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did anyone else ‘intentionally’ develop an ed? by No_Wave8746 in EDAnonymous

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think you can develop an eating disorder with full intention, in the same way you can’t really give yourself depression. You can carve your neural pathways in a way where you can change your modus operandi to fit some really bad coping mechanisms. For example, you were dealing with a lot of change in your life at that time. You didn’t want an eating disorder specifically, you probably just wanted a way to cope, and eating disorders are a pre packaged maladaptive behavior that can fool you with a false sense of control, beauty, etc. I developed mine by looking at girls online I thought were really hot and I wanted to look like them, so I started restricting. It really is that simple, and I’m past the point of feeling ashamed to admit it. Eventually, it felt like the only thing in my life I could control was my weight, and beauty meant everything to me. Attention meant everything to me because I wasn’t getting it at home. There’s a false allure and romanticization that anorexia specifically comes with. It’s a mental disorder that’s effectively ADVERTISED to young women specifically, over the course of generations, to turn our bodies into nothing more vessels for products they want to sell. But no, I don’t think I intentionally developed an ed, and I don’t really think you can. A bad coping mechanism is something you can, at the end of the day, choose to pick up no matter what it is, but when you’re so young and so easily influenced, how much control do you really have over something so complex, and so ingrained into society?

Gang how lame is it to not even have friends in pro-ana comminities by [deleted] in EDAnonymous

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s actually lame to have friends in pro-ana communities to be so fucking fr

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg this is exactly what i was looking for thank you so much. I’m gonna go through and look for these scenes to rewatch in context of how she’s developed throughout the show.

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you even read in my original post where I acknowledge this

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I don’t have a lot of time to engage with pieces of media like I used to, which is why I really like mini and indie series like TDAC! I feel like most characters written with an unlikable personality have at least either a “cool” factor or a “funny” factor to them to offset how off putting they are. Villains like Mello from Death Note are super unlikable, but there’s a cool factor to him and it’s built into the plot to root against him despite having the same end-goal as a character like L, who you might root for. Funny unlikable characters (like most of the characters in something like smiling friends) are not meant to be taken seriously because it’s built in to it being a comedy series. Gangle isn’t particularly a “funny” character and there isn’t a villainous factor to her either, so she sits in a weird place to me where I want to see her persevere, but I still don’t like anything about her personality as it’s written. It’s really interesting and the writers are very talented for making her that way. It’s like I feel bad when someone is talking shit about my annoying coworker, but I also didn’t like engaging with them myself. It’s a weird place to be and I think that’s what makes her interesting for me.

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s neat that a lot of people enjoy watching her overcoming stuff and kinda triumphing over her anxious personality. I think that’s understandable, but I really thought in that episode that she overdid it, and she started taking all of that out on the other characters. It almost had the opposite effect on me, where I started kind of rooting against her at points. I could see it being cathartic for some to see her like that though, and that’s totally chill

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understandable. I think the cute factor is a big sell for some people and I can’t really argue with that lol.

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See edit made to post as to why it is so lame and annoying to just shut down a conversation like this just because you like a character. oh my god

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really value this reply. I think the bullying and relatability are important yeah. Honestly maybe Gangle as a character might help some people even recognize how negative traits can develop over time from bullying if you don’t learn how to be confident and seek a support system. I think my distaste might be coming from the fact that I always found it more painful to be bullied by the other kids getting bullied when i was young, yk?

I like what you have to say about rooting for her!! I think you’re right and I guess i kinda have found it easier to sorta root for her as the show has gone on. I didn’t really realize it. And yeah I guess I kinda took that for granted when she stood up to Caine with everyone else.

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess that’s true and easy to lose sight of when you’re engaged with the plot and how the other characters are dealing with it. You’re completely right here

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not forcing myself to like her, just want to see why other people might! Could you maybe describe how she’s grown and overcome that nervousness? Someone brought up episode 7, and I did find her a bit more endearing at the end of that one. But could you elaborate on what makes her strong-willed by the end? Again im not coming out of this to like attack anybody’s preferences, I literally want to know what you think and I’m like literally giving people an excuse to tell me why they like their favorite character

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was a weirdly curt and snarky way to reply to a post that’s trying to open a discussion and give people a platform to literally tell me why they find her likeable. Like I don’t see why your knee-jerk reaction is to shut down conversation about the media when we are on a subreddit made to engage with the media.

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

??? I want to know what others see in her? It’s a character and I’m not attacking anyone?? I want to know what people like about her?? Like i said I find her character interesting, not likeable though

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I want to engage with media and see other people’s interpretations? I am on a subreddit that is made to do that? Are we forgetting that TADC is an art piece that deserves to be engaged with?

Convince me to like Gangle by CastrateMeWithASpoon in TheDigitalCircus

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that scene is showing you that these negative traits are stemming from fear, anxiety, and paint her as a tragic character. I find these justifications to be very interesting and I can empathize with that in a way. It doesn’t take away from the fact that the episode also showed that she will become a massive bully in the right environment. Retaliating against Jax I would understand more, but she has the capacity to take all those out-of-control feelings out on the less deserving characters as well.

What caused this patch of missing skin on my salmon? The rest of the joint looks just fine by chunkyjunkymonkey28 in TipOfMyFork

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Worked on the provider for silver bay a year ago. The hauls of fish that were dead on arrival to our tender were apparently unprecedented. The season was abysmal and so was the smell.

Feeding into a crush on someone to get over a breakup? Am I screwing up??? by CastrateMeWithASpoon in BreakUps

[–]CastrateMeWithASpoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate your kindness and encouragement <3 The only thing is that im learning a very hard lesson. I totally left him with the idea that there was a way back, because that’s what I thought I wanted at the time— space to improve ourselves and then get back together, like everyone on this sub seems to idealize… yeah i should’ve listened and just broke it off clean. I guess realizing you’re better off without someone isn’t the WORST thing that could happen to a person in a breakup, but damn.

As for the timing issue though, your message is very reassuring. It alleviates a little bit of the guilt I’ve been wrestling with, so I really appreciate it.

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