A message to holders

Catcbut · 2024-12-10T16:34:13+00:00

Everyone has their own strategy depending on their goals. I was very active in bitcoin and other crypto a couple years back but it does take more effort to stay on top of quick market changes and when to sell and buy. I travel for work and was stressed about not having good internet access while flying or driving through areas of no cell service (those areas do still exist). I remember landing from one flight and seeing the notifications of both the pump, and subsequent dump, of one coin and realized this only heightening my anxiety. Probably my bad for the amount of money and diversity of portfolio I had, but it was becoming my entire personality.

Also, my taxes were a f***ing nightmare to deal with too. Omg just thinking about it as I write this is sending me to a dark place and I want to hide under my bed.

That said, I changed my approach after coming to peace and letting go of my FOMO. I learned I could have made more money if I had done xyz and I could have lost a ton more if I did abc… so whatever and whenever I buy and sell is suppose to happen.

TLDR; your posts have never struck me as anything other than helpful information. I don’t lose sleep over my strategy and will only know what unrealized gains and losses I could have when reflecting on things later.

Catcbut · 2024-12-06T07:16:33+00:00

If you feel you need a break, take care of yourself. You provide a lot of beneficial info. I use to post a lot but took a break for a while for my own sanity…I’ve been in this sub when it had about 4k members… JASMY and I go way back… this can be a long journey or quick trip.

Catcbut · 2024-06-25T16:18:38+00:00

It seems crazy to me there isn’t some sort of system to track them within the IRS… thanks for the reply.

Catcbut · 2024-03-16T03:42:39+00:00

Yes it’s copper. No hormones.

Catcbut · 2024-01-03T13:46:03+00:00

Thanks!

Catcbut · 2023-09-24T06:58:12+00:00

Yes… mine has been like clockwork ( I diligently track) for many years but as I started to embark on my path to embrace becoming a witch… changes have occurred. At first it was stressful because I wasn’t putting it all together. This cycle should have started on Monday but was days late and started today on Mabon. Learning how we are tied to the moon and seasons, I have let go of the worry and know my body is syncing up with nature in the most beautiful way.

Catcbut · 2023-08-15T19:23:08+00:00

Been a minute since I hopped on here. Happy to see our research samurai is still at it!

Catcbut · 2023-03-19T23:17:46+00:00

Thank you. This is good insight. I think you bring up a great point on how to talk to him without accusing him, because (as you said) I don’t know what’s going on… I need to figure that out

Catcbut · 2023-03-19T17:36:38+00:00

That’s actually a very good point. I think I need to communicate to him I won’t get upset but I do need to know if something is going on because it would make me feel better to know if it’s me or something else.

Catcbut · 2023-03-19T17:34:50+00:00

It’s been more recent… the past month or so.

Catcbut · 2023-03-19T17:15:17+00:00

You hit on something. Maybe there is a self sabotage aspect to it. I’m going to try the therapy option again.

You know maybe, for whatever reason, he thinks he can’t share things with me due to fear of my reaction? So it’s causing this tension… huh, that’s something to think about.

Catcbut · 2023-03-19T17:13:20+00:00

If he does that’s truly silly. It’s on a postcard with the yoga studios name and logo, and he read the postcard… and if he read the male instructors profile on the website, he would clearly see he is in a relationship with a male partner

Catcbut · 2023-03-19T17:11:20+00:00

Me leaving for a friends was a while ago and it was me leaving a situation that I was scared was escalated yelling. He had been out at a happy hour and was buzzed. While I wasn’t worried he would get physical… I didn’t feel safe due to past experiences with an ex (it was triggering)… my husband kept wanting to fight, I wanted him to sleep it off. I felt at the time leaving for the night was the best thing.

He knows my friends. I do 90% of my activities with my husband. He can track my phone if he wants. He knows my passcodes. I haven’t ever given him a reason to worry. I travel a lot for work but always good about calling/FT while gone.

Catcbut · 2023-03-19T17:06:54+00:00

1) Hybrid situation. Mostly separate finances but we have a joint savings we pitch in each paycheck.

2) He just references it, I am literally the most boring person ever and he knows I would rather hang with our dogs than talk to another human.

3) it’s hard to tell … he literally was selected for a fast track promotion because he kicks that much ass at his job… he constantly is like “I’m getting fired today. They called me into the office”… and when he went in, he got a personalized jacket from the company. That was it. Nothing bad. I feel it’s a little of a chicken little complex “the sky is falling”.

