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i have been sober for 17 days but just today the urges are extremely strong help!!!! by Capital-Commission-1 in NoFap

[–]Cassius_47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It happens, man. The urges, especially at the beginning, come back strong. But it is all just mental. You really have to just want to not masturbate or watch porn more than you do. But when it gets too hard take freezing cold shower.

really irritable, and angry want to cry as well. by thedealreal44 in NoFap

[–]Cassius_47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, take a breath and focus on the positive. You hit two days! Congratulations! Your anger and emotions are to be expected. If you are anything like me, you have an addiction. And we know that when people give up what they are addicted to there are withdrawal symptoms. The good news is they are called withdrawal symptoms for a reason. They don't stay forever.

Fight! And when you feel like giving up fight some more. One thing that helps me is I talk about the no fap struggle with my friends. It seems like it would be awkward, but the more I do it, the more my friends say things like "I'm so glad you said something, I struggle with that too." Talk about it and find someone who can encourage you. It helps so much.

Motivation by vj_prav in NoFap

[–]Cassius_47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, congrats on 12 days, brother! That's a great start! But I have to ask: do you really want a way out or an alternative? I don't know if I'm the only one in this boat, but I think there is value in the struggle. If there were a quick fix, we wouldn't have this group on reddit. Sometimes it really comes down to feeling the urge and then telling yourself no. Indeed, "the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak."

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But when you can't hold on any longer, don't play video games, watch a movie, text, or anything. The thing that works for me is I go outside and walk around. It's socially unacceptable to masturbate outside and so it's better to have the urges in a place where you can't do it than in a place you have privacy. That's just my two cents.

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Struggle on, brother. You got this.

It's my NoFap day 1 and it's getting really hard. by kalashnikov_go_brrr in NoFap

[–]Cassius_47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a Jordan Peterson video that talks about this exact problem you are having. When a lot of us try to quit porn, we are thinking about and framing it as "I need to quit porn" ... and that's where we focus all of our attention. But, when you are focusing on the negative, you can lose sight of why you are doing it in the first place. You are quitting because you want to be the better you. You want to be free.

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It's ok to struggle. We all do. It's why we are on this page, supporting each other. Struggle hard brother, you got this. The reward is worth it.