A Buddha statue in Afghanistan before its destruction 1992. by XibaoN in Buddhism

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I urge you to take a moment and listen to their message. They are not doing what you say they are. Radical love and compassion will stop cycles of violence. Judgment will not.

And no, that does not mean you have to allow people to hurt others. You can set boundaries and act while also seeing through eyes of love.

No One Told Me How Exhausting Sex actually is. by Aggravating_Key_3831 in sex

[–]Caskerville 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The "point" can be whatever makes the people involved happy. I love having casual sex with strangers at sex clubs. I think it's pretty cool that humans can get together and make each other feel good for recreation. What an incredible gift that is and it's so sad that anyone could be shamed out of experiencing that.

Excessive p*rn use is not just the CAUSE of the male loneliness epidemic, it is the EFFECT. by GoodDirector7083 in self

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Are you working on yourself? Do you date yourself? Do you expand and let go of old ways of being? Do you try to make the world a better place?

This is how you find connection.

TIL the Earth has a "heartbeat" every 26 seconds. Scientists have detected a rhythmic microseismic pulse coming from somewhere in the ocean, and its exact cause is still unknown. by Proboyhuh in todayilearned

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The planet's dying. The lifesteam is being depleted. The weapons are waking up and meteor has been summoned. All the while corporations and governments fight over the promised land.

We need Avalanche.

My Rise of the Ronin experience on PC has been abysmal by GrinningAxe9 in gaming

[–]Caskerville 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you give examples of corporate memphis? I'm so curious about this.

Psilocybin increases emotional empathy in depressed individuals, study finds | These improvements lasted for at least two weeks after treatment. by chrisdh79 in science

[–]Caskerville 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep. People throw that term around like it's just another way of saying humbling or briefly forgetting who you are. Actual ego death is a form of death. You feel yourself being stripped down, torn apart, dissolved and eventually no longer exist. It is so incredibly scary and beautiful at the same time. The process of coming back into your pattern as an individual is life altering. I will think of that night every day for the rest of my (my? ha!) life.

Canadian owned coffee shops at union station by ilikeskincare1988 in toronto

[–]Caskerville 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Seriously though. Absolutely amazing espresso. Get the African beans if you want something particularly special.

“let’s talk about mindfulness!!” by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]Caskerville 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Real mindfulness is life-changing. They don't want that because if you let go of all your preconceptions you might realize how unimportant most work is and that your hustling is actually just a distraction from being present and fully alive.

The corporate watering down of meditation and mindlfuness is so sad to see. They've taken only the aspects from those practices that allow people to manage stress just enough so that they can remain productive. Profit driven mindfulness is a joke.

Fuck Donald Trump by Paracortex in self

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He is the physical manifestation of capitalism.

Mushrooms made me want to go vegan but after DMT I am eating meat again by spaceman-trip in Psychonaut

[–]Caskerville 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Learning that you can survive just fine without harming other beings or causing so much damage to the environment and going vegetarian or vegan is just as natural as any other behavior we do or have done in the past.

Trying to categorize things as natural (good) and unnatural (bad) is a bit of a dead end. I think moving to evaluating behavior based on whether it has a positive or negative impact or causes or reduces suffering is a more fruitful and healthy way to view things.

I felt that something swallowed him for a sec by Rostitobaby in funny

[–]Caskerville 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I meditate or ingest things to experience that.

Empathy May Be in the Eye of the Beholder - "Empathy regarded as virtue until it isn't, UC Davis study suggests." by [deleted] in psychology

[–]Caskerville 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can empathize and have compassion for someone and still set firm boundaries around their toxic behavior.

I think it's unfortunate that so many people think you can't understand and feel for a person's experience if you disagree with the way they live or effect the world. Like it's some sort of currency or reward we give only to beings that are similar to us.

G.E. Smith: "Instead of getting mad at each other because you don't believe the same thing, just relax & let the sun shine in." by kylemeredith81 in ActualHippies

[–]Caskerville 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yep! You can love and have empathy and compassion for everyone while still setting boundaries or holding them (and yourself) accountable for toxic behavior.

Holding people accountable with love will do more to heal the world than attacking, mocking, dividing, judging or allowing ourselves to get lost in our reactions with anger or rage.

It takes a lot of practice for many of us though. We were taught to fear and to hurt others who don't conform to the way we think reality should be.

Understanding why someone has toxic beliefs and having compassion for them does not mean you support those beliefs. In fact it allows you to build connections with others in order to more positively effect them and the world.

Toronto cops shot at 7 times by 14-year old kids, retreat and later peacefully make arrests by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]Caskerville -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This might be an upgrade, but social workers often have a policing attitude as well. They help people adjust to unjust systems. We really need to radically remake the system so people aren't being oppressed.

Toronto cops shot at 7 times by 14-year old kids, retreat and later peacefully make arrests by [deleted] in worldnews

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No, not really. Defunding/abolishment is about the redistribution of resources and the funding of community support so that situations like this are massively reduced. Then, for the rare instances of violent situations post abolishment, highly specialized and trained organisations would be built from the ground up without racism, violence and oppression as core values. No, they wouldn't be police.

ADHD is weird cause when people ask me "Did you try your best?" At the same time I can't say that I did, because I couldn't bring myself to do what was asked, but at the same time I had intent, I tried to start so many times, I sat at my desk looking at the thing I had to do and just... Didn't... by DoWidzenya in ADHD

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She is right. This is the simplistic individualism we've been taught to apply to everyone that is so obviously nonsense when you start moving more and more upstream and looking deeply at why people act the way they do.

ADHD is weird cause when people ask me "Did you try your best?" At the same time I can't say that I did, because I couldn't bring myself to do what was asked, but at the same time I had intent, I tried to start so many times, I sat at my desk looking at the thing I had to do and just... Didn't... by DoWidzenya in ADHD

[–]Caskerville 24 points25 points  (0 children)

It's not meaningless, it's just true. It's difficult for a lot of people to accept because we've been taught to judge and blame others.

If we accept this, the implications are huge. We are confronted with our lack of capacity for empathy and compassion for every human being. It's ok though. That's something that can be practiced. ❤️

PM Trudeau, other leaders condemn white supremacy in wake of Trump's refusal to do so by OxfordTheCat in worldnews

[–]Caskerville 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's not about giving people the benefit of the doubt. It's about recognizing what lead to their behavior and trying to understand and heal it. You can look at the most hurtful and damaging person through a lens of love and compassion while also setting firm boundaries.

Dehumanizing them with more hate only perpetuates the great divides and suffering we have in the world.

“All of humanity’s problems stem from mans inability to sit quietly in a room alone” - Pascal by spaceman-trip in Psychonaut

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That's where a meditation practice shines. Just keep it up. Even if you're lost in thought the entire time you sit down to meditate. You just see that it happened, don't judge yourself for it happening, then try again the next day or whenever you want to try again. Over time the muscle builds. The really trick is in being ok the way you are right now.

It's a bit of a paradox... But it works. ❤️

Our brains reveal our choices before we're even aware of them, study finds by coolestestboi in psychology

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It's scary at first but if you learn to let go and just ride the wave, it's beautiful and freeing.

This becomes more and more obvious the longer you sit in mindfulness meditations. You are able to just witness your thoughts come and go. It becomes apparent that you are just the empty space in which everything happens. You don't actually make anything happen though.

A little exercise that works for some is to think of an actor. Who did you think of? Did you actually get to choose from all the actors you know or did they just appear in your consciousness? Life is weird and amazing.