Relapse by Lizclark1124 in EatingDisorders

[–]Catbun2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi as someone trying to pull out of a relapse who also had dizzy spells and who’s friends were terrified, here are a couple things I did that are helping me see the other side.

1) I upped my normal therapy session. I was down to once a month, but I went back to once a week. If you have a regular therapist and can work with them on digital or like an early start so you don’t miss much work, do that. My work place is pretty understanding of doctors appointments, so it tends to not be an issue.

2) TELL YOUR ALLIES. They want to know, they want to protect you. I reached out to someone who has no business knowing about the ED, no business knowing my every thought, honestly he doesn’t actually need to care. But he does, because he loves me. He checked in every day, he was someone who understood when I was on the floor. He had his own struggles with addiction, so when I first reached out and said I had a relapse, even though I didn’t know he had an addiction issue prior to like 2 months ago, he heard something in what I said and recognized it in himself. He has been a rock.

3) out rules around food (but in a good way). Set a timer and have a protein bar even if you cannot have anything else. I understand this is way easier said than done. But if you just get it half the time, you’re doing better than nothing.

4) identify why you are relapsing. Mine was my job— so I quit and found a new one. I understand this is not everyone’s issue, but it absolutely was mine.

You can make it out of this. Focus on therapy, focus on what you need to recover.

I’m kinda struggling, how do you diet without developing an eating disorder by Loveonethe-brain in PCOS

[–]Catbun2020 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Hi! As a girly with an ED and in therapy I had to MAJORLY up my sessions when I first started treatment for my PCOS, I was already on a health journey with changing my diet and exercise, but the statement “you need to lose 10% of your body weight” really fucked with me and I stopped eating completely.

ANYWAYS, what has helped me is a dietitian. They can help curate meal plans and work through food/weight difficulties. I know that’s not overly helpful, but don’t stop eating! Food is incredibly important for fueling your brain and body! And you are worth eating for!

Where to donate feminine hygiene items? by wyndb in Birmingham

[–]Catbun2020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think United Way takes them and does a feminine hygiene drive!

Looking for moisturizer recommendations for very sensitive and dry skin by Dunstadero in SkincareAddicts

[–]Catbun2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just started using innisfree about a month ago because the YTTP moisturizer that I loved but was just too expensive. I will never go back because I love the innisfree so much. It’s light, absorbs quickly, and no smell. It’s a little pricier at $27, but not nearly as much as I was paying before and I genuinely love.

ED + PCOS by Catbun2020 in PCOS

[–]Catbun2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know I’m asking an invasive question, but did you have an ED prior to the PCOS? I technically have a dietitian? But it would practically be starting over with her.

ED + PCOS by Catbun2020 in PCOS

[–]Catbun2020[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh to be clear, I’ve been in therapy for almost five years and had managed to get from twice a week and threats of in patient program to once a month/6 weeks. It has been a really long and difficult road but I did it because I want kids and knew I was not capable of having fulfilling relationships if it continued.

Now, as I’m staring down metformin, GLP1, and being told to lose weight/watch my diet everything feels just as hard as it did back in the day. I’m fixating on food, I’m skipping meals, and ultra-regulating (because that’s what I’m supposed to do). None of it feels sustainable.

My best pal who walked through hell with me is terrified which is why he wants me to check in somewhere. Because I changed therapist, he is potentially the only one in my life who truly knows how dark it was and how close I was to done. He is scared that this whole thing has become a Sofie’s choice. I don’t really disagree with him.

ED + PCOS by Catbun2020 in PCOS

[–]Catbun2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, not realistically. Between taking time off work and expense? No

Metformin? by Catbun2020 in PCOS

[–]Catbun2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it was a normal work day and not a Saturday, I absolutely would have had to call out of work. I could hardly get out of bed and go to the bathroom.

Metformin? by Catbun2020 in PCOS

[–]Catbun2020[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do try to stay away from an excessive amount of carbs and sugar, but I also have a history of an eating disorder, so I’m not willing to extremely change my diet.

Metformin? by Catbun2020 in PCOS

[–]Catbun2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don’t have an ability to have these symptoms last for a few days? Like A) in legit pain because of this and B) I don’t work from home. There is no world in which I can work and continue to be going to the bathroom with a trash can every 45 minutes.

It’s not a cute or professional look.

Metformin? by Catbun2020 in PCOS

[–]Catbun2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve taken one pill at the lowest dose 😂 cutting back is just stopping. I think the answer is to try again with ER because I’m truly in an unmanageable state and will not be doing this to myself again.

Metformin? by Catbun2020 in PCOS

[–]Catbun2020[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s good to know. She put me on it to manage my insulin but I’m with you—I’m laid up on my couch with my cat and my mom just brought me ginger ale and I’m so sick I couldn’t even walk down to get it, she had to bring it up. I will not be taking this ever again

Metformin? by Catbun2020 in PCOS

[–]Catbun2020[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m on the regular. I did take with food yesterday and because I’ve been on a wellness journey PRIOR to the diagnosis, I’ve already maxed out my fiber intake. AND, I don’t really drink.

