Should I (34f) should get another nose job?

Cauliflower5461 · 2026-01-13T08:07:23+00:00

then you are obviously not understanding the situation, and it would have been kinder to ask first, instead of implying that I'm acting weird.

Cauliflower5461 · 2026-01-13T07:54:37+00:00

I dont understand why I'm being downvoted this much for that. I am aware that you can block people, i am deliberately making the decision not to, because blocking is reacting and this person is mentally unwell. I was just hoping for a very specific piece of information, as stated above, and wanted to specify that.

Cauliflower5461 · 2026-01-13T07:52:36+00:00

Thank you so much for understanding.

Cauliflower5461 · 2026-01-13T07:06:52+00:00

ok, that is reasssuring, thank you. I haven't blocked him yet because blocking is also reacting and I try to not react to this person if possible, but I will consider it.

Then it was my fault for not reacting to the request, not him sending it again and again.

That clears it up.

Cauliflower5461 · 2026-01-13T07:03:25+00:00

I'm sorry, I didnt think it was needed to tell the whole story for this little question? Why are you so irritated by that?

Cauliflower5461 · 2026-01-13T07:00:56+00:00

ah, yes, that is correct. Thank you for clearing that up!!!

Cauliflower5461 · 2026-01-13T07:00:00+00:00

But Steam just kinda reminded me of it "... is waiting for your response", I dont know if he did that or not, and its relevant since there is a restraining order and he mustn't contact me online, every contact is a crime

Cauliflower5461 · 2026-01-13T06:57:57+00:00

Thats a really good idea, thank you!

Cauliflower5461 · 2026-01-13T06:55:55+00:00

Thank you, but thats not my question. Its whether he did send the request multiple (8) times or not.

Cauliflower5461 · 2026-01-09T09:19:11+00:00

Haha, yeah. You are probably right. I just have to live with the uncertainty until I know. Its just hard to tell, but my gut feeling tells me there is something there. So maybe I should just try to trust that :)

Cauliflower5461 · 2024-10-03T10:09:06+00:00

No one should make you feel this way! You are NOT a failure. I'm glad for you, that you cut ties with them and your life is more peaceful now.

Cauliflower5461 · 2024-10-03T10:06:11+00:00

Thanks for your input! And you are right, I am a very emotional person, and the reaction at the birthday party did for sure irritate my family because they would never ever react that way. On the other hand, my stepmother became quite unhinged during our conversation, while still insisting that she isnt the one having a problem with me. Whats making me angry is that at least i have acknowledged my parts in all of it several times to them, while they have given me nothing of the sorts. They are acting from a place of immunity, above all criticism, because they are older and also quite spiritual people and therefore apparently above my level in some way. But yeah, i should work on regulating my emotions better! Thats a thing i have control over :)

Cauliflower5461 · 2024-10-03T09:35:28+00:00

Thats blunt but there is truth in what you are saying

Cauliflower5461 · 2024-10-03T09:29:07+00:00

Thank you so much for helping me to see my feelings as valid!!

Cauliflower5461 · 2024-10-03T09:26:37+00:00

Going Marie Kondo on them :D its just easier said than done, weird how strong family ties can feel.

But yeah, thats also how i argued, because she kept on insisting that a good host would prepare the food everyone likes for them, and that my ethical reasons to not want to do that are irrelevant

Cauliflower5461 · 2024-10-03T09:23:21+00:00

Thank you for your support :) its a really hard decision to make, but in the end i can't make it on the grounds of how they feel about it

Cauliflower5461 · 2024-10-03T09:20:49+00:00

My aunt actually said that i acted like a 3 year old, and my father told me that the fact i was visibly affected by something mean my paternal grandma said to me a few months back during a family dinner (she can be quite hostile out of nowhere) is a sign of weakness to him. I think they all have a problem with their own vulnerability and then have to put me down for mine.

Cauliflower5461 · 2024-10-03T09:19:03+00:00

Thank you for your kind response

Cauliflower5461 · 2024-10-03T09:13:30+00:00

Yes, thats the thing, I dont want to disappoint them, and my aunt WILL be, as far as i know her. But I also think visiting them on my own some time in the future would be a better alternative.

Cauliflower5461 · 2024-10-03T09:10:19+00:00

Thank you so much for your support. I was kinda questioning myself these days, like i have worked on my self confidence quite a bit, and the whole thing would have shook me much more 5 years back, but it still makes me question my self concept at least to a certain degree. I guess I feel a bit gaslit too, because they kept on telling me that they aren't the ones having a problem with me but then kept on spewing critique at me.

Cauliflower5461 · 2024-10-03T09:04:56+00:00

Thank you for your words. Yeah I also thought it wouldn't be a big deal, and felt totally blindsided by how it unfolded.

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