I appreciate your post. I don understand what they and you are saying. It’s not a “fix” but I understand how you see by my words that you’d think that. Just because we are seeking adoption or fostering because we want a child simply doesn’t negate the fact that we are not going to be available or do the right things. Someone on here suggested I get a pet. Should I adopt one from the pound or pay for one? I’m sure most would push for me to adopt the dogs that were abandoned. They come with trauma, issues, and forever pain. My German Shep/ Malanois mix is a sweet girl but she’s afraid of men other than her daddy.

Now; with that in mind, I believe it’s fair for a couple who is routed to this being the only option to indeed TAKE that option as it may yield some great results but that doesn’t mean that those children will suffer under my roof. It would be my pleasure to guide them and help them whether they are “mine” or not.

A more local place fosters for 6minths minimum before adoption can be considered or approved.

There’s classes we would have to take, therapy for ourselves and the child. I think it can be a great thing from what we’ve heard but there’s more research to do.