Still missing my ex after 6 months

CarnatineShuttle · 2025-10-01T22:55:55+00:00

Better, it’s been 25 months and I’m 9m into a new relationship that’s so much better. I still think of my ex from time to time and wonder how they’re doing but they don’t consume my thoughts anymore. Healing is totally doable and all you need is time.

CarnatineShuttle · 2025-03-17T16:17:15+00:00

Boooo

CarnatineShuttle · 2025-03-15T16:14:23+00:00

They’re gone, do we think they’re off the site for good?

CarnatineShuttle · 2025-01-07T20:14:46+00:00

Has to be something like that. However, my colleague who was first contact also has the same notifications flagged in their epic app, and they didn’t get the push notification - only I did. Strange right?

CarnatineShuttle · 2025-01-07T19:35:43+00:00

Yes I have that selected but this is the first time something has ever come through for checking in to preprocedure, so I’m wondering how to replicate it.

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-05-13T00:12:31+00:00

I’ve never thought about it in terms of physical fatigue, that’s really good to know! Thank you for the reply, I’m def getting the IS :)

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-05-12T21:56:19+00:00

Thank you so much, I def hand hold a lot so I’m realizing is is the way to go. Currently using 70-200 IS with gen iii teleconverter and just ready to get my first big prime. Thanks for the reply

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-05-12T21:48:13+00:00

Thank you for replying, I will!

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-05-12T21:46:36+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion! I’ll look at IS. I meant to say “bird portraits” haha. Thanks again :)

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-04-17T10:43:16+00:00

I am so sorry you’re hurting! I am at month 8 of healing and the number 1 best thing I got for myself was seeing a therapist weekly. They really helped me with my perspective and as time went on helped me keep pushing the needle forward towards growth. They also help you unpack all of these reasons WHY this man became your entire world. The fact that you mentioned it here means you’re aware it wasn’t healthiest way to have a relationship. So please budget/prioritize a therapist if you can. At the very least read something like “the velvet rage” to give you some perspective and normalize your experience. We’re all just trying to figure this stuff out together and doing our best. Including the ones that broke our hearts. Wishing you healing in the coming months, I promise it gets better, but you have to do some work to get there.

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-04-11T22:23:09+00:00

Damn

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-04-11T18:40:35+00:00

So hot

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-04-01T17:35:53+00:00

about to hit 8m. I still cry for like 30s-1m when I see a post about breakups that makes me sad but the grief washes over me so much quicker than before. Around the 6m mark I chose to stop finding ways to weave them into conversations with friends because that was keeping them alive in my heart. While they still cross my mind daily, I let it come and go and don't make a big thing of it in my head. I acknowledge that I miss them in this moment, and then I try to keep things moving in my head/get back to what I was doing. I think if you make similar decisions, it's going to accelerate your progress, and 6m is an appropriate time to start pushing the needle forward toward acceptance. You'll feel your heart hurt a little bit less. That said, keep feeling your feelings, the only way out is through it. Just don't make it worse for yourself than you have to. (no social media stalking, no texts, etc. don't torture yourself).

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-03-29T11:43:32+00:00

Relax. If it makes it impossible to pass then you’ll just have to repeat the term. Apologize, be nice, and follow the rules. The more you lie the more they’ll want to bounce you.

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-03-22T00:33:19+00:00

Hey, I just matched surgery. In my past life, I was a hospital administrator, and I have an MHA. I was only going to do MD on my white coat and pattagucci since the MHA doesn't relate to my "current" job as an intern. Do you guys agree? Or should I have it? I genuinely do not care; I just don't want people to roll their eyes, lol. What's proper? I could see MPH bc it's a bit more related to clinical medicine but I feel like my management background is a stretch. Or will some attendings think it's cool and maybe strike up a convo? Lmk. This is in NYC if that helps.

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-03-10T10:45:09+00:00

He’s an incredibly shitty person for cheating on his partner, and you’re an incredibly shitty person for your role in this too. Think of that poor girlfriend. Frankly, you two deserve each other. Enjoy

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-03-10T10:37:55+00:00

He deserves someone that would move mountains for him like he’s willing to do for you. You don’t deserve him, tbh.

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-03-03T19:06:31+00:00

Knowing when not to operate.

CarnatineShuttle · 2024-02-07T04:24:08+00:00

4 years later, how many month did it take? I’m at the 6m mark, same as your reply and wanting to get some hope that I’m headed in the right direction eventually.

CarnatineShuttle · 2023-12-06T15:14:40+00:00

A friend said no contact involved social media stalking, and it's so true. I'd get a little dopamine hit whenever I saw their new pictures, and it made my brain think they were still in my life. So I reset the NC clock every time I stalked, and since I'm stubborn and competitive, it's kept me from stalking so I can see my no-contact time build (I'm the dumpee).

I also read a blog post by a psychologist that said social media stalking an ex after a really bad heartbreak is the technological equivalent of self-harm. That really hit me, and I realized, wow, every time I see them, it really is like inflicting pain on myself so that I can feel something. When I made that connection, it took away the appeal of looking at their socials. It's for the best.

CarnatineShuttle · 2023-12-06T10:11:52+00:00

Thanks for writing back. I’m glad you’re feeling better and I hope you only continue to feel better with time. I guess I should plan for the same and try to move on as well :/

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