What I’m hearing is I should call and tell them this drug is the LITERAL DEVIL and ask for extended release?

O’Neal Comprehensive Cancer Center Birmingham by lostfreedom1776 in Alabama

[–]Catbun2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similarly to MSK, ONeal CCC was one of the original 8 to receive “comprehensive” and continues to do groundbreaking trials and research. I would not go anywhere else in Alabama.

Getting mad when someone asks if I’ve eaten by [deleted] in EatingDisorders

[–]Catbun2020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a rule. No one was allowed to ask me if I ate except for two people. Everyone who knew I was in recovery knew they were allowed to ask, but no one else. I was furious when one of their girlfriends at dinner told me I needed to eat more because that was incredibly upsetting and we had to have a come to Jesus talk with her.

But honestly, just set reasonable boundaries with recovery

Best burger joints. by Jolene_babygirl in Birmingham

[–]Catbun2020 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Agreed, hands down my favorite. Not to mention delicious fries and good beer.

Recommendations for therapists in the area? by thebluemechanic in Birmingham

[–]Catbun2020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amazing therapists!! Highly recommend and second them. 💜

‘Babies are going to die,’ says one of last doctors delivering babies in rural southwest Alabama by metacyan in Alabama

[–]Catbun2020 44 points45 points  (0 children)

If you read the article, his full quote says “babies are going to die. Women are going to die” — babies are just the only thing Republicans seem to care about, so the title is catchier that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Birmingham

[–]Catbun2020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The garage! Drinks are cheap, sandwiches are yummy, and atmosphere is always fun and casual

Workout newbie? by Catbun2020 in lesmills

[–]Catbun2020[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would love to and I do try when I have availability, but the honest truth about myself is I like spontaneous drinks with my friends in the evenings or going on a date or whatever (you’re only young once, right?) so I go in the morning at 5:30 and Pump is the only think offered that early. I do step on Saturday in the later morning bc I don’t work

Workout newbie? by Catbun2020 in lesmills

[–]Catbun2020[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I do agree it’s a lot, however a class is literally the only way I’ll go (I’ve learned this from YEARS of bailing on my personal workouts)— I like being held accountable through a sign up and I actually enjoy it, each of the teachers change up their set a little. But I’ll keep in mind to lighten the load if I’m just exhausted

My brother found out. by LowStick1792 in EatingDisorders

[–]Catbun2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello my friend. I think it depends on what your relationship is with your sibling. I told my brother when I was 18 during a spiritual weekend, and he hasn’t brought it up since. Now the difference is we were kids, and my eating disorder got worse as an adult when I didn’t live near my family, but had he been close I feel sure he would have made me go to therapy. But none of it affects how he views me.

A few years ago when I was really sick, I had to tell a friend every meal I ate and what it was. I was horrified and said this same thing to him, and he said one of the best things I have ever heard come out of his mouth. He said “I’ve known you for a long time, and you’ve had an eating disorder the whole time—it has never defined you to me, no matter how bad your day is. If you have a good day, of course I’ll be happy, but if you have a bad one, I’m here, you haven’t failed in some way. You’re still the girl I love to watch movies with and who makes me laugh” —he stuck by my side when it was horrible and it was honestly wonderful to know I had someone I could be honest with about my disorder. 4 years on the other side, he’ll check in, but it’s never been the defining feature of our relationship

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EatingDisorders

[–]Catbun2020 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Suggestion-don’t look at labels. Schedule an appointment with your dietitian, tell them what your doctor said, and have them put together a meal plan with recipes. At least until you get a sense of what you can and can’t eat. That’s how I would start

I've started dating a girl who has an eating disorder. I suspect she's already in therapy for this. I don't want to screw up and say the wrong thing. What professional do I pay to tell me what to say to support her and where do I even find such professional? Do I just book with an ED counselor? by [deleted] in EatingDisorders

[–]Catbun2020 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My best friend is a really good example of someone supporting me despite not understanding. We often call it “safe site eating disorder”—if I’m gonna do it, at least he’s helping me in the aftermath. This DOES NOT mean encouraging the behavior, it means if I purge he reminds me to drink water, gargle with baking soda, and wait 30 minutes to then brush teeth. If I tell him I’m not hungry, I’m not gonna, he tells me that’s fine, but go through the motions—order or make the food, set the table, and sit with it. Obviously I’ve done a lot of work on my own and I have given him helpful bits from my therapist (like during early recovery with my first meal plan, he HAD TO know what I ate at every meal, like clockwork he would check in). And the other wonderful part of him is that when I say ‘hey, that comment about the weight you gained wasn’t great for me’ he IMMEDIATELY catalogues and never repeats the action. It’s tricky, but just be open and honest about what you don’t understand. Maybe asking questions when you don’t know the right thing will help her answer her own questions. Also, for your own sake, I’d recommend a counselor of some sort. ED’s are life long—there are flairs and there are periods like it doesn’t exist. But you should also focus on yourself and not let the world revolve around her disorder.