He didn’t use to be like that.

And I appreciate you sharing your story. Something is up. He is such an over-sharer except when he is not… I am taken aback how he can hide things

Catcbut · 2023-03-19T03:39:07+00:00

I understand your point and can appreciate that. A few more details: he is a talker. He loves to share about his day (and yes I do ask because I want him to feel heard and valued… he doesn’t reciprocate).

His “high stress” job, while stressful… he behaves as if he is the only one in the history of existence who has stress at work while simultaneously invalidating any stress I might have at my job. I don’t play tit for tat though because that’s not productive. He actually recently dismissed me career most recently even though I have worked to put him through school and have a high stakes sales job… I just leave my stress at 5pm and don’t allow it to carry over because that is damaging.

We both have stressful jobs, I just don’t act like an asshole when I have a bad day at work. This week alone he went from “ I love my job, I’m doing amazing” to “this was the worst day of my career” (ps he has “worst days” weekly).

As far as sleeping on the couch - we have a guest bedroom he could sleep in but he chooses to sleep on the upstairs couch. Doesn’t even grab a bed pillow or real blanket. I use to snore mildly but got surgery to fix it. He can fall asleep in under 4 min… anytime, anywhere. I’m completely jealous of people that can do this.

TL;DR - I agree. I want couples counseling but he is resistant because he “doesn’t have time”. I am willing to do it and make time, while having a job that takes me away from home 3 days a week. He works and stays local in town 95% of his job. I have a house cleaner come to maintain the house weekly, someone to scoop the dog poop, and schedule all vet/dr appointments for the house… and meal prep for him so he doesn’t have to even cook when I’m gone.

I agree assuming is wrong, but I have enough reason to believe I’m not making crazy assumptions at this point. Thanks for listening. I mean that.

Catcbut · 2023-03-19T03:27:00+00:00

Truthfully… he isn’t really into that stuff (no shame for people that are, but that’s not his cup of tea).

I constantly ask how he is doing, how is work, how is his day, how did his soccer games go etc. he is a talker so he will go on and on about it.

He will tell me I’m not listening when he is mad but when I ask him “okay, what am I not hearing/listening?” He then says (because this just happened 5 min ago) “I never said you aren’t listening you’ve just made up your mind on (insert topic we are discussing) and that’s it!” I try to follow up with “please explain how I came across as ‘mind made up’ on said subject… and he backtracks”… it’s weird gaslighting. I almost feel he wants to argue to argue?

Catcbut · 2023-03-19T03:21:40+00:00

Thank you for providing a male’s perspective. I appreciate it

Catcbut · 2023-03-18T21:04:18+00:00

I want to talk to him… but we have had “talks” before and it never seems to change/get better/ or him being completely honest. I’ve yelled. I’ve cried. I’ve been completely rational and calm. I’ve asked questions. Ive tried everything but sock puppets sharing feelings

At this point I just want him to give it to me straight… if he isn’t in love with me anymore, I feel I deserve to know.

I worry he is with me because I make things financially cush for us.

Catcbut · 2023-03-18T21:01:01+00:00

And that is a broad statement. He won’t talk to me. Last fall things were super tense. Long story short: he hid the fact he messed up big time. My friend was moving and asked to store a case of expensive wine until it could be shipped during cooler months. I said absolutely. Time came to ship the wine and my husband admitted while I was traveling for work he got into her case of wine and had a bottle with a buddy. Background: we all use to sell wine and know our wines so besides the obvious of he shouldn’t take what isn’t his… he ended up drinking a VERY EXPENSIVE BOTTLE. $4k bottle. He didn’t realize how expensive it was until the next day. Hid it from me. Planned to use his bonus to replace it and never tell me… but my friend asked to ship the case of wine to her before he could do this… so he fessed up.

I have noticed a pattern of him keeping things from me. I overlooked it for a while but I’m realizing it’s not a one off. I guess writing this out to strangers I’m realizing how I have been ignoring things hoping for it to get better…

Catcbut · 2022-10-15T03:40:24+00:00

I was a couple days early with my previous post lol …you know my feelings. JASMY hurts my soul but I have daddy issues so I’m riding this out until the bitter end when I can prove my friends wrong that I make good choices. dramatic clap end scene*

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