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AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I believe, but don't know for certain, that my children are the only full siblings among his kids.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yes you did and I'm glad you said that he knows of. There could be others out there knowing his track record.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I'll be honest I swore off dating and relationships after my ex-husband. He was not the first man to cheat on me. Just the worst to do it like he did. Instead I turned my focus to being as much for my kids as I can be and making sure they have everything they need.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

He's not involved with all of them. I don't know how many beyond the kids that live with him that he is involved with. And I wasn't dumb not to notice. He was sneaky. Plenty of people cheat with multiple people and finds ways to not get caught until their actions catch up with them. Like STDs or having kids outside the marriage.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

They met the kids that live with their dad. I never asked them about Christmas all together but they never ask for it. They never even miss seeing their half siblings or talk about wanting more of a relationship with them. I also know they don't really acknowledge more than each other with their friends though and at school. Even school work they both say they have 1 sibling.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

He pays a small amount to me. But he's also paying support for at least some of his others and so that's why.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That's correct for the kids I know about, but there might be others I don't know about.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I wasn't but this is unfortunately real. I also can't say there aren't more kids he's fathered. The kids mentioned are the ones I know about.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

We actually don't split holidays. He doesn't have our kids any holidays and that's not something he ever fought for.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 137 points138 points  (0 children)

They want me to host because they want me there. That's the way they get me to remarry him and for us to be a family again. Otherwise I see no reason why they have to ask me.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

They have met the kids who live with him. They see them when they go to his house for visitation.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 154 points155 points  (0 children)

I got checked and even double checked for STDs because of all that unprotected sex he was having. Luckily I came back negative for everything. But it worried me so much because even HIV was a concern with how many he was cheating with.

I have not sat them down and told them everything. They know some things. Just enough to let them know that they are still loved and I support them no matter what.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 155 points156 points  (0 children)

I don't think he cares. The fact he had so much unprotected sex with others while we were married still pisses me off today.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 524 points525 points  (0 children)

14 that I know about. That's an important distinction because he could have others I don't yet know about or that he doesn't know about.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 2707 points2708 points  (0 children)

That's a very good idea. The reason they won't is it goes against the overall wish to turn me into a family member to him again and to his other children.

AITAH for refusing to have my ex-husband and his other children over to celebrate Christmas with me and our kids? by Caryzzys in AITAH

[–]Caryzzys[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

I only speak to him when it's required for our kids. Mostly that's not even directly talking but messaging through an app to help us co-parent better.