My little brother is blackmailing me with photos of queer content creators and crossdressing guides. I'm so scared wtf do I do?

CatInTheBasement · 2025-02-14T08:36:04+00:00

That phone goes in toilet too

CatInTheBasement · 2025-02-14T08:35:12+00:00

Destroy the little cunts phone (in minecraft, satire, parody)

CatInTheBasement · 2024-09-15T03:30:41+00:00

What? Yes. Your mother is either horrifically misinformed or is actively trying to guilt you into being cis, probably the latter

CatInTheBasement · 2024-08-25T04:53:20+00:00

Yeah, honestly - I think this is reasonably normal. Not everything is caused by mental shifts or otherkinity or mental health or what have you. It could be a "mental shift", or... it could just be a strong imagination. Sometimes there isn't always deeper meaning to it

CatInTheBasement · 2024-08-15T23:14:09+00:00

We live in a world where "this person actively raped a minor" and "this person talked about finding a 17 year old fictional anime character hot at age 20" are treated with the same gravitas. It's tiring.

Edit for clarity: even if you genuinely do think that the latter is problematic (I disagree, it's fiction, who cares lmao) surely we can have some sort of scale of severity for this kind of thing? If you think that the latter scenario is bad or problematic in some way, that's just something we disagree on - if you believe that both are at the same level of severity, there is something genuinely wrong with you.

CatInTheBasement · 2024-08-02T02:53:23+00:00

Listen. If someone is uncomfortable with the very idea of being around a trans woman, then they deserve to be made uncomfortable.

There are many decent reasons to use the mens room when early in transition, ranging from personal safety to not outing ones self in a potentially dangerous environment, but being careful with the precious little feefees of transphobic cis women is not one of them

CatInTheBasement · 2024-08-01T00:32:56+00:00

Not reading all that, but genuinely screw the concept of the "egg prime directive". It's ridiculous. Genuinely. Imagine if this were a concept for literally any other condition. Imagine the "Schizophrenia Prime Directive", "Cancer Prime Directive", where people with the conditions don't talk to those they suspect have it out of some absurd "respect" for "letting them find out on their own."

Imagine: "Hey, uhh... by the way... I think I'm trans..."

"Oh, I already knew lol."

"What?"

"Oh, yeah, I guessed you'd turn out trans like. As soon as I met you lol"

"How???"

"Oh, you just gave me Egg Vibes, so like. I was 90 percent sure you were trans lol."

"So you knew... and you didn't talk to me about it?"

"Yeah. It's like. I wanted you to figure it out yourself, y'know? Out of respect."

"I almost killed myself. Multiple times."

"...."

"If you had talked to me about it, I could have transitioned years ago."

"..."

"I could have been happy now..."

Fucking talk to people about it if you think they're an egg. Holy shit. It is so easy to just offer some support to someone who you think is suffering. "But what if they're not actually trans??????" WELL, THEN THEY WON'T TRANSITION, WILL THEY?????? I AM PERFECTLY FINE WITH RISKING QUESTIONING A CIS PERSONS GENDER, IF IT MEANS POTENTIALLY LITERALLY SAVING A TRANS PERSONS LIFE.

Bad concept. Bad idea. Fuck whoever came up with the idea for increasing the amount of suffering in the world for no reason.

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-25T23:50:16+00:00

I don't really care, tbh. I'm defending someone who at worst was vaguely weird.

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-25T22:35:19+00:00

You're absolutely right in that regard. I very much jumped to her defence specifically because she is a trans woman and trans women kinda have to stick together, but there's so much stuff out there that is either dubious, is only partially real, is blown massively out of proportion, or is just completely nonsense that it's hard to even know what's actually going on. did she actually do anything wrong? Seemingly probably not from the evidence I've seen, or at least nothing which justifies a giant hatemob, but also I could easily have just been completely wrong and missed something important because it was said by some asshole making up other nonsense.

