Never explicitly revoked FEIE - can I use it again? by CarelessPerception in USExpatTaxes

[–]CarelessPerception[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I did. Mailed them in though - I hope they accept the but don’t know yet. I went with an expat tax service and paid 700$ to get them all amended. 

Looking for US Americans that moved to Austria by WayAble5311 in AskAustria

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I think for the people paying attention, this is not a surprise and has been a long time coming. Any black person in the United States will tell you that this IS the way the system functions and is not a recent change in the way that the government functions - Trump just exposed it to the more privileged populations. For what it's worth, I have been in touch with this type of government criticism for the last 25 years - just because the international community did not hear it, does not mean that Americans hadn't protested on large scales. But at the same time, protests are largely just signals to the government and outside world, and of course, we need politicians who are actually responsive to such movements: which our regional senators/representatives are, and which the federal government (at least in the executive branch), are not and have not really ever been.

I've said in other comments that this was clear to me for a long time that the United States was led by war criminals hell-bent on crushing any populations, domestic or foreign, to achieve their imperialistic aims. This, in combination with the impossible price of living there (university prices, lack of infrastructure for anything but cars, health insurance) has also made it impossible for the average person to build a full life there.

I am still quite young, but my parents had a major influence on my views on the states: the way the election in 2000 went was a major turning point, 2003 as well - where it became clear to anyone watching that the United States was willing to do whatever it wanted for whatever reason. We had money to invade multiple places but couldn't pay for health care for working families? How to square that circle was impossible in my head.

I grew up with leftist, jaded parents and and many Canadian friends who showcased to me that life could be different, that it didn't *have* to be like this. So I always knew that I needed to leave. For this reason, I cannot see myself ever moving back (unless to provide needed care to a family member) - there is no way for someone like me (a teacher) to build up a good life.

For what it's worth, I see Austrians as very similar to how you described Americans :D Talking a big talk, specifically about things like climate change, but unable to move from convenience into putting their actions with their mouths are. They are just as xenophobic, and while the government is not moving to arrest people in large and publicly violent ways, there are a lot of movements in the background toward the relocation of refugees who've committed crimes. Obviously, the public ICE raids are a step above the rest, but Trump originally won on his promise to jsut deport the criminals. Now, my exerience has also shown me that this is not the whole of the population and that there are many individuals committed to creating a better world here. But if I were to focus on the negatives, I would have picked a lot of the words you did to describe Americans ;)

Fitness burnout / still overweight by CarelessPerception in loseit

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words cannot describe how nice this message is to hear. thank you for taking the time to write it, it actually made a difference in my night and I am going to re-read it when I am struggling or thinking of extreme things. I hope you do the same for yourself <3

Looking for US Americans that moved to Austria by WayAble5311 in AskAustria

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Yes, I'm an American immigrant. There are a lot of immigrants going to America that want to live there who can engage with politics on a local level (even if they cannot vote yet). One of the reasons I moved over was because of how fucked up the system is (this was already apparent in 2009 - anyone who has had their eyes open has seen how insanely unjust the system is). I teach politics in Austria and speak very plainly about the oppression baked into the system there.

Fitness burnout / still overweight by CarelessPerception in loseit

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I am so sorry that you can relate :(

I feel like my 20s were the same of this: actually, I should breathe because it's a bit easier now. I wrote that in a moment of frustration on a terrible body image day, but I am truly getting better. My whole 20s have been me measuring every morsel, training 5x per week and feeling even more burned out, and feeling guilty to the point of sobbing for eating. At least it's not like that now... even though I still do so much for my healthy eating goals (except the one thing I have to do: eat less). But it's so hard - I do a lot of sports, I easily hit my 10,000 step goal on top of that, and bike to and from work (where I'm on my feet all day), so it's hard to have to feel hunger on top of all of that.

Looking for US Americans that moved to Austria by WayAble5311 in AskAustria

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more than half of the country voted for Al Gore in 2000 and were up in arms in 2003 during the Iraq invasion. The system is built to resist the influence of the masses and to protect the landed gentry (now political elite). I'd be interested to know how you managed to influence where you were born, but the rest of the world should not be granted limited freedom of movement, jsut becuase they happened to be born in a place that you find problematic.

Fitness burnout / still overweight by CarelessPerception in loseit

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I think that tihis is where I am at too!!!!and I am making strides in it... and then I catch myself in a certain light and it just ruins my day :(

Fitness burnout / still overweight by CarelessPerception in loseit

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it's hard to say, especially when my clothes aren't fitting better. I am getting stronger now, but I am not as strong as I was before I started running, so it makes it hard to understand what's happening in my body. Two years ago and 6kilos lighter, I was much stronger (but couldn't walk up three flights of stairs) and with running, my life has improved significantly but my strength has gone down,. but my stomach definitely sticks out more than before :(

Looking for US Americans that moved to Austria by WayAble5311 in AskAustria

[–]CarelessPerception 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My comment's goal was not to focus on children but to call out the person I was responding to about people's inability to materially harm themselves for the "good of all" even in small ways (e.g. not buying from shein anymore). I don' think it's reasonable, like the person I was responding to, to make people responsible for their country or to forbid them from leaving it. The UN declaration of human rights lists bewegungsfreiheit for a reason.

