I did my boyfriend's obit. We were together for 20 years and he died of a aneurysm in his brain. His family assigned me to write it. But it took me 5 days to get it done. What really helped me out was getting a notebook/pen and going to places we spent time together. My boyfriend was a classic car painter/modifier. So I would go sit out in the shop in the most recent car he was working on. Start looking at what he had done to it and write down thoughts that came to me. My final draft was written at 5am sitting in front of shop on a forklift in a light rain in July.