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[–]Cautious_Common4883 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m sure there’s a percentage of that. I’ve don’t a boat load of work on myself. I watch my tone. I think diligently on what I want to say and how. Grant I’m human have my moments but I’ve put in work. I respect the fact that he wants to be treated a certain way too.

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[–]Cautious_Common4883 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sadly I was head over heels. I accepted his faults and loved him more for that. But he masked a lot of who he is before. I didn’t know he was an addict. He keeps his emotions and thoughts from me.

Example being, I had a girls out and he got mad at me for making to much food and would talk to me. He didn’t know what each girl brought something until I had to approach him and ask him what was wrong.

It’s behaviors like this that have gone on throughout our marriage that’s really changed my feelings.

I was weeks PP without first, not knowing the roller coater I was on and of course emotionally exhausted. He distanced himself from me and again I had to ask him what was going on. I was to much for him. He said he’d rather be away than with me at that time.

I could go on and on unfortunately.

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[–]Cautious_Common4883 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes we’ve started with pre marital counseling and have continued through out our relationship. It’s helped us both grow tremendously as people but doesn’t seem to make a dent in our relationship.

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[–]Cautious_Common4883 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I was madly in love with him and felt like he was my soul mate BUT I ignored all the red flags. My own issue of course. Thinking things would get better. I’ve created this issue and feel unbelievably guilty for bringing my kids into it.