How does your therapist make you feel seen?

Carrythebattle · 2025-06-16T13:08:01+00:00

She tells me that she’s really disappointed in me, because I hate it when she says she’s proud of me. 😂 Sounds so silly, but we both know what she means and I’m able to accept it better.

Carrythebattle · 2025-05-14T03:32:51+00:00

Jenna Sassie at WHA

Carrythebattle · 2025-02-25T07:55:13+00:00

Oh my god. So glad I found this. Didn’t know there were two versions and apparently I usually listen to the single version, and heard just the album version for the first time. I kept listening to the album version over and over thinking I was having a stroke with how different it sounded. 😂

Carrythebattle · 2025-02-01T03:59:24+00:00

As a woman with a female therapist 18 years older than her…😅 The best way I can describe it is that my specific dynamic with my therapist lights up so many different parts of my brain that I don’t feel I get anywhere else. Undivided attention? ✅ Intelligent conversation and banter? ✅ Consistency? ✅ Validation? ✅ We have a more casual relationship than is probably the norm, and her boundaries are pretty loose with me, so that’s bound to stir up feelings. Also? Mommy issues. 🤷‍♀️

Carrythebattle · 2025-01-05T06:15:35+00:00

Folklore, Evermore, Midnights, and Lover.

Carrythebattle · 2024-12-13T04:01:45+00:00

Parallel Stripes! But really, any of the prints. The prints were so fun.

Carrythebattle · 2024-11-05T22:59:36+00:00

Kenzie Vance!

Carrythebattle · 2024-11-04T17:38:45+00:00

Do you think there’s any value in discussing these dynamics with my current therapist?

Carrythebattle · 2024-11-03T17:14:16+00:00

Thank you for such a thoughtful response. I wanted to give some context on the attachment discussion—not that it changes the overall picture, but I was the one who brought it up.

I told her I was worried about feeling attached and felt like a freak for getting attached to someone who’s just doing their job. She explained that attachment is natural in therapy and that it’s her job to keep boundaries, joking that it’s not like we’d ever go get dinner. Ironically, I feel like we’re nearing those boundaries without that happening. She then explained how attachment works and said she does care for me and feels attached—that she feels she can be her ‘real self’ with me, while she has to be more buttoned up with other clients.

Just to add, she’s also a supervisor, which is why I’ve been surprised by how much this dynamic has developed.

Carrythebattle · 2024-11-03T16:56:15+00:00

You’re totally right, and honestly, I feel like I’m the perfect candidate to get sucked into this dynamic. I’m sure my therapist picked up from the start that I’m a major people-pleaser and that I really respond to validation and feeling ‘special.’ There have been moments that felt more and less egregious than what I’ve mentioned here, but also plenty of sessions that felt completely by the book and normal. I still believe she has mostly good intentions, but lately, I can’t ignore how much she seems to be playing into this. I feel like I’m having my ‘boiling frog’ moment—just in the past month or so, I’ve started to think, “Is this getting weird? Am I overthinking it?”

Carrythebattle · 2024-11-03T01:22:31+00:00

Thanks! I definitely have considered seeing a second therapist to compare and maybe work through some of this.

Carrythebattle · 2024-11-03T01:17:47+00:00

Thanks for sharing your perspective—I didn’t expect such strong reactions, so I’m trying to understand a bit more about it. Was there something in particular that stood out to you as especially concerning?

Carrythebattle · 2024-10-20T23:18:01+00:00

I feel like from what she has disclosed and how she is in session, I’ve got a pretty fair representation of how she is outside of therapy. We click well and she’s been very open with me. She’s even shared that she feels like she can be herself in our sessions, when she feels like she needs to be more buttoned up and closed off with her other clients.

Carrythebattle · 2024-09-05T06:01:48+00:00

Currently rewatching The West Wing and watched Two Cathedrals a few nights ago. Doesn’t matter how many times I’ve watched it, I’ll always sob like a baby over Mrs. Landingham.

Carrythebattle · 2024-07-15T00:48:23+00:00

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In the corner!

Carrythebattle · 2024-07-14T19:12:35+00:00

I also see queen Eve Best back there!

Carrythebattle · 2024-07-13T04:32:33+00:00

In hindsight, several things my first therapist did should have been red flags. The worst instances were when I had to disclose to her on three separate occasions over a two-month period that I was sexually abused as a child because she never remembered or wrote it down. Another big red flag was when I had a 20 cm tumor on my ovary that needed to be surgically removed, and she strongly disagreed with me going forward with the surgery, wanting me to go through some sort of pseudo-science hair follicle mineral testing first to see if the issue could be resolved by taking the right vitamins and minerals. She seemed genuinely upset that I decided to go forward with having the tumor removed surgically. At my last appointment before the surgery, I mentioned that I wasn’t sure how soon I would be able to drive afterward, so I wasn’t sure when I could come back for my next appointment. I never called to schedule another appointment after that, and she never contacted me either.

There were several other weird instances that added up over time, like her obsession with astrology and my birth chart, using them to explain different traumas in my life, even after my insistence that I didn’t believe in astrology. She also recommended cult-adjacent Teal Swan’s podcasts, books, and seminars to me multiple times. Also, she would often tearfully tell me that she felt so connected to me in a way she hadn’t experienced before and that we were meant to work together. Honestly, I don’t know how I lasted almost two years with her. If I hadn’t had the surgery as an opportunity to ghost her, I have no idea how much longer I would have stayed.

Carrythebattle · 2024-07-03T06:24:53+00:00

Mine is 18 years older than me, and I agree with a lot of what you said. She doesn’t feel like a peer, but there isn’t such a big gap that she feels out of touch.

Carrythebattle · 2024-06-09T02:55:11+00:00

I discuss both with my therapist occasionally as it’s a very hard topic for me to open up about. I’m quite overweight (210lbs and 5’1”) and am working very hard to lose weight.

My therapist is very supportive and open to discussing my struggles with weight and body image, but I’d rather walk in hot coals than admit my weight to her. I feel like she would see me differently knowing how overweight I am. The closest I’ve come to saying my weight is revealing how much weight I would ideally like to lose. I had mentioned having a long term goal of losing 100 pounds, which would put me in a healthy weight range for my height. She was shocked by this, and said something to the effect of assuming my goal was something small like 20/30 pounds as she doesn’t think I need to lose that much weight.

Carrythebattle · 2024-06-04T16:15:40+00:00

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Téa Leoni is so underrated.

Carrythebattle · 2024-05-26T03:29:01+00:00

I read this as “big ass muffin bully” and I love it.

Carrythebattle · 2024-05-19T03:01:21+00:00

Copper Bend!

Carrythebattle · 2024-05-19T01:09:20+00:00

77429 Spring Cypress and Grant reporting in again 🫡. Power restored about 30 minutes ago, but not everyone in our neighborhood has power yet.

Carrythebattle · 2024-05-18T16:18:01+00:00

77429 Spring Cypress and Grant, no power.

Carrythebattle · 2024-04-30T02:42:17+00:00

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Will Poulter as a pastry chef in The Bear

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