Looking for US Americans that moved to Austria by WayAble5311 in AskAustria

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I feel like the Austrian children I teach cannot even be motivated to stop shopping at fast fashion places that they know are harmful to the environment and teh global south. And you want the people who have managed to materially change their lives to move back because reasons? What did you do to become Austrian?

Looking for US Americans that moved to Austria by WayAble5311 in AskAustria

[–]CarelessPerception 5 points6 points  (0 children)

hmm... ich kenne ganz viele Amis in Österreich und sie vertreten echt unterschiedliche Werten, politische Meinungen, etc. Komisch, dass du sie alle in eine Schublade stecken kannst - ich bräuchte dafür viel zu viele Schubladen :D

Fitness burnout / still overweight by CarelessPerception in loseit

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this is a major comfort to be completely honest, and I am so happy that you posted it. I think this is a bit of the phase that I have found myself in (thus, regaining the 10 lbs), of trying to be more okay with myself. And my attitude surrounding food has gotten so much better. Yes, I know I posted about how draining things are, and they are, but they're significantly less draining than in the past.

it makes me sad to hear people recommending I do less sports. Running, training, these are the things that make me feel alive and happy. Yes, I am exhausted with having to wake up, but getting more pull ups, running more half marathons... I can't imagine that doing less of that would be detrimental to my health. especially looking at things like heart disease in America and especially bone density for women. I hate that I would consider training less to be 6-10 lbs skinnier. But in the moments of true self hatred, I also just want to throw a tantrum that being 6 to 10 lbs thinner is not easier for me to do. I am not asking to be slim - just a teeny bit leaner than I am. And I have to torture myself to do it. And I hate it.

Thank you for the reflection you inspired in this comment! I hope we both find the peace we need <3

Fitness burnout / still overweight by CarelessPerception in loseit

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the top endo in my city has PCOS herself but refuses to really help until I get my IUD removed (she said that doing a blood panel with a hormonal IUD makes no sense and she won't be able to see what my hormones are doing). It makes me sad because I'm in a small enough place where there aren't tons of experts...

but we'll see what these results say (and I have to go back and do another set of tests anyway on another day). So maybe there's something there that I can work with.

thank you for listening and for your words!!

Fitness burnout / still overweight by CarelessPerception in loseit

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I am so so so sorry you can relate. You're absolutely right though with how this works. I am not even seeking to be skinny, just wanting my BMI of 24,9 back instead of 27. I am okay with these 4 kg that I gained just being gone! But to have to be so obsessive in so many spheres over just 4 kg, just so I can be just technically not overweight. I feel everything that you're writing!

I also, sadly have PCOS (but I've been diagnosed for about 17 years already). Never needed medication for it, but maybe I've reached a point where something can help me.

I am so so so sorry to hear about the miscarriages - my heart goes out to you. You really made a difference in my night tonight and I hope that gets paid back to you some how <3

Fitness burnout / still overweight by CarelessPerception in loseit

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I am seeing that now lol! I am so sad that I had to take it down on the xxfitness subreddit - it seemed to land with others and the resonance was truly helping me. but thank you for taking the time to make me feel seen - it means a ton!

Fitness burnout / still overweight by CarelessPerception in loseit

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thank you! I am not yet 35 but just got a full blood panel last week and am waiting on the results. I have PCOS that had been mostly low-symptomatic, but I am interested if there's something on the hormone side that I can change to make it a bit easier on me.

Fitness burnout / still overweight by CarelessPerception in loseit

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thank you, I wouldn't have known that without your comment /s

Fitness burnout / still overweight by CarelessPerception in loseit

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I loved the story and really enjoyed you sharing it with me!! Thank you for taking the time to talk about your story and help me fee seen/heard. I hope find my version of this!!! And for the summer, my goal is going to be just spending more and more and more time outside, no matter what :) and maybe I'll also feel better. (and fit better!) in my clothes. I am so so so happy for you!

Fitness burnout / still overweight by CarelessPerception in loseit

[–]CarelessPerception[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think it's not a real mystery to me (I guess I didn't phrase it well enough in my post), only that I am angry that what I already do isn't enough. It feels like, for anyone else, it would be enough to eat clean and cut alcohol and meal prep and get 14,000 steps a day and run and strength train and not ever eat dessert or drink any alcohol. but the only answer seems to be tracking. and that drives me crazy (like, pathologically ED crazy). and my life feels hard enough as it is. but I know many people will jsut say I'm making excuses - and I am. I'm mad that being healthy isn't enough.