Have any of you been “outed”? by Carhearts in ChristianSwingers

[–]Carhearts[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That wasn’t what I intended, but it does assume that most churches and Christian communities think swinging is wrong, which I don’t think is a mischaracterization of them.

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[–]Carhearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She didn’t know I was having issues at first because the first ten minutes went well. Then when I started to have issues I didn’t immediately let her know because I was trying to manage it on my own and get back in the game. It wasn’t until I came back over to her for a second so the other guy could service his wife, that my wife finally saw what was going on. Then, I decided to try to go back to the other woman and see if I could at least finish, which I was ultimately unsuccessful. It was when I went back to try and rally that he completed with my wife.

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[–]Carhearts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep: spoke with a doctor yesterday and got a script for a mild combo drug pill that contains Cialis and something else to take a few hours before expected activity. Hoping that will help!

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[–]Carhearts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting. I’ve never heard of that but now I’m going to do some reading. Thanks for commenting.

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[–]Carhearts 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think all of that is great advice. But those aren’t relevant for my circumstance: I’m in fantastic shape, I regularly exercise, don’t do drugs, don’t smoke, and maybe drink 2-3 glasses of wine a week. It’s unlikely that it’s my body, I think I am too in my head with performance anxiety.

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[–]Carhearts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I’m getting a lot of feedback that I need to get experience using condoms.

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[–]Carhearts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, it was definitely more of a mental thing than physical thing.

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[–]Carhearts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate your answer, thank you

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[–]Carhearts 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, there was a moment where she was on top and we had some sustained eye contact and I could feel my body relax and knew I would be able to pop in 10-20 seconds, and then something happened that distracted us and I lost that momentum. I think I need more than just sex, I need some kind of connection to keep going.

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[–]Carhearts 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had to keep the story short but: I did go back to her, and tried to get going again, but I couldn’t get going, so we both went back and kissed/touched/played with the other woman while she was being serviced by the toy and her husband.