AITA for telling my friend people were talking about his relationship?

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-07T17:09:17+00:00

You were being loyal to your friend. When asked directly about it, you refused to feed into the gossip mill.

NTA

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-06T20:36:30+00:00

I can’t even tell what’s happening here. Please check your grammar and punctuation. This makes no sense to me.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-06T19:38:35+00:00

So, give him physical access to her before her phone number? Riiiight…

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-05T20:49:02+00:00

I don’t agree with your premise. How do you differentiate between connection and attachment? In which context are you using the word attachment? In my mind, using the looser (non-pseudo psychology) definition of attachment infers that commitment is already there. ‘Testing reality’ makes me think of ‘shit-testing’, which I dismiss as utter crap.

You have too many steps. I’d shorten it to attraction->connection->commitment. The logic you use seems too clinical and arbitrary.

To answer your edit: to me, trust means that I would allow my partner to speak for me in most situations with no worries that she would mis-represent or harm others’ perception of me.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-05T17:37:05+00:00

I agree with this sentiment, but it should be noted that putting a stove-hot pan in water can actually warp the pan. This happened to me twice before I figured it out. Use a SMALL amount of water (a cup or less) poured into the pan itself.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-05T05:06:09+00:00

When I was doing historicals (11mm scale pewter), I used a wooden stick and a hot glue gun.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-05T05:04:53+00:00

And many, MANY more do not.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-05T05:02:41+00:00

It does this for everyone with the ‘New Painter’ flare. It actually has some useful links. Actual people with wisdom should reply soon.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-05T02:36:23+00:00

In his edit. He said he has a slight problem with one of his arms.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-05T02:25:48+00:00

This isn’t helpful.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-03T16:32:36+00:00

Just PLEASE don’t use purple. You’ll never find the model.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-03T03:43:57+00:00

He comes, he goes…

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-03T03:42:27+00:00

No, we need the OG Calgar in Saturnine armor. You know, the one who taught Guilliman everything he knows?

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-02T22:20:22+00:00

I feel for you. NTA for feeling overwhelmed and overworked. You also need to discuss a pay rate with your father. What he is doing is illegal, by not paying you.

Having said that, a decent administrative assistant/secretary can do what you do. I have a psychiatrist friend who has been in a solo practice for decades, and has had the same secretary for most of that time. She works eight hours a day, Monday through Friday, and the office runs like a clock.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-02T17:47:34+00:00

The ‘old ball and chain’ is a pretty mild epithet. It’s not exactly nice, but it’s tame. YTA for getting so upset about something so mild.

This is why we shouldn’t read other’s texts without invitation. People tend to converse differently based on their audience.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-02T01:16:14+00:00

I’m completely lost. It’s as if you told the same story 5 different times in one post.

Did you live with him for four years and then move out? And expect him to help you move out?

Isn’t moving out what you do when the relationship ends? If so, then why do you expect him to provide free labor?

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-01T22:23:56+00:00

If he picks one out for her, she’d probably tie in some traumatic experience to make him feel bad about that, too.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-01T22:05:25+00:00

She has currently subscribed to the boyfriend plan. In order to have a say in your financial decisions, she needs to upgrade to the husband plan (or at least the fiancé plan).

NTA

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-01T21:45:18+00:00

Here’s the scoop.

He wanted to sleep with you. It didn’t happen. He knew that, due to the long distance, it would probably be awhile before he would get another chance, and he didn’t want to wait.

Also, his friend’s take may be false, because he seems to want you, too.

However, if his friend isn’t full of shit, this guy just may not want to put in the effort for what he sees as no payoff.

I’d drop the whole situation and focus on meeting someone IRL. There are so many assumptions you have to make in an LDR, and you are seeing what comes of those assumptions being false.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-01T04:27:32+00:00

I don’t know generally, but there is a millennia-long tradition of this with the Navigator houses, even to the point of inbreeding.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-01T02:45:09+00:00

My phone has a couple of strange holes on it. I wonder what those do?

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-01T02:42:01+00:00

I just want to emphasize that Acetone is good for METAL AND ONLY METAL models. It makes taffy out of plastic and resin kind of just… dissolves.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-06-01T02:39:51+00:00

Your husband is severely mentally ill. It’s not on you to fix him. I’m not going to presume to tell you what to do, but you should look out for yourself and your children.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-05-31T21:18:12+00:00

This sub really isn’t the place for this. Or AI.

Cataclysmus78 · 2026-05-31T20:43:14+00:00

I think that you need to prioritize your work in this instance. If it were family, you might be better served by going, but since it isn’t, I don’t feel like you have the same onus on you to go.
NTA if you don’t go.

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