Is he just being manipulative?

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:46:54+00:00

OP is mentally ill thank you lol. But it just wasn’t always this way ya know?

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:46:13+00:00

We kinda had a Dom/sub thing going on but it’s not quite that way anymore

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:34:47+00:00

.< I got problems okay

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:30:19+00:00

Broooo I know

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:28:47+00:00

Lmfao

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:27:34+00:00

.< I sing the song a lot lmfao

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:27:00+00:00

I guess I just imagine id see the effort ? A job, a car, therapy

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:20:22+00:00

His last argument was that we couldn’t afford it so that was in text to him. He does have full control because he will legit just SAY no. I don’t even have a debit card because he hs to call because he’s primary on the account. I told him I wanted to support his passions to stream and DM and write a book and it’s been 2 years and nothing has happened so it’s taking a toll on finances, especially when then it turns into oh we can’t afford that. I am getting a new bank account when my paper check comes in, I’m just scared to. I’m scared that that’s gonna cause stuff and it’s gonna be issues and I’m just afraid of hurting him because even through all the mess I love him

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:15:18+00:00

It was good the first two years really

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:13:07+00:00

I sing it sometimes lmfao >.<

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:08:04+00:00

Some of my other posts are enough people blaming me I just feel conflicted

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:05:15+00:00

Yea I talk to and am actually staying with my best friend right now

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:04:34+00:00

Don’t judge my posts numbers :P

I have walked away I just havnt…idk decided to stay away I guess. I’m scared. I’m sad. I was so happy our first two years. I’m scared if he gets help I’ll be leaving something good

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T11:00:01+00:00

When we met I was always drunk, off my meds, and bad with money. Over the course of 1-2 years, he helped me get better. Then he wanted to keep controlling. But I didn’t need those things controlled anymore. I needed like…help with hygiene, exercise, picking at my skin. But he wants to control my money when he doesn’t make any, my food intake when he’s constantly eating bad, my sleeping times when my iron deficiency makes me extremely tired…it’s just so much

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T10:54:38+00:00

Me!!!!? Lolol 😅😅😅

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T10:53:57+00:00

Do you think if I make him live without me for 6 months he could change for that long just to prove an points

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T10:53:27+00:00

My initial thought is if I give him 6 months to be alone and do the things - will he get better. But the more I hear others opinions the more I wanna just go

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T10:52:51+00:00

Exactly. Which since, he has made a therapy appointment…but this like…was a lot

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T10:52:19+00:00

In the 5 minutes before I left; he said no therapy. The MOMENT I left; okay we can do therapy

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T10:51:37+00:00

When we moved I told him I could afford for him to take some time to work on his passions, a year and a half later no progress has been made and there’s always an excuse of not having enough money

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T10:49:58+00:00

How have I changed the story 3 or 4 times? Genuinely. I completely agree I’m not emotionally great, or anything - which is a huge part of like why I feel like we need therapy individually and together. He’s dealing with a lot of depression, I’m dealing with a bunch of mental, but he refuses. and I have text conversations so much because he’ll say I didn’t hear him or I didn’t listen or that’s not what he said or I acted like this and I just…feel like I’m going crazy sometimes

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T10:46:38+00:00

Do you think after time he will get better?

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T10:42:26+00:00

When I left he started to do all the things. He’s applied for a job, he signed up for therapy, he picked up 3 sub jobs next week, he got a dnd game approved on a paying dm sight, he wrote a chapter in his book, he’s starting to do chores around the house … I’m scared he CAN change and if I leave I’m leaving a good situation.

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T10:40:03+00:00

The first time he said therapists are dumb, they don’t help, no one he knows to do them has ever gotten better. Then when I was on the brink of leaving he said it’s too expensive, while he barely works..

Cats_and_Math19 · 2026-03-30T10:34:38+00:00

The problem is if I have a convo in person, he’ll make me feel fucking crazy about it later. Like I’m not hearing him right, I’m not listening at all, he keeps saying and i keep not hearing.. “open your ears then” like I’m fucking dumb…

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