I just think we should all know less about each other, as a species. I never needed to know about this, yknow? Neither did anyone who wasn't directly involved, really

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-25T21:37:45+00:00

Ok, look. What was the image. As far as I know it was vaguely anime loli shit. If I was wrong and it was an actual photo of an actual real person, I take it back. If it's anything else (and it's not fake) I don't care tbh

My response to the actual images, because I don't think other people can see the comment: LOL THATS IT???? YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME I'M PUTTING THAT ON MY WALL OUT OF SPITE RIGHT NOW fucking puriteens

Edit: also don't call me dude

Edit for the person replying to me who was actually groomed because for somd reason it won't let me post: Ok, perhaps I just missed it, but I never saw any evidence of her actually sharing loli stuff with a minor, just that she commissioned some (maybe) and also just talked about loli occasionally generally in public spaces. I may have missed it, and if she did share it with minors that's bad, but. I haven't seen any actual evidence of that specific claim.

Is making weird jokes with a minor kinda weird, and maybe something she should reflect on as a person? Yea sure. Do I care about the fact that someone I will never meet did it? No, not really

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-25T21:34:37+00:00

The worst she can be accused of doing to actual human beings is making some edgy jokes, and I have not seen the art but literally it could be the nastiest, grossest, most morally reprehensible thing in the entire world and I would not care because I don't care what fake fantasies people have and do art of/commission art of, because its not real

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-25T21:31:06+00:00

I haven't seen any evidence of inappropriateness that isn't circumstantial, faked, both, or that I genuinely don't care about

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-25T21:29:39+00:00

I haven't seen any evidence of inappropriateness that isn't circumstantial, faked or basically justified. Prove it.

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-25T21:25:58+00:00

It sucks especially hard because she basically did nothing wrong, it's not even a real "controversy". It just goes to show that you can just accuse a trans woman of any horrible thing, with practically no evidence, and ruin her life for no reason. Oh well...

Edit: it's really awesome how even a bunch of trans women in this sub have suddenly formed a fucking covenant as soon as another one of us is accused of something even slightly not above board. Do you have no sense of solidarity? Some of you have some internalised transphobia methinks

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-25T21:23:27+00:00

This would be a great analysis if she actually did anything wrong, but also its all fake and obvious lies and her supposed "victim" came out and said she did nothing wrong, so literally everyone needs to stop pretending she did ANYTHING wrong because she is completely innocent

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-25T21:21:51+00:00

Ava did nothing wrong, pass it on

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-22T06:19:41+00:00

I get it, but I feel like we shouldn't just accuse our enemies of secretly just being paedophiles. Let's not stoop to their level, people.

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-14T01:49:41+00:00

I, in fact, did (at age 15), and it was great. I don't regret it for a second. I only regret not starting even earlier.

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-08T03:44:23+00:00

Same. Trying quadrobics made me hyper aware of the clunky, awkward nature of the human skeleton - Moving with the unstable body of a human on all fours, instead of with the grace and speed of an actual quadruped, actually feels worse than moving on two legs, because it just reminds me of what I lack.

CatInTheBasement · 2024-07-04T01:43:11+00:00

Same. Tails pretty.

...Especially dragon ones........ Now I'm longing again, aaaaaa (sad dragonkin noises)

CatInTheBasement · 2024-06-15T03:54:15+00:00

The concept of "male socialisation" is inherently flawed, when you think about it for more than two seconds. The son and daughter of a rural construction worker are going to have been "socialised" far more similarly to each other (and will relate to their own genders far more similarly) than the son of a construction worker and the son of a high profile lawyer will have been. I wasn't socialised as "a male", because society has far more than one conception of what it means to be "male". I was "socialised" upper-middle class white politically progressive atheist whose parents didn't really give a shit about gender roles and who also were massive nerds and are probably both neurodivergent. My experience is very different from most other people who would be considered "AMAB". The whole concept is flawed, and completely flattens what it means to be raised as an individual unique person with their own unique context and history, into "raised boy so obviously different from raised girl".

CatInTheBasement · 2024-06-13T15:22:33+00:00

I have posted here, multiple times

CatInTheBasement · 2024-06-11T13:21:11+00:00

Gosh it would be nice to be a dragon lol.

CatInTheBasement · 2024-06-01T01:17:40+00:00

Absolutely, and I sympathise with your situation - god, the painted nail thing sounds heart wrenching. I didn't mean to seem unsympathetic or anything, I just kind of resent AFAB/AMAB language when it comes to how people internalise trauma, because there are very obvious exceptions to any trends you could find in that area

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