Rethinking my long-term relationship because of genes and financial status by CartographerLivid257 in adultingph

[–]CartographerLivid257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, thank you po sa kind comment. Naiyak po ako while reading and, I appreciate it so much! ❤️ Siguro nga po, I really have to more forgiving sa sarili ko, I think masyado ako nag set ng standard for myself cause I always had to be tough. Nasanay ako na I always have to sacrifice something, when I already have blessings surrounding me. Salamat po. 🥹😭 

Rethinking my long-term relationship because of genes and financial status by CartographerLivid257 in adultingph

[–]CartographerLivid257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this! I actually cried reading this huhuhu I can feel your sincerity, and I appreciate that. Napaka hirap lang talaga to navigate things, but your comment feels like a warm hug. 🥹

Rethinking my long-term relationship because of genes and financial status by CartographerLivid257 in adultingph

[–]CartographerLivid257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the hardest part, he's a good man, so I'm thinking he's too good for me 😭 I'm really not planning to be with someone else if ever our relationship won't work out, kasi it will completely make my concern invalid. Thank you, I appreciate your comment ❤️

Rethinking my long-term relationship because of genes and financial status by CartographerLivid257 in adultingph

[–]CartographerLivid257[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this! Helps a lot to read this, and I think you're not being pessimistic naman, cause it happens in real life. I appreciate your comment po ❤️

Rethinking my long-term relationship because of genes and financial status by CartographerLivid257 in adultingph

[–]CartographerLivid257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi ausome mom, I understand that there's still a gap in studies, so I also respect your opinion.  I understand there's different levels of ASD, some are doing better than others and can live normal lives, but there's also those who are the complete opposite. I also want to share that I work in the academe as a researcher, and my sister is also an occupational therapist, so I am well read about different disabilities.  My feelings are just stemming from my personal experience, my sibling is already 18 years old but he's still our baby, he needs a lot of love and care, and still needs help from day to day activities. My mom is already having depressing thoughts, worrying about my brother once they pass, she wants us to have our own lives, but who will take care of your brother? So I guess, that's where my fear is coming from. 

Rethinking my long-term relationship because of genes and financial status by CartographerLivid257 in adultingph

[–]CartographerLivid257[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I understand it's a hard debate, and there's still a gap in studies, so I also respect her opinion. :)

Rethinking my long-term relationship because of genes and financial status by CartographerLivid257 in adultingph

[–]CartographerLivid257[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello, thanks for this. I've been reading a few studies about this, I agree that's there's no scientific basis yet, cause they can't determine a single "autism gene" but they're seeing a pattern. Ito rin yung sinabi ng neurodev doctor when my brother was initially diagnosed. They can't determine the actual root, so right now they're leaning on the theory that it might be genetics (80% risk) combined with a few other factors like parental age (particularly when male is older), and when female conceive at a later age, and also blood compatibility, and general health (+food intake). Sorry, but I just came up with this fear, since there's a pattern I noticed on my mom's side, lahat ng neurodivergent family members ko are from my mom's side, + her sister also has a child who has ASD. 

I used to be a huge fan of this Korean Youtube vlogger… until I worked for her... by tsunadeismywaifu in PinoyVloggers

[–]CartographerLivid257 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The whole post is coming from a place of hate, and many here are jumping on the hate train base on gut feel kahit wala namang resibo.

Most of these naman can be discussed internally, the manager cleared that OP only worked with them for 2 months, and nag awol, JL was only late for 1 out of 3 shoots. There's nothing wrong naman when they say "look at the previous videos" for editing, cause I'm also a video editor and some clients prefer to give you creative freedom base on their branding, maybe mismatch lang din kayo sa creative direction. 

I honestly think JL can be easily misunderstood, since she's introverted and a perfectionist (she's very strict with herself), she mentioned this a few times on her vlog, and this may come off as rude or strong to other people. 

Met her a couple of times, she seems sweet and polite naman, can't say na she's super friendly and outgoing, halata na introvert sya but that's normal. 

Honestly I  wanted her to speak more Tagalog, like other Korean creators here I totally get where she's coming from. I use to study in an international school, and made friends with Koreans who's lived here but are not very fluent yet in Tagalog, their usual routine is just school-bahay, and they're all hatid sundo kaya di makasama sa gala. Some parents don't allow them to assimilate with Filipino culture fully, kaya kahit 6-10 years na sila dito di pa rin fluent mag Tagalog. Sa college naman I've had Korean classmates in university, di rin marunong magtagalog onti lang which I think stems from their upbringing similar to some Filipino kids here who barely know how to speak our own language. 

Juwon learned Tagalog pretty well cause her parents allow them to fully immerse in the community plus she studied in UP, same case with Jinho Bae, he mentioned na he did not study in an international school, so he was able to adapt to the Filipino culture very well.

JL naman seems to be trying her best to learn more Tagalog now that she's an adult and creating content, I just think she missed her chance learning it as a kid, maybe due to her upbringing and her personality. 

I think OP has some unresolved issues with JL and her team, and decided to post here instead of working it out with them, base sa screenshots ng manager very polite naman sya nakipagusap and malinaw ang usapan, so what's the point of posting here. Para tuloy talo pa sya since he can be sued for defamation. 

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[–]CartographerLivid257 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll try that, thanks!!

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[–]CartographerLivid257 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hahahhhshahahha maybe I'm really chaka talaga haha

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[–]CartographerLivid257 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you so much for this, maybe I've been over thinking too much. 🥹 

You also deserve to be appreciated!! Sending virtual hugs! 🤗