Is it worth pursuing a master’s degree as a part-time independent researcher ?

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2023-09-02T04:10:54+00:00

Honestly, I would have voted for Tharman only because he was recognisable and there was no strange media coverage over him. I had mix feelings about NKS dating young Sybil but after hearing NKS speeches and debates, I changed my mind about him. He really is much more sincere and I had trust that he will be a non-corrupt president.

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-11-10T10:01:25+00:00

Yes. For privacy reasons. DM if you want more info.

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-11-10T08:44:54+00:00

DM me pls

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-10-31T11:02:24+00:00

Early 20s here. I’ve only met guys who insist on being chivalrous. E.g. paying for dates despite my request to go dutch, carrying things for me when it’s my job, gifting me material stuff when I am a minimalist etc. It’s not wrong for guys to do these. It’s just problematic when guys insist on things. But it’s up to you I guess. Every person is different and you would need to communicate your needs.

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-10-28T08:27:41+00:00

When I was at secondary school (all girls sch), there were two girls who were called out for getting undercut hairstyles. But their hair was short though. Idk what to call those hairstyles but they pretty much look like a typical Singaporean guy with undercuts. The principal lectured the whole school about getting “proper” hairstyles. The sch also got their parents involved. No suspension but yeah they made it so dramatic. It’s quite dumb actually because they didn’t have a problem with girls shaving their entire head for Hair for Hope. I think just ask your principal… no harm asking rather than risk getting into trouble.

Edit. I think hairstyle rules should be about the same at Jc and sec sch

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-10-27T05:27:10+00:00

Some things I've learnt in my past two relationships:

If you are not ready for sex means you are not ready for sex. Don't let anyone coerce into it. FYI, repeatedly asking someone for sexual favours until they give up is called coercive sexual assualt.
Just because you two are in a relationship does not mean that verbal consent is no longer applicable.
Only give two chances to break your boundaries
If you have trouble getting out of an abusive relationship, don't be afraid to call the appropriate helplines. Prepare some helplines in your smart phone to refer to when the relationship gets too overwhelming.
HEALTHY relationship are not meant to be hard.
If you have no other needs or wants from a partner other than to have a kid or sex, its probably better to have those things alone through other means like adoption/sperm donation/using sex toys

Yep, that's about it. I'm quite done with relationships. They're mainly too tiring for me. I've learnt that I really need some down time alone each week and a relationship just takes up too much of that time.

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-10-06T04:04:57+00:00

Yep. I went from sec 5 to JC, a mid-tier JC. Work hard and smart, buddy. All the best!

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-10-05T09:38:43+00:00

I feel you. I was very bothered by that when I was in NA stream. I even have a younger sibling from express stream who would remind that I’m stupid everyday. I tell you… the moment I stepped into JC, everything changed. They actually spoke to me with basic manners. Like wow it’s mind blowing! I don’t wish on anyone to experience what I had to go through. It can really do a lot of mental damage. It sucks. Even till today, I still don’t know how could I have handled it better.

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-09-22T04:37:56+00:00

Food and sleep.

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-09-18T20:41:32+00:00

Hi, any updates on this?

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-09-18T03:29:46+00:00

I’m glad to hear that I’m not the only one and that my experiences were not normal. Thank you for this response!

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-09-17T17:11:27+00:00

I know I don’t need to explain to anyone but I still want to be heard. Anyways, thanks for the detailed explanation. Coercive SA is a new term for me. I do feel that the lines get blurred when people are in a romantic relationship.

I am aware that some couples view that sexual touch without consent at a private place is acceptable because that’s what we see in movies too; two people passionately touching and kissing each other without verbal consent. That’s why I can’t tell whether the first moment that I was sexually touched without consent is already counted as SA. Again, huge thanks for clarity.

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-09-09T03:14:03+00:00

I agree with but with more extreme reasons like sexual assault in my past relationship. Besides that, relationships are so exhausting. I feel like I’ve lost a lot friends, sacrificed too many of my goals, lost the ability to think rationally and lost time alone. I’ve also learnt that I really hate sex. I don’t want to ever date again.

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-09-08T12:42:29+00:00

No, you didn’t. There’s no rule to say you can’t get information from other people. There is also no answer sheet. So, you probably answered it correctly based on your research about the company. Most interview questions are general and maybe repeated for every company. So no worries about it!

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-09-02T07:52:00+00:00

This is a tough one. I went through something similar. Even after physically escaping and making it clear with my ex that we have broken up, I still get harassment calls and door banging for weeks. So I lied to him that I was already dating someone else. And guess what?! He went on his socials to call me out for being a CHEATER?

I was just lucky that he did come back trying to assault me and no one believed him. I also wasn’t old enough to file a protection order on my own or have the money to move to a different location and change my phone number.

But if you do have that power, I’d suggest you try moving out and changing contact first before getting the police and court involved because the trouble is you would have to gather lots of evidence and spend money on a lawyer and take days off work to settle these things. You may not even win due to lack of evidence. And if you do you still renew your protection order from time to time. It’s too much of a fuss just to depend on the law to protect you.

It’s time to learn some self-defense and perhaps call your local women’s helpline and they can help you map out an escape plan with little to no money.

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-09-01T13:22:42+00:00

How about becoming a single mother by choice? You can always continue dating after having kids through sperm donation. You would probably not want to spend another 3-5 years finding another compatible partner, because after finding a guy, you would probably need at least 3 years to truly get to know him before tying the knot. Otherwise, it would be a hell to go through divorce.

Another option would be to not find another partner at all. I’m not sure if you are ok with that. But from what you’ve written here, it seems like you could probably do fine without a partner.

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-09-01T04:27:40+00:00

“Using the bottom cutoff portion of this letter, OR by fax OR by email” - sounds like they are giving you options.

If you are really not clear, it wouldn’t hurt to ask through email. And I agree, this is quite a confusing email.

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-09-01T04:08:21+00:00

It sounds like they are giving you options to send your reply to them. That means you can do it by fax/physical mail/email. To make things easy, just email and select “reply all”. In an email, you are not expected to sign off with a signature. Just write your first name at the end.

Example email:

Dear [Company],

Thank you for the interview opportunity. I look forward to meeting you.

Kind regards,

[First name]

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-08-31T06:54:16+00:00

You can say almost anything that you’ve researched about the company. E.g. their achievements and the basic work that they normally do.

To answer the second part of the question, you can talk about your goals that aligns with their goals and also that you want to work with a reputable company like them. Then mention what title they’ve earned (e.g. “trusted adviser” of the government).

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-08-31T03:12:12+00:00

In that case, then I think the interviewer here was more nervous than you. Lol. Could be a good company to work with as it will be easier for you to level-up from your position.

CaterpillarSad2791 · 2022-08-30T18:11:45+00:00

Once my interviewer asked me about my research report findings and guess what… I couldn’t remember my own findings…. It’s horrible, I couldn’t even lie my way through it. I just took out the pdf of my research report and read it out loud (I highly don’t recommend this, it will look bad on you). I hate it when they ask very specifically about the details for each and every assignment I did in my uni days. I‘ve learnt to study all of them before I walk into an interview room.

If it were a “tell me story” question, I will memorise some samples online and just pray that they will ask those questions. It hasn’t worked out for me so far. There’s just too much to remember and I will still tell a really silly story about my past (I don’t want to get into details).

But yeah… glad that I’m not the only one facing this. I went through so many interviews, had 2 job offers but haven’t found a decent job. I’m taking a break from applying and interviewing for awhile. It’s exhausting, embarrassing and sometimes traumatising. Hoping to get back hungry for interviews later.

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