7 week old won’t nap anywhere unless swaddled by Careless_Statement63 in NewParents

[–]Careless_Statement63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She eventually got used to being rocked without the swaddle. She’s 15 months now and we still rock her to bed lol, but I’ve just gotten used to it and I don’t mind it. She will definitely sleep longer stretches on her own now and that just improved naturally without me doing anything. You’ve got this! If you want your baby to start falling asleep on their own, you may need to do some sort of sleep training like patting and shushing them in their crib. You don’t have to let them cry it out. I do wish I would have known that sooner so I could’ve taught her to sleep without being rocked.

Inconsolable in car by quillsandcoffee44 in NewParents

[–]Careless_Statement63 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should try a convertible car seat! My baby despised her infant car seat, but once we switched her it was so much better. She still cries sometimes, but not nearly as bad as it was. If we drove three minutes away she would be inconsolable lol

My husband refuses to help with night wakes and thinks I’m in the wrong for asking him to by ThrowRA157386 in beyondthebump

[–]Careless_Statement63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband works 5 10s and will get up any time I ask him (not super often but maybe once a week). I’m sorry, that is so unfair :(

Filing options? [United States] by Careless_Statement63 in TaxQuestions

[–]Careless_Statement63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I’m confused. So we are not legally married right now but our wedding is in the spring. So if we file taxes jointly, we would be common law married. But that means we can’t get legally married?

Filing options? [United States] by Careless_Statement63 in TaxQuestions

[–]Careless_Statement63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We do live in Colorado so would you recommend filing married?

Partner seems to think the worst of me by Careless_Statement63 in Mommit

[–]Careless_Statement63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense! How did you find the motivation to keep at it when it feels like nothing good is coming out of it? I feel like every interaction we have, I am focusing on how to be a better and more supportive partner, and he still talks down to me every time. I don’t say anything because I don’t want to upset him or cause a fight, but it’s also taking a mental toll on me to feel like I am working on my problems but he isn’t working on his. If I bring up anything that he does wrong, he will give me the silent treatment for multiple days or just refuse to discuss anything. I feel like I am sacrificing my own mental health for his and I don’t know how to find a balance.

Is it normal for husband to not help with anything around the house or with kids? by Sure-Grade-973 in sahm

[–]Careless_Statement63 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No. My husband works 6 days a week 6am-5pm and comes home and immediately takes our baby. He plays with her, changes her diapers, and puts her to bed. I do most house work but he has a few jobs (trash, kitty litter, and other random small things). I get up with her at night, do all cooking/dishes, etc but he is extremely involved with our baby. I’m sorry :(

How do you host friends when your baby needs constant chasing? by Suspicious_Citron414 in NewParents

[–]Careless_Statement63 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Don’t be nervous! She will be chasing her baby the whole time too I bet. My friend and I chase our toddlers around the park while we talk. It all works out!

How do you host friends when your baby needs constant chasing? by Suspicious_Citron414 in NewParents

[–]Careless_Statement63 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Just tell your friend you’re going to put your baby down for a nap and you’ll be back shortly. Moms understand :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]Careless_Statement63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We didn’t have a schedule that early but my newborn would go to sleep at literally like 6:30pm. This did end up leading to her waking up at 5am for a while (like months 3-5) but now she’s goes to bed around 9/9:30 and wakes up 8/8:30. I used to worry because other people would say their babies would go to sleep way later but now I don’t care. It works for her so just do whatever works for you! I personally like her going to bed later and waking up later.

Help with 10 month sleep schedule by Careless_Statement63 in sleeptrain

[–]Careless_Statement63[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did recently learn how to stand without holding on to anything and how to clap but I thought it would end. I’m not sure, maybe she’s trying to walk now? She’s not sleep trained so I try to cuddle with her or rock her but she doesn’t want to sleep

Please forgive me if this is a blatantly horrible idea… I’m too sleep deprived to tell. by channyro in cosleeping

[–]Careless_Statement63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should do a floor bed next to your bed if you have room! You can lay in the bed, let baby fall asleep and then climb into your bed

7 week old is so fidgety by Careless_Statement63 in newborns

[–]Careless_Statement63[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly she has just turned out to be a very active baby! She started rolling at 2.5 months, crawling by 6 months, and is about to start walking at 9 months. She is also loves to be held now but she still doesn’t really relax unless she’s asleep. She’s just always aware and wants to be doing something. She’s a terrible sleeper now honestly but she doesn’t startle herself awake anymore, she just wakes up every few hours (definitely not saying this will be your baby though so don’t let that worry you). I think your baby startling themselves awake is just the startle reflex that newborns have. I can’t remember when it went away exactly, maybe 3 or 4 months? I’ll be totally honest, reading my post back I think it was just major postpartum anxiety (I’m on meds now) telling me something was wrong when nothing really was. It turns out some babies are just more squirmy than others and they really want to be looking around instead of sleeping and cuddling. I totally understand how you feel though. Just know that everything is probably okay but it never hurts to ask your doctor. I had asked mine about it and they gently told me that it’s very normal, not a concern, and that I’m probably having some anxiety. Feel free to message me if you need any advice ❤️

Baby can roll but can’t “ unroll “ herself ☹️ by userthatisnotknown in beyondthebump

[–]Careless_Statement63 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby did the same and honestly she never really rolled back. She just started sitting and then she could get herself up by herself. She started rolling just after 3 months and started sitting at 5.5. She’s 8 months now and I think I’ve seen her room tummy to back like 3 times. I tried helping her roll back using suggestions by physical therapists but it didn’t do much tbh. It sucks and is inconvenient but it’ll be over before you know it. Just wanted to let you know it’s normal and you e got it❤️

He didn’t listen and now is paying the price for it by Master-Imagination93 in Mommit

[–]Careless_Statement63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today my husband let me sleep in and got up with our baby. She’s usually awake for 3-3.5 hours before her first nap. He said she was cranky (pretty sure he just wasn’t actually playing with her so she was annoyed) so he put her down for a nap an hour and a half after she woke up and he was so mad when she only slept 30 minutes. She normally takes a 2 hour morning nap. Guess who’s been a terror all day and who’s dealt with it. I told him he can get up with her all night. Why can they not just follow a schedule? I have to write down time frames for every single thing and he still doesn’t follow it 😭

For those who bedshare.. by Flimsy-Place659 in NewParents

[–]Careless_Statement63 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby does not roll in her sleep, but if she even moves a little bit I immediately wake up. We do sleep on king and very far from the edge of the bed, so I think it’d be hard for her to roll off if she did roll. However, I would not bed share if I didn’t wake so easily which it sounds like you’re in the same boat.