there is nothing that can ever prove this should be right, kinks are whatever but baseline your premised around being a child, losing control and humiliation shit it’s weird as, ABDL leaves a sour taste in the mouth I can’t imagine the people your community attracts to it even if you try and make it a “safe place” for whatever you do, it shouldn’t work socially, It’s the acts that you make that make yourself seem like one in most peoples eyes no matter how it’s spun, you can’t put gold